Beware The Armchair Intelligentsia: Your Life Is Not A Dissertation!

Oh what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive ~ Sir Walter Scott, the Scottish historian and novelist created this quote that has been mistakenly attributed to Shakespeare from time to time.


Any discussion around black pathology and dysfunction (as with the continued heated push-back against No Wedding No Womb) is certain to bring out the denier/liar brigade. Some are playing both sides of the fence.   Some have been too lazy to even read the essays at the site and make overarching statements skewing information or add chaos with their emotional reaction. Some are far too invested in protecting the rights of misogynists but claim correctly identifying them and expecting accountability for their aggression is hate.  Some are overly concerned about what outsiders think. Their focus then becomes about shutting down all productive talk in the hopes to sweep the pathology under the rug. Here’s the problem with that reasoning: outsiders ALREADY KNOW! They’re even using it to their advantage in many cases. So it’s best to disabuse people of the notion that silence works when it has the same effect as letting mold grow unattended.

From my observation I may need to amend my initial dismay at the obstructionists being given an open forum because it has further clarified the position of those who speak so eloquently on racism and gender parity but are fundamentally opposed to black women being free agents and putting their needs first.

Freedom is being in full control of your reproductive choices, your body, your heart and mind – having the self-respect and self-esteem to make sound life-affirming choices and enjoying reciprocal relationships.

Black women who do not expand their dating/mating options to ALL men and distinguish for caliber will continue to scrape the bottom of the barrel when it comes to their options. You do not owe the community, an ideology or some random person the best years of your life or lower the bar for the type of life you (and your potential children) need for the comfort of others.

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A Non-PC Look At The Negative Impact Of African-American Single Motherhood

I and a score of other citizen activists and bloggers (of sometimes divergent interests) have come together in an initiative today to blow the lid off the explosion of out of wedlock child births in the African-American community in particular, the large never-married status and mass abandonment of black women and children. For regular readers of this blog you will likely be familiar with my previous posts where I’ve discussed how this pattern has become normalized and why it not only lacks tangible benefits but is in fact destructive.

This has been an ongoing topic of concern brought to light by a few key black women bloggers who seek to encourage other women to rethink the general consensus things are fine as is. These conversations  have brought the ire of many but ignoring less than ideal circumstances don’t make them beneficial.

Today is your Emancipation Day! Please feel free to join in. Here’s my entry for  No Wedding No Womb. Thanks to  PR pro Christelyn Karazin for organizing this event, Lorraine Spencer for the great lyrics to the theme song and a special shout-out to the black male bloggers I approached  who agreed to participate.

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