Evaluating Men For Alliances & Marriage Series #14: Pop Quiz

This is a good time to review some of the lessons we’ve learned and how to continue putting new insights into action. At the very least, seeing behavior from its source in all it’s glory – and infamy – has been very useful.

EVAM #1

People who need people. Our relationships [...]

Before You Become A Bunny Boiler Like Alex From Fatal Attraction Stop & Think!

I re-watched the iconic film Fatal Attraction about two months ago on a Sunday afternoon. I’m assuming many of you reading this post have also seen it. You may wish to revisit this work, because it was brilliant yet very flawed. It would have never been made in today’s Hollywood. It is [...]

Becoming The Woman Who Gets That Guy (or Partner) Of Choice

Thanks to a reader for passing along this interview. It’s a little more than 20 minutes, so set aside some time to watch. I’m neither endorsing or rejecting the content, which discusses relationships [and business].

One key takeaway I picked up on is how we determine our priorities.  And the fact that we [...]

TRUST IN GOD & (WO)MAN

Gosh – this song still rocks! David Bowie’s Modern Love.

This 80’s classic is a song about being confident about love. Yes, despite the protagonist’s declaration of not “believing” in it, he still yields to Modern Love. I wonder if it’s biographical because that song was released before [...]

Note To Hipster Misogynists: Time To Put Your Big Girl Panties On!

Regular readers of this forum know I do not pull any punches calling out racism, sexism and self-culpability in order for women and girls to make sound choices for better living. While I have focused on what I’d term triage/emergency room life-sustaining measures related to black women, I have always been an advocate [...]

Evaluating Men For Alliances & Marriage Series #10: A Male Chauvinist Pig By Any Other Name Still Oinks!

There’s Nothing Casual About Casual Sex

True story. When I was in my early twenties I ran into a former HS classmate. We went on a few dates and while I appreciated his attention, I’d only allow him a kiss at the door. I wasn’t “sold” on him. That previous shared experience lent [...]

Inspirational Quotes: Della Reese

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“….Stumbling blocks become stepping stones that elevate you….” Rev. Dr. Della Reese-Lett

Since, I’ve unplugged the television – except for one or two shows and other non-productive media -  I have been listening to podcasts and watching videos from people who have shaped lives and lifestyles I admire and aspire to.  The one [...]

Evaluating Men For Alliances & Marriage Series #6: Who Said A “Whipped” Man Is A Bad Thing?

You know when I wrote this I hadn’t considered the proximity to the Wedding Of The Century – that would be one Prince William to Catherine Middleton, [Update - who are now His/Her Royal Highnesses the Duke & Duchess of Cambridge] but it’s a harmonious  synchronicity. By the time this post [...]

Evaluating Men For Alliances & Marriage Series #5: Angry Boys Need Not Apply!

Unless And Until He Puts A Ring On It You Are A Free Agent

Even then there are many men who say I Do but don’t Honor & Cherish. As the blog host of What Women Never Hear has stated, commitment doesn’t guarantee devotion. He’s of course writing about white society [...]

The “F” Word: Femininity v. Feminism Battle For Dominance In Women’s Lives

There’s a myriad of reasons why I don’t refer to myself as a feminist with a capital “F” in much the same way I refer to myself as a Christian with a little “c”. The politics get in the way of the practice. The message gets subverted. Other people who claim to know [...]