I want us to have particular conversations at this forum with a goal in mind. The only way women can strategize for their achievement and success is to first feel good about themselves. I want to remind you who you spend time with [be it media, people or unexamined ideologies] does have an impact.
Being given a great foundation through stable family ties certainly helps, but it doesn’t necessarily guarantee anything. I’ve come to believe we will have many moments to create opportunities for ourselves if we have the drive to do so. A person could have been born into every privilege, but die young. Or someone whom others have written off can turn their lives around completely.
I look at it as life balancing itself with a certain amount of gifts and obstacles to keep things interesting. Well, I hope so anyway! There’s a lot of joy a well as suffering in the world and we can only do but so much. In the West we have raised expectations and can make assumptions about things that are in fact [our way of life] privileges. Yet, no one can bestow awareness of perspectives by merely intellectualizing them.
I encourage you all to always think expansively and expose yourself to variety. It really does reshape you as a person and adds value to who you are. Insular people are boring and less evolved, as well as involved with creating a brighter future. I may also use examples of famous women and comment on specific things about them, but the overall purpose is not to focus on them. I’ve moved away from writing stand-alone posts critiquing certain movies [i.e. The Help] or articles reinforcing negative images of black women because there’s nothing new about it, there’s not going to be some galvanized response to it and worse of all, too many are complicit in supporting it. I’ll still comment in places because I’m aware of what’s going on and I abhor it, but ultimately these things can’t hold you back eternally. We have a higher power, a spiritual purpose and options we can utilize.
If we are not being effective, we are not using our power in ways that benefit us. If women feel they must make certain choices that actually diminish the quality of their lives we can look into that so that we learn what to change and avoid. You don’t have to walk through this world with a blindfold on, nor allow other people’s issues to derail your journey. This applies to my male readers who lurk here as well. If others have tapped into diminished capacity thinking and reinforce it that’s unfortunate, but unnecessary.
Some women forget they are a child of Light and don’t seek out or accept the best. They let fear and impatience rule and thus we can see that lack manifesting itself in their lives. If you refuse to believe that there’s an expansive universe with endless opportunities you are so limited. If God [insert your belief system] wants the best for us [which I believe to be true], why are we settling for scraps? We need to prep our minds in ways others have failed to do so.
Ok, this is a lot of philosophical hoo-ha. That’s just me. Let’s get down to practical solutions. After the fear, the anger and doubt, we must keep moving until we find our “sweet spot”. It isn’t easy! You don’t want to know what I’ve been through the past three years. I continue because there are really only two options: live or die. We may only have varying degrees of comfort through this process. The only thing that matters in the end are the results.
Here’s a great article on setting goals — BIG GOALS. This isn’t anything I haven’t discussed before, but I appreciate reading what others are doing. Be encouraged and go for it.
via Internet Independence, modified slightly by me
a) Set POWERFUL and ambitious goals [with deadlines]
b) Write them down [modify as needed]
c) Put them in the universe [get some help if you can]
And constantly take action.