If You’re A Same Gender-Loving Woman

You deserve the same rights and privileges of a loving abundant relationship without fear or shame!!

The National Enquirer put an attention-grabbing spin on what is (if true) an empowering moment in the life of one young woman living life on her terms. It’s not a shock and awe publicity stunt.

FORMER “Cosby Show” cutie RAVEN-SYMONE’s family is furious that she’s fallen in love with another woman and has moved the sexy model into her home, say sources.


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Those People Who Have A Problem With Fassy & Nicole Can Kick Rocks!

This is a great example for black women branching out! When I write about certain topics there’s usually a multi-tiered purpose with an immediate and long-range plan in mind. The main priority is to shift thinking and clear a space (mentally, physically, emotionally) to safely re-examine people, places and practices.

Sometimes it’s fun to live vicariously through other people. It’s part aspirational and part inspirational. We don’t need to know every aspect of another person’s life to key in on positive traits that provide a deeper meaning for ourselves. I think most folks are smart enough to separate fantasy from reality.

A purple unicorn shed a tear yesterday.

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You Can Be A Suicide Bomber For Blackistan Or Serve Your Best Interests Like Other Women Do

We don’t need to rehash the particulars of the intense conversations many black women engaged in last week. Actually, the past 6-7 weeks have served as the defining moment when African-American (AA) women in particular made public declarations of how they view themselves and each other in such a derogatory way. After four years of advocacy calling for complete separation from dangerous people, places and practices there’s nothing new left to say.


Despite my desire for more women to choose a lifestyle and identity that benefits them, it is up to each individual woman. I will not be silent while those women who wrap themselves in self-martyrdom and sacrifice at the altar of black community dysfunction try to redefine the positioning for all of us.

They don’t speak for me and I don’t speak for them and that’s okay.

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Not To Beat A Dead Horse, But Since These Propaganda Messages About Weight Keep Coming Up

We have to combat the lies, exaggeration and misrepresentation. I hope if you’ve been reading this forum for a significant length of time, you’re also paying attention to trends and the agenda of others in trying to shape them. Let me also be direct in reminding the black women readership that it serves the interest of not only the black community but in media outlets like the Washington Post (a frequent violator) to reinforce an inferiority meme that targets you specifically.

You can basically count on various media to promote some type of message about our hair, weight, marriage prospects amongst other topics to distort perception in creating lack. Or a false dichotomy to dull your sense of urgency in correctly judging a situation. There’s a report from WaPo and the Kaiser Family Foundation that would have everyone believing black women are Santa Claus. You know – fat and jolly. Oh wait, isn’t that Aunt Jemima…er Mammy? The sassy black girlfriend? The asexual Magic Negress full of sage advice for de sad white folk?

This is just a new way of springing the ‘Strong Black Woman’ trap!

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Warring Dichotomy Between Who We Are And How Others Want Us To Be

There is…a myth about America to which we are clinging which has nothing to do with the lives we lead…this collision between one’s image of oneself and what one actually is is always very painful and there are two things you can do about it, you can meet the collision head-on and try and become what you really are or you can retreat and try to remain what you thought you were, which is a fantasy, in which you will certainly perish.

James Baldwin – Nobody Knows My Name

I’d like to amend one aspect to this quotation. If we try to remain what others would like us to be – which most likely diminishes our full potential – it won’t satisfy them but it will destroy us. It’s one thing to find a minimum  comfort level in life. Some people are better suited as employees instead of entrepreneurs. Everyone isn’t trying to aim for the sun.

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Do You Enjoy Being A “Girl”?

Reading Melina’s work on deploying womanly arts has truly transformed my life. My journey began with her blog, “The Art Of Being Feminine” and continues with her premium site “Feminissima“. To say it was an eye-opener is an understatement. Where some women may be offended (???), I see the promise of a return to what makes us unique and powerful. It takes confidence to rely on our instincts and not let societal pressures, external agendas or inner doubts override what we know to be inherently true about ourselves.

Black women in particular have been maligned or bought into a distorted outlook of themselves. We need to stop being martyrs and fulfill our destinies. Every woman as an individual has her own particular set of strengths she should become familiar with and utilize.

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Your Right To Be Offended

I hope everyone had a great weekend. I was on a DVD bender watching movies and before I could blink it was Monday. You know sometimes, life happens and I am sometimes compelled to change the contents and times of scheduled posts. Which is interesting in itself as I can’t seem to take a blogging vacation.  I actually appreciate knowing there are things I am consistent with as discipline in one area can lend itself to many. Anyway, I truly enjoy writing and sharing the dynamics and intricacies of life with you.

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