This Tina Turner interview opens with a discussion about WHY MARRIAGE MATTERS. She mentions the legal and emotional benefits of why she tied the knot with her long-time love and letting go of the funk from her first marriage. VERY TELLING!!! Money, career, status, security, preparing for her golden years, not having to “worry” about anything, taking care of her children and knowing she can give back. Everything a happy woman wants to be fulfilled. This is a must see conversation with many pearls of wisdom stated. Watch…and learn.
I have to add a few thoughts, but I wanted the readers to digest the interview first. Firstly, the power of prayer is mentioned without the religious fanaticism I see expressed by women who use it as a shield to deflect their disempowerment. Another observation is that Oprah is fascinated with focusing on the abuse Ms. Turner survived, whereas she is focused on having moved past it. While acknowledging it, she isn’t defined by it. It is clear that Tina Turner was always destined for greatness and the key factor I think we can learn from is that she believed it and held it close despite her upbringing and early life. She made the best of the options available to her and then took giant leaps forward. Also, some things I’ve observed is while both Oprah and Ms. Turner went through difficult traumas, Ms. Turner is clearly indifferent about painful aspects of her past because she’s resolved about them. Oprah is tethered to pain porn.
Hollywood may have tried to use Turner’s early history as cannon fodder for reinforcing “black women torment tales” but anyone with a lick of sense can see how happy she is, how well she takes care of herself, how amazing she looks and the boundaries she has in place. She isn’t a victim and doesn’t claim a downtrodden role. Even when she’s acted in film projects, she’s portrayed ruthless, fearsome, conquering characters. Someone aptly described Oprah as “Woeprah” on Facebook and after I chuckled, I’ve ruefully observed how she just took a starring role in an inaccurate, degrading account of the life of former White House Butler Eugene Allen, where Mrs. Allen is portrayed as a drunken, promiscuous, cursing harlot that is an insult to the real-life woman and their family. And we’re supposed to be entertained by Tyler Perry Part 2 in the form of another black-woman hater like Lee Daniels? I don’t think so!!
I took notice of the way Ike Turner was described as being manipulative, controlling and having ambitions beyond his capacity. He recognized Tina could and would go further and I think that fueled his rage that was already there. It’s something many weak males display and why they lash out at women they view as their direct competition. We can guess how much of the howling about white racism is about thwarted desires to be a white male or in constant close proximity to one, so it’s easy to surmise that because black women can have that type of access and the rules of patriarchy requires males to compete against each other, not women that black males have a lot of vitriol towards black women for these very reasons.
Why one of the wealthiest women in the world would be attracted to MESS (like The Butler) is very telling. And yes, Maya Angelou has co-signed this nonsense as well. Which is why supporting such a movie is as much as a values assessment as anything and a study in those who jockey for individual power grabs at the expense of community uplift. The contrast between those who engage in that and the life Ms. Turner crafted for herself has never been more apparent. I’d chose the shining examples of Ms. Turner’s life any day. It’s an option available to ALL of us.