Watch Tina Turner Discuss The Importance Of MARRIAGE, Her Career And Ambitions In Love and Life

This Tina Turner interview opens with a discussion about WHY MARRIAGE MATTERS. She mentions the legal and emotional benefits of why she tied the knot with her long-time love and letting go of the funk from her first marriage. VERY TELLING!!! Money, career, status, security, preparing for her golden years, not having to “worry” about anything, taking care of her children and knowing she can give back.  Everything a happy woman wants to be fulfilled. This is a must see conversation with many pearls of wisdom stated. Watch…and learn.

 

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I have to add a few thoughts, but I wanted the readers to digest the interview first. Firstly, the power of prayer is mentioned without the religious fanaticism I see expressed by women who use it as a shield to deflect their disempowerment.  Another observation is that Oprah is fascinated with focusing on the abuse Ms. Turner survived, whereas she is focused on having moved past it. While acknowledging it, she isn’t defined by it. It is clear that Tina Turner was always destined for greatness and the key factor I think we can learn from is that she believed it and held it close despite her upbringing and early life. She made the best of the options available to her and then took giant leaps forward. Also, some things I’ve observed is while both Oprah and Ms. Turner went through difficult traumas, Ms. Turner is clearly indifferent about painful aspects of her past because she’s resolved about them. Oprah is tethered to pain porn.

Hollywood may have tried to use Turner’s early history as cannon fodder for reinforcing “black women torment tales” but anyone with a lick of sense can see how happy she is, how well she takes care of herself, how amazing she looks and the boundaries she has in place. She isn’t a victim and doesn’t claim a downtrodden role.  Even when she’s acted in film projects, she’s portrayed ruthless, fearsome, conquering characters. Someone aptly described Oprah as “Woeprah” on Facebook and after I chuckled, I’ve ruefully observed how she just took a starring role in an inaccurate, degrading account of the life of former White House Butler Eugene Allen, where Mrs. Allen is portrayed as a drunken, promiscuous, cursing harlot that is an insult to the real-life woman and their family. And we’re supposed to be entertained by Tyler Perry Part 2 in the form of another black-woman hater like Lee Daniels? I don’t think so!!

I took notice of the way Ike Turner was described as being manipulative, controlling and having ambitions beyond his capacity. He recognized Tina could and would go further and I think that fueled his rage that was already there. It’s something many weak males display and why they lash out at women they view as their direct competition. We can guess how much of the howling about white racism is about thwarted desires to be a white male or in constant close proximity to one, so it’s easy to surmise that because black women can have that type of access and the rules of patriarchy requires males to compete against each other, not women that black males have a lot of vitriol towards black women for these very reasons.

Why one of the wealthiest women in the world would be attracted to MESS  (like The Butler) is very telling. And yes, Maya Angelou has co-signed this nonsense as well. Which is why supporting such a movie is as much as a values assessment as anything and a study in those who jockey for individual power grabs at the expense of community uplift.  The contrast between those who engage in that and the life Ms. Turner crafted for herself has never been more apparent. I’d chose the shining examples of Ms. Turner’s life any day. It’s an option available to ALL of us.

17 comments to Watch Tina Turner Discuss The Importance Of MARRIAGE, Her Career And Ambitions In Love and Life

  • KarenR

    This is an excellent post!!! For the life of me, I can't understand why the Director of "The Butler" chose to characterize the wife as an alcoholic. I have not read the Washington Post article that highlighted the life of Mr. Allen, nor have I read the book or watched the movie (won't be) but from other media accounts they were a very dignified couple -what we might lovingly call "Bourgeois." I can't for the life of me understand why Oprah would choose to play this sort of part.

    Anyway…I watched the interview with Tina Turner and her new husband. POWERFUL!!! He seemed very protective of Tina and I loved how he strongly but lovingly suggested that the interview be the last time she talk about the abuse she endured with Ike.
    The comparison you made between Oprah and Tina is striking. Tina Turner has lived her life on her terms and she would never be caught playing such a role.

  • taylor sara

    OMG Faith! That review was dead on! Could not have said it better myself. But as far as Maya is concerned, I think she's a wandering soul without a clue. She is the same one a few years ago telling bw to "Hug a thug!" I pretty much knew then that both her moral compass, and faculties had been compromised…

  • Evelyn

    "I have to add a few thoughts, but I wanted the readers to digest the interview first. Firstly, the power of prayer is mentioned without the religious fanaticism I see expressed by women who use it as a shield to deflect their disempowerment. Another observation is that Oprah is fascinated with focusing on the abuse Ms. Turner survived, whereas she is focused on having moved past it. While acknowledging it, she isn’t defined by it. It is clear that Tina Turner was always destined for greatness and the key factor I think we can learn from is that she believed it and held it close despite her upbringing and early life. She made the best of the options available to her and then took giant leaps forward. Also, some things I’ve observed is while both Oprah and Ms. Turner went through difficult traumas, Ms. Turner is clearly indifferent about painful aspects of her past because she’s resolved about them. Oprah is tethered to pain porn."

    All of this. As I mature, I'm learning that you can tell a lot about a person by looking at the person's interests. For example, Oprah's talk show and now OWN runs a lot of misery-themed programming, and it's no wonder because Oprah clearly is unwilling to give her spirit a makeover -- never mind that today she's arguably in the best position as a black woman to do so. Tina is out there getting married, being glorious, living in Europe, retiring in comfort, free as a bird. She's got no time or space in her mind to dwell on her awful past because the present is crowding that out -- by Tina's choice. If Oprah could only apply a smidgen of the shrewdness she used to build her empire to working on abandoning her demons, I swear she'd be a force to reckon with.

  • L, Higgin

    I am glad "Tina Turner" is enjoying her life as for "Oprah" I truly believe she dislike Ms Turner.

  • Shaylah

    I liked how Mrs. Tina Turner-Bach and is so living her life. This is the first I can say that Tina has a content look on her face. The reason she wants to retire because when you have relationships in your life, you do want to spend time with your spouse or significant other. They help relieve stress and they make you a better because they bring balance to your life. The other day my father and I was talking and he was saying how successful Oprah is because she stayed away from white men or non-black men. Maybe professional she is successful, but to not have someone to share your life with, I don't care how much money you have we are social beings and when it is all said and done, you want someone who is there to comfort and make you feel good. Money is good but it does not take the place of have a relationship to make your life easier because you have someone to comfort you in those times of need. I love how Tina never ages. Bless her heart. Tina has clearly moved on with her life and she is definitely living well and enjoying the journey. Her and her husband who has aged well by the way.

  • Nia-Maya

    Hi Faith -- I watched the interview and I truly enjoyed this article too! What Tina kept stressing was that she "stayed the course". She was being led and humbly followed the path (that had been created for HER) no matter where it led or whom it involved. Tina represents what Shakespeare's axiom "To thine own self be true" looks like in real human flesh.

    Also, anyone who sees "The Butler" MUST understand that it was INSPIRED by a true story but it is not a true biography. It has dramatic licensing written ALL over it. Even Charles Allen (the son) commented, when asked by Oprah about the movie, "Well, you threw my mother under the bus". Another tidbit -- the Allen's only had one son not two as depicted in the movie.

  • Excellent post Faith! I really enjoyed this article as it has served as the extra nudge I needed to run on with my goals and not look back.

  • pearl

    Hmmm. I think I’m going to get the book that is based on “The Butler” movie. That would be a way better choice. It would be accurate then. I don’t think inaccuracies are a bad thing with movie adaptations of books, it happens all the time. But it seems like they completely disrespected the family from what you say. I haven’t seen though, and won’t be seeing.

    I don’t know why Maya Angelou would sign on for something that is inaccurate and disrespectful. But I think she was in Chris Rock’s “Good Hair”.. soo.

  • Pertrice

    Thank you for such a beautiful post. This is Lady Wisdom in human flesh. I laughed at Oprah's amazed expressions when Tina basically said she was tired of working and was happy to be retired. Tina had a life plan and she lived all of it. Why shouldn't she get a chance to rest and enjoy her life. What a blessing! I will be studying this interview because it provides many lessons about thriving and not just surviving in life.