Quick & Easy Advice On Male Discernment

As seen on my Facebook feed. I can’t make out the name from the photo of the slide, but whoever you are – thanks!!! This is too funny but OH SO TRUE!

Evaluating Men For Alliances & Marriage Series #16: When A Man Talks About Your Relationship A Certain Way It's A Good Thing

I just had to do a quick post reshuffling when the scans for the June issue of US GQ magazine appeared on several Michael Fassbender fan sites yesterday. So, while we’ll be discussing him as the overall example for this post, this isn’t really about him. Or any male for that matter. This is […]

If You're An Ally Of Black Women You Had Better Go Over EVERYTHING With DISCERNMENT Before Supporting ANYTHING!

Why It’s Important To Recognize When Images Used To Evoke Certain Emotions Can Manipulate You

President Obama sitting on the bus where Rosa Parks refused to change seats.


Evaluating Men For Alliances & Marriage Series #4: Common Values Trumps Race


Now the regular readers know how Skippy Gates gets the side eye from me over his obvious and deep-abiding hatred of his blackness. How ironic then for such an insightful interview to emerge for his Faces Of America series (PBS) with Malcolm Gladwell. Of course, that has to do with Gladwell being a […]

Evaluating Men For Alliances & Marriage Series #3: You Have To Be In It To Win It!


I was featured in an interview on interracial and international dating in Norway’s largest newspaper, Aftenposten. Overall, it was a good article. I would have liked a more intensive interview (a series would be nice!)  but it is what it is. A good message that featured attractive, intelligent black women who are willing […]

Evaluating Men For Alliances & Marriage Series #2: Femme Time Is Power


I know some of you may have read the Aftenposten article I was featured in. I’ve requested a native Norwegian speaker who’s also fluent in American English to translate and transcribe it for a better read and will feature it next week.


Today’s post isn’t going to be […]

What Evaluating Men For Alliances & Marriage Actually Means - Part 1

This is going to be an extensive post so take notes. I was perusing the archives of What Women Never Hear and found Mr. Guy’s series on Alpha males! I agree with most of what was offered as good advice. DON’T GET IT TWISTED!

This is one man’s opinion (and my […]

Just A Reminder Of How Men Who Appreciate Women Behave

I was reading an article from 2007 about why white males were drawn to black women the other day. The comments are worth their weight in gold! Three years later it has generated more than 6000 responses. People have had questions, trolls have tried to misdirect the focus but mostly the exchange has […]