Today’s Empowerment Message Is Brought To You By The Letter ‘S’

You learn something new every day if you’re open. I’ve been re-evaluating my own happiness quotient which I’ve shared a little bit here. I was also doing some reading on confidence, which can mean something as simple as expecting a positive outcome. Which can be difficult when we’re not sure of anything. Here’s a new word I’ve begun adding to my vocabulary:


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What Is That Law About Equal And Opposite Reaction?

When I received the latest email list entry from Danielle LaPorte on embracing sadness, I smiled. You see, I recently wrote a blog post about taking a happiness shot. Like I said then, I don’t believe we can be “happy” 24/7. Sad or happy, they’re flip sides of the same coin. I wouldn’t want a discussion about being happy to be a false front negating a complete inventory of our emotional life and times.

Perhaps I should further clarify that by stating I don’t believe I can be (fakely) happy like that. I’ve always been introspective and inquisitive. I’ve always asked questions, from great philosophical treatises to specific personal ones (of others….and myself). I suppose a person could with very a narrow focus, little self-evaluation or a medicinal diet of uppers remain in symbiotic joy. That’s not real, but it sure is convenient for most.

A segment of modern society wants us to bear all our scars for public consumption, be it reality tv for fame and profit, confessional time with a religious representative for absolution or the therapist couch for relief. The first is a study in unexamined self-indulgence or intentional self-exploitation for attention — which could strangely be used to gain a higher profile with increased opportunities for elevation. Go figure!

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Did You Take Your Happiness Shot Today?

I’m Beta Testing the new site, “Happify” which offers scientific research and behavioral adjustments to diminish stress and hopefully give us coping mechanisms and a different outlook to feel more balanced  and joyful overall. Well, that’s my take on it since I don’t believe in cure-alls (whether it be chemical additives, sex, religion, big-ticket consumer goods, a better-than-thou lifestyle or reckless thrill-seeking) or even think we’re supposed to be “happy” 24/7.

There is no universal happiness in my opinion, because we are all individuals and wired differently. What satisfies one person, would incite another to jump off a cliff. Having support mechanisms in place help tremendously whether the person has a positive outlook or not. Biological and hormonal predispositions cannot be discarded either, nor the medicine that seeks to address some of these imbalances.

Since we seem to be operating under the assumption of free will and certain privileges being granted to us, then wouldn’t the logical progression be that we can be a fixed port during the storms of life  to a certain extent? Ignoring certain active circumstances that can have a negative impact or offer great benefit would be too dogmatic.

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Pure by Blue Six

This is one of my favorite songs on a music compilation I’ve had for years: Nude Dimensions Vol. 2, mixed by Mauricio Aviles. The Petalpusher remix of Pure used in this mix is from Miguel Migs. It encapsulated the San Francisco deep house sound that was well-supported by a few great record labels (OM, Naked, etc.) and world-class DJs and producers (Kaskade, Gabriel & Dresden, Hideo Kobayashi, David Harness). For me, it continued the evolution of what Chicago and New York began.

As with many things bubbling beneath the surface of consciousness, I had the urge to listen to this song, but had lost the CD. I don’t think I ever made a backup copy and had to do an internet search for the particular mix. Viola!

I had to remember some of the lyrics to find the correct song, which prompted me to look at them in their entirety. And I think many of you will relate. The emotional weight of the song definitely stems from vocalist Monique Bingham co-writing it. **Go check out her website and support the career of a beautiful soul with a purpose!

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Here’s A Few Curated Tumblr Blogs Giving Kudos To Black Women

Tumblr users tend to use lots of gifs, animated media freeze-framed into clips. Someone will get a movie clip and write the dialogue or get a moveable screen-shot of a reaction and loop it. They’re using imagery, not just commentary to get the message across. It’s good to have both. I don’t recall these blogs in existence two years ago.

As further evidence of the lasting success of authentic empowerment, I’ve observed an explosion of sites dedicated to healthy representation of relationships, advocacy with the necessary internal transformative work being discussed, tributes to darker-complexioned black women, fun travel sites, health & fitness, beautiful photo sites, fashion and a peek into different cultures.

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