There is…a myth about America to which we are clinging which has nothing to do with the lives we lead…this collision between one’s image of oneself and what one actually is is always very painful and there are two things you can do about it, you can meet the collision head-on and try and become what you really are or you can retreat and try to remain what you thought you were, which is a fantasy, in which you will certainly perish.
James Baldwin – Nobody Knows My Name
I’d like to amend one aspect to this quotation. If we try to remain what others would like us to be – which most likely diminishes our full potential – it won’t satisfy them but it will destroy us. It’s one thing to find a minimum comfort level in life. Some people are better suited as employees instead of entrepreneurs. Everyone isn’t trying to aim for the sun.
Some people have an inkling they are inherently different in aptitude, outlook, identity and perspective but may not be in a position to explore those options safely. Or they may think if they ignore it, they can live without specific conflicts.
If you do follow your bliss, you put yourself on a kind of track that has been there all the while waiting for you, and the life you ought to be living is the one you are living. When you can see that, you begin to meet people who are in the field of your bliss, and they open the doors to you. I say, follow your bliss and don’t be afraid, and doors will open where you didn’t know they were going to be. If you follow your bliss, doors will open for you that wouldn’t have opened for anyone else.
– Joseph Campbell
There’s a higher long-term cost to denying who we are or people-pleasing dysfunction. When we adopt and apply new mentalities it takes us on a different path than many may be willing or able to choose for themselves, but the rewards far outweigh the initial challenges. I was reading Sister Can’t Fly On One Wing which says so much.