I want to use a few examples from recent media chatter to discuss the perils of women giving men passes for EVERYTHING!!! Men do NOT settle! Men go after jobs and partners they don’t deserve and are unqualified for ALL THE TIME. Extreme social conditioning amongst dysfunctional blacks browbeat black women into accepting crumbs and thinking it’s a meal. Enough!
Brookings Institution study on black women marrying down [they’re mostly focused on black male partners].
There is a growing trend in the United States towards assortative mating — a clunky phrase that refers to people’s tendency to choose spouses with similar educational attainment.
A media storm erupted in the Spring of 2013 when a Princeton alum, Susan A. Patton, president of the class of ‘77, offered the following advice to female students: “Here’s what nobody is telling you: Find a husband on campus before you graduate.” Writing in The Daily Princetonian, Patton went on: “You will never again be surrounded by this concentration of men who are worthy of you.”
One implication of assortative mating is greater household income inequality, since education is a strong — and strengthening — predictor of earnings. Households with two college graduates multiply that earnings power by two and are doing much better than households with less-educated couples.
Race is a factor in patterns of assortative mating. Black women face more difficult “marriage markets” than white women, given current rates of intermarriage according to work from University of Maryland sociologist Philip N. Cohen. Black women have the lowest rates of “marrying out” across race lines, in part because of racist attitudes [My reply: it’s the result of strict social conditioning amongst African Americans in particular] to inter-marriage.
One of the reasons I skip over a lot of these black people gossip story items is because people almost always are acting foolishly. I saw on my feeds that actress Tia Mowry-Hardrict had posted some “stay away from my man” nonsense to actress Keke Palmer ON TWITTER of all places and then deleted it. Palmer recently completed a project with Tia’s husband, actor Cory Hardrict.
Here’s Keke’s interview on Wendy Williams were she discusses her career, current project and clarifies the matter. She’s very bubbly and friendly, though likely nervous because she was talking fast at elevated levels.
Continue reading “Broke Bums Ain’t Cute”
Thank you to the awesome women who’ve connected via social media. So many reached out to offer kind words, encouragement and practical solutions when I wrote about an issue I’m trying to resolve.
On a separate (but cohesive) note, I’ve been exploring the connection between Mind/Body/Spirit but haven’t quite come to terms with what being “positive” really means (as opposed to magical thinking and shirking responsibility), how to create an effective and satisfactory spiritual practice and what I’ll call “Life Accessibility” to achieve a measurable happiness threshold.
Continue reading “The Process Of Building Faith, Hope, Love & Trust”
Some of my favorite examples of courage are of women adopting the affirmative for who they really are and acting on it. I was so glad to have watched the ABC talk show, The Revolution. While there was some controversy about the network replacing venerated soap operas with scripted tv shows, I liked the aspirational message encouraging women to realize their full potential. The Revolution is hosted by Tim Gunn, Ty Pennington, Harley Pasternak and MDs Tiffanie Davis and Jennifer Ashton. Due to ratings it will end its run in about two weeks, but it’s worth checking out.
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I just had to do a quick post reshuffling when the scans for the June issue of US GQ magazine appeared on several Michael Fassbender fan sites yesterday. So, while we’ll be discussing him as the overall example for this post, this isn’t really about him. Or any male for that matter. This is about you, women making smart choices that benefit them from a position of confidence.
The article is part of the media blitz for Prometheus. *While some of the accompanying photos are typically objectifying, it is a men’s magazine and par for the course (insert eye roll). The interview was quite good. Now onto the topic at hand.
Continue reading “Evaluating Men For Alliances & Marriage Series #16: When A Man Talks About Your Relationship A Certain Way It’s A Good Thing”
Why It’s Important To Recognize When Images Used To Evoke Certain Emotions Can Manipulate You
President Obama sitting on the bus where Rosa Parks refused to change seats.
Continue reading “If You’re An Ally Of Black Women You Had Better Go Over EVERYTHING With DISCERNMENT Before Supporting ANYTHING!”
Tragic. Pathetic. Unnecessary. Inevitable. More or less all I can do is sigh. We can have the conversation about substance abusers, destructive behavioral patterns and long-term consequences from internal damage. So why am I writing about Amy Winehouse dying at the age of 27?
I’m not exactly sure, but somewhere lies not just a typical cautionary tale. We got the Just Say No memo. Amy was a talent, but so are many people. She joins the 27 Club of dead musicians like Kurt Cobain and Jimi Hendrix. Nor am I fond of the aspects of cultural appropriation of African-American music traditions or being lauded for using them as a signature sound. When it comes to fame, some things can’t be controlled.
She was a great songwriter, whose lyrics touched me. She had a distinctive way of chronicling the experiences of younger women in a way that isn’t expressed in pop culture today. If you noticed the destructive messiness she fully displayed only emphasized how far off the mark she fell. She wasn’t a guy writing for a female artist — she was a woman speaking intelligibly to other women about us.
Continue reading “I Don’t Know What I Want To Say About The Death Of Amy Winehouse”
I ignored jumping too deeply into the feeding frenzy that resulted from the poison arrow lobbed at black women by the quack scientist and once-esteemed rag Psycho(logy) Today. They aimed..and missed! “We apologize…” so says, Editor-In-Chief Kaja Perina. Don’t you just feel the remorse? Nope? Me either! Well..this isn’t an Anita Baker song, so now you get the wrath and it’s time to pay the piper.
The reason why I tend to not spend more than a few minutes on reacting, protesting and being angry over such blatant and obvious attacks on black women is because those that engage in them often have a larger agenda at hand. Not to mention the fact that there are so many these days, it’s hard to keep one separate from the other. We have made huge inroads using the Interwebs to spread a message of empowerment and support that has been noticed. Hence the doubled efforts at defaming us. In this instance, people got worked up, petitions were signed, phone calls were made and that’s a good thing when compared to the utter silence that used to occur.
Continue reading “Psycho-Babble Today Sez They’re Sorry. So What!”
We interrupt this regularly scheduled blog post to take a moment to ask a serious question:
Are you really in support of black women?
ALL black women – including acknowledging the contributions of African-American women that pretty much everyone else benefits from and appropriates the Civil Rights model those women perfected for your group’s personal use?
Some may have wondered why I chose to post “lighter” fare the past few weeks. Well…of course if you are a discerning reader you already know subtle doesn’t equal lack of depth and adapting new mentalities can be employed in a variety of ways. Besides, I’m getting rather fed up at the poseurs and voyeurs who are mere passengers seeking an amusement ride.
Let me speak plainly now:
All the faux (or real) outrage in the world will disappear into the ether without a well-supported infrastructure.
Continue reading “How Serious Are You About Uplifting Black Women?”
** I reserve the right to change my mind later as always.
Of course this thoughtful post has been written by a “lay” person who is not an education administrator. Dave Troy is a WHY guy who resides in Baltimore, MD. I have been perusing his archives for several weeks trying to catch up because I really enjoy the way this man thinks (though I’m not a supporter of the Waiting For Superman/Michelle Rhee ilk). See my post AA Women Teachers Being Scapegoated. ** There was another link I put on Twitter as well that I need to include.
His blog post titled, How We Get Schools Wrong should be a template for those critical thinkers, innovators and concerned citizens (whether they have children or not) adopt a more proactive stance of overhauling this broken system. If that’s even possible.
We know how poorly US students fare against those from numerous foreign countries that are at an economic disadvantage but obviously put more care into learning. We know how many teachers – and I’m going to focus on black women because that’s my forum – are being scapegoated for the poor performance of students. We know there is a huge politicalization and power struggles between parents, administrators, the teacher’s union and other interested and/or disruptive parties sullying the waters. We also know because funding is so precarious right now many will continue to fall through the cracks.
What about the children?
Continue reading “Why I Think This Is One Of The Most Definitive Essays On Public Education”