No Girl Should Ever Forget That She Doesn’t Need Anyone Who Doesn’t Need Her
LESSONS IN TRUE ALLIES
I think this is going to be a companion series to Inspirational Quotes. Some of you may be wondering why I chose a photo of Marilyn Monroe with another woman. That woman is Ella Fitzgerald! They were friends. Here’s what Ella had to say about their relationship:
“I owe Marilyn Monroe a real debt…it was because of her that I played the Mocambo, a very popular nightclub in the ’50s. She personally called the owner of the Mocambo, and told him she wanted me booked immediately, and if he would do it, she would take a front table every night. She told him – and it was true, due to Marilyn’s superstar status – that the press would go wild. The owner said yes, and Marilyn was there, front table, every night. The press went overboard. After that, I never had to play a small jazz club again. She was an unusual woman – a little ahead of her times. And she didn’t know it.”
Marilyn didn’t have to lift a finger to help Ella. This was the 1950′s and discrimination was openly sanctioned. She also had her own demons to battle. It didn’t cost her anything to assist Ella though. Ella showed proper gratitude in acknowledging the help. This is a wonderful example of how women can come together to dilute the intersection of racism and sexism.
Since there is still an obstinate subset of DYSFUNCTIONAL MALE-IDENTIFIED women of ALL RACES and ethnicities who value male attention more than cultivating women friendships, the need to find and uproot the weeds choking the life out of the garden is still important.
I don’t consider myself a relationship know-it-all by any means, but a quick observation of the abject CLUELESSNESS from many women shows me I still recognize and know how to use basic COMMON SENSE.
SOME of you stubbornly REFUSE to be quiet, show courtesy or respect sound advice. Clearly you don’t have it in your personal lives OFFLINE, so you want to PISS all over those who take the time to offer it online.
Please feel free to go….somewhere else with your FOOLISHNESS. You do things your way. We’ll do things ours. We’re busy seeking out women and TRUE allies who are elevating each other.
One truism about ALL men is this:
1. The Higher-Functioning Men WILL TEST YOU. I don’t refer to them as “Good Men/Good Catches” because NO MAN IS GOOD ENOUGH until he PROVES himself WORTHY over an extended period of time.
WOMEN ARE THE PRIZE! Of course that means YOU have to use your CHARM OFFENSIVE and catch a clue. I’ve provided numerous resources over hundreds of posts to get you started.
2. The LESSER-THANS, LEECHES and THROW-HIM-AWAYS will always insist you compromise yourself in bigger and bigger ways. They get off on watching you diminish yourselves. You won’t get their affection or love because they don’t respect you. They will manipulate you – if you lack confidence in establishing boundaries. When the gloves come off – watch out!
Oh and don’t assume I’m talking about lower-class males alone. There are plenty of educated, attractive, monied, well-spoken jerks out there. They might be a boy-next-door with one woman and a sadist with another.
It really depends on you.
And before you complain about that being a burden, consider the alternative where you have no say in choosing a mate and no autonomy in the relationship. The ability to shape relationships at this level of freedom is unprecedented for most women. Let’s use sound judgement and think generationally.
I’m reposting this video that I added to Friday’s post because it’s worth a second look. Consider who you offer loyalty to and why.
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