We don’t need to rehash the particulars of the intense conversations many black women engaged in last week. Actually, the past 6-7 weeks have served as the defining moment when African-American (AA) women in particular made public declarations of how they view themselves and each other in such a derogatory way. After four years of advocacy calling for complete separation from dangerous people, places and practices there’s nothing new left to say.
THRIVE OR DIE – IT’S YOUR ONLY OPTION
Despite my desire for more women to choose a lifestyle and identity that benefits them, it is up to each individual woman. I will not be silent while those women who wrap themselves in self-martyrdom and sacrifice at the altar of black community dysfunction try to redefine the positioning for all of us.
They don’t speak for me and I don’t speak for them and that’s okay.
Well it’s not really okay, but I say Godspeed because everyone gets the life they expect. It’s not easy standing up to bullies, deniers and the ultimate crabs in a barrel. Even now some black women watched the Oprah interview with Whitney Houston’s daughter last night, heard her sister-in-law say she couldn’t confirm whether Bobby Brown had introduced Whitney to drugs and twisted that into “proof” he was “innocent”.
Of course the issue with Houston wasn’t about drug experimentation, but overwhelming negative influences. People still want to dispute whether Houston’s life (and that of her daughter) improved or got flushed down the toilet after she married Brown? Come on!
That line of thinking (including blaming white male racists and insisting a 13 year-old ‘asked for it’) led two separate juries of mostly black women to acquit both OJ and R. Kelly years apart. This, like any of the hundreds of examples we’ve discussed at the legitimate BWE forums displays the glaring differences between those black women who chose life-building mentalities reinforced by their actions and the majority of anti-BW behavior practiced by the black masses. There will never be a “consensus” about this because compromise = death.
Most AA women are literally killing themselves – and will take as many other women and girls with them. Hence the terrorism analogy. They want their dogma (of lesser-than) accepted at pain of death. YOURS.
Meanwhile many other women, non-AA and non-black alike are focused on coming together to IMPROVE themselves and their standing. The third Women In The World Conference was held this weekend. This is what functioning women do with their time, energy and resources.
Never heard of it? Maybe that’s because you’re spending all of yours scratchin’ and (not) survivin’ in Blackistan (thanks Jae for that apt description). Integrating with the rest of the world is next to impossible when you’re behind enemy lines – by choice.
Fortunately, some younger black women are securing brighter futures for themselves, where their hopes and dreams can be fulfilled. Some women chose to tie anvils around their ankles. Some women will attach wings so they can fly.