Womanly Words Of Wisdom From Marilyn Monroe

No Girl Should Ever Forget That She Doesn’t Need
Anyone Who Doesn’t Need Her

LESSONS IN TRUE ALLIES

I think this is going to be a companion series to Inspirational Quotes. Some of you may be wondering why I chose a photo of Marilyn Monroe with another woman. That woman is Ella Fitzgerald! They were friends. Here’s what Ella had to say about their relationship:

I owe Marilyn Monroe a real debt…it was because of her that I played the Mocambo, a very popular nightclub in the ’50s. She personally called the owner of the Mocambo, and told him she wanted me booked immediately, and if he would do it, she would take a front table every night. She told him – and it was true, due to Marilyn’s superstar status – that the press would go wild. The owner said yes, and Marilyn was there, front table, every night. The press went overboard. After that, I never had to play a small jazz club again. She was an unusual woman – a little ahead of her times. And she didn’t know it.

Marilyn didn’t have to lift a finger to help Ella. This was the 1950’s and discrimination was openly sanctioned. She also had her own demons to battle. It didn’t cost her anything to assist Ella though. Ella showed proper gratitude in acknowledging the help. This is a wonderful example of how women can come together to dilute the intersection of racism and sexism.

Since there is still an obstinate subset of DYSFUNCTIONAL MALE-IDENTIFIED women of ALL RACES and ethnicities who value male attention more than cultivating women friendships, the need to find and uproot the weeds choking the life out of the garden is still important.

I don’t consider myself a relationship know-it-all by any means, but a quick observation of the abject CLUELESSNESS from many women shows me I still recognize and know how to use basic COMMON SENSE.

SOME of you stubbornly REFUSE to be quiet, show courtesy or respect sound advice. Clearly you don’t have it in your personal lives OFFLINE, so you want to PISS all over those who take the time to offer it online.

Please feel free to go….somewhere else with your FOOLISHNESS. You do things your way. We’ll do things ours. We’re busy seeking out women and TRUE allies who are elevating each other.

One truism about ALL men is this:

1. The Higher-Functioning Men WILL TEST YOU. I don’t refer to them as “Good Men/Good Catches” because NO MAN IS GOOD ENOUGH until he PROVES himself WORTHY over an extended period of time.

WOMEN ARE THE PRIZE! Of course that means YOU have to use your CHARM OFFENSIVE and catch a clue. I’ve provided numerous resources over hundreds of posts to get you started.

2. The LESSER-THANS, LEECHES and THROW-HIM-AWAYS will always insist you compromise yourself in bigger and bigger ways. They get off on watching you diminish yourselves. You won’t get their affection or love because they don’t respect you. They will manipulate you – if you lack confidence in establishing boundaries. When the gloves come off – watch out!

Oh and don’t assume I’m talking about lower-class males alone. There are plenty of educated, attractive, monied, well-spoken jerks out there. They might be a boy-next-door with one woman and a sadist with another.

It really depends on you.

And before you complain about that being a burden, consider the alternative where you have no say in choosing a mate and no autonomy in the relationship. The ability to shape relationships at this level of freedom is unprecedented for most women.  Let’s use sound judgement and think generationally.

I’m reposting this video that I added to Friday’s post because it’s worth a second look. Consider who you offer loyalty to and why.

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If you enjoyed this post check out – Womanly Words Of Wisdom From Zsa Zsa Gabor

15 Replies to “Womanly Words Of Wisdom From Marilyn Monroe”

  1. I always did love Marilyn Monroe, she was much more intelligent than she's given credit for. Thanks to this post, I found out that she was one of our allies.

  2. Here's another one. People definitely underestimated her.

    Women who seek to be equal with men lack ambition.

  3. Marilyn was very wise. Here's another one of her gems:

    I don’t mind living in a man’s world as long as I an be a woman in it.

  4. I love the quote from Marilyn Monroe and what she did for Ella Fitzgerald was quite courageous for her time. I always liked MM, know I know something very concrete about her that speaks to her character. and I agree with you Faith that it is a great example of how white privliegedwomne can demonstrate sisterhood with BW by doing something that dosen't benefit them or their image. very powerful.

    "NO MAN IS GOOD ENOUGH until he PROVES himself WORTHY over an extended period of time."

    Amen!

    1. You know I think more of us could be there for each other in little ways, where the cumulative benefits are vast without too much output.

    2. NO MAN IS GOOD ENOUGH until he PROVES himself WORTHY over a extended period of time……..SO TRUE!! remember that LADIES!! we have more to LOSE than they do…our foremothers TOLD US…but alas, we didnt listen

  5. seeing the pic of Marilyn and Ella makes me want to weep. There are so many black women who are 'too proud' to have accepted Marilyn's efforts. It's a shame that we deal with less racism in our lives than our foremothers, yet in some ways we're more racist than they were.

    1. Don't cry! I truly believe we can have all the resources we need if we do the work and keep seeking help and remain open and flexible. And not giving up!

  6. The point of evaluating and implementing these lifestyle strategies is to pass on acquired knowledge to younger women and girls, so they can avoid much of the strife and wasted opportunities that became the norm.

  7. Marilyn was a beautiful woman in many ways. It's unfortunate she endured much usury and abuse during her own lifetime. I appreciate the generational focus of BWE. I've always had that mindset. But, reading these blogs reminds me of why it is imperative to maintain such a focus and to stay true to making decisions that will be best for my descendants and not just convenient for today.

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