Valentine Aspirations And Fulfillment

Wishing all of you lovelies a Happy Valentine’s Day for tomorrow!! I was considering posting about gifts and edibles, but then I saw a copy of Paul Newman’s letter to his second wife Joanne Woodward on their wedding day. They were married fifty years until his passing in 2008 at the age of 83.

Here’s an excerpt:

It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives. It is standing together facing the world. It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.

Someone was also reading one of my archived posts from April 2009 where a guy tells women how to better navigate relationships and watch their behavior.

Here’s an excerpt from Ladies Get It From The Horses Mouth.

Ladies, start living with your eyes OPEN. Most shady men give themselves away one way or another, usually before the first 30 days. Women have to STOP being so afraid to ask the important questions that would reveal his TRUE lifestyle.

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What We Can Learn About Friendship From Jane Eyre

Good grief the Brontë sisters know how to write tales of wanting, loneliness and dra-a-a-ma. And triumph. Jane is orphaned, mistreated, cast off, mistreated some more, falls in love, mistreated some more, wanders the moors and nearly dies and then becomes an heiress! Rochester is a bit of a letch in my opinion – despite the 4th quarter plot twist to redeem him which is what makes it such a compelling novel.

She didn’t compromise her values despite all sorts of pressure that would’ve broken most people, let alone a woman from that time. Indeed, Jane Eyre was ahead of her time with so many admirable qualities we can draw from as modern women. She wanted to define herself separate from societal captions but maintained compassion and character. She has endured many experiences similar to the Cinderella mythology. I don’t want to give away any more specifics of the book plot, but in case you’ve never read it you’re missing out.

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Evaluating Men For Alliances & Marriage Series #12: Men In Love

When Men [and Women] Get It Right

I don’t need to expound with a long blog post. I’m just going to play some songs for you so you can listen and hear the perspective of men who’ve evolved into committed relationship mode. Yes, it does happen – often! When a woman meets and vets the right man, magic happens. When there is mutual respect and affection with a focus on building a life together then it’s all gravy!

Not that it’s conflict-free [that would be boring], but a beautiful coupling can take place that lifts spirits and makes hearts soar. Which is the way things are supposed to be!

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Favorite Blogs #6: Couples Who…

“Don’t prioritize the mundane.” — Joe Konrath

Where has this plethora of  blogs hosted by married couples come from? They might be working, traveling or canoodling together but the key point is “they’re doing it together”. How cute! You can think of it as something to aspire to or insert a major eye roll depending on your outlook for such things. Personally, I’m reading the examples of well-matched people who share similar values. That is aspirational – and inspirational.

In no particular order….

Mr and Mrs Globetrot

Just about the cutest newlyweds evah — who happen to be wedding photographers to boot! They took off on a six-month ’round the world trip for their honeymoon. On a serious note, I was moved by the great interview conducted with one set of their parents who discussed fleeing the Ukraine due to religious persecution for being Christians. Hmm..I wonder what lessons we can glean from that? I can now thank them for making me want to travel to Cappadocia.

Speaking of…

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How A 16 Year-Old Reminded Me That Men Are Human Beings, Too

Not that I didn’t already know….

We have been discussing some rather serious topics at Acts Of Faith In Love And Life lately – and rightfully so. For women who want to experience the best that life has to offer it is imperative that we prepare ourselves to create and accept opportunities to renew and elevate ourselves.

Since some of that evaluation process involves identifying and weeding out unsuitable males, some women have balked at the idea of taking full responsibility when it comes to putting their best selves forward to attract the more accomplished and discerning alpha male. There is a resistance that underlies some of the arguments against leaving old thought-patterns and previous injuries behind, i.e. interracial dating and not fighting white hegemony for example.

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One From The Dating Files: Why Women Must Not Be The Aggressor

Back in the olden days of my 20’s I once looked askance at the book The Rules because I thought it contained a lot of archaic, anti-woman rhetoric that went against current norms. We were women, we were empowered and we could do whatever we wanted. We roared. We didn’t have to wait for anything. Since we could earn a living like a man (minus the pay equity) why couldn’t we go after what we wanted in the dating realm, too?

Then when Sex and the City hit the airwaves it was if a bomb had dropped. Samantha Jones both thrilled and repulsed me. Actually all of the characters did on some level and not just because I noticed they could get away with many things as white women of a certain class tier that many of us could not. They also had plenty of foibles. I’ve covered why I also think there’s a reinforcement of some indoctrination, particularly with Miranda and her marriage to a lesser-than “good” guy.

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