I want to use a few examples from recent media chatter to discuss the perils of women giving men passes for EVERYTHING!!! Men do NOT settle! Men go after jobs and partners they don’t deserve and are unqualified for ALL THE TIME. Extreme social conditioning amongst dysfunctional blacks browbeat black women into accepting crumbs and thinking it’s a meal. Enough!
Brookings Institution study on black women marrying down [they’re mostly focused on black male partners].
There is a growing trend in the United States towards assortative mating — a clunky phrase that refers to people’s tendency to choose spouses with similar educational attainment.
A media storm erupted in the Spring of 2013 when a Princeton alum, Susan A. Patton, president of the class of ‘77, offered the following advice to female students: “Here’s what nobody is telling you: Find a husband on campus before you graduate.” Writing in The Daily Princetonian, Patton went on: “You will never again be surrounded by this concentration of men who are worthy of you.”
One implication of assortative mating is greater household income inequality, since education is a strong — and strengthening — predictor of earnings. Households with two college graduates multiply that earnings power by two and are doing much better than households with less-educated couples.
Race is a factor in patterns of assortative mating. Black women face more difficult “marriage markets” than white women, given current rates of intermarriage according to work from University of Maryland sociologist Philip N. Cohen. Black women have the lowest rates of “marrying out” across race lines, in part because of racist attitudes [My reply: it’s the result of strict social conditioning amongst African Americans in particular] to inter-marriage.
One of the reasons I skip over a lot of these black people gossip story items is because people almost always are acting foolishly. I saw on my feeds that actress Tia Mowry-Hardrict had posted some “stay away from my man” nonsense to actress Keke Palmer ON TWITTER of all places and then deleted it. Palmer recently completed a project with Tia’s husband, actor Cory Hardrict.
Here’s Keke’s interview on Wendy Williams were she discusses her career, current project and clarifies the matter. She’s very bubbly and friendly, though likely nervous because she was talking fast at elevated levels.
Continue reading “Broke Bums Ain’t Cute”
I was catching up on posts at Newbies Guide To Publishing and noted how another author contemplated the decision to leave his corporate career to write full-time. Read the entire guest post by Jude Hardin and Joe’s response. There are certain things that are advised to be put in place before taking huge leaps. Of course, you can always chose to do something you feel strongly about regardless.
The question is should you?
Continue reading “Wanna Know What Taking A Calculated Risk Looks Like?”
Girlfriend get your BA or JD, MD, PhD or MDiv AND your MRS!
Congrats to Priscilla Chan, aka Dr. Chan aka Mrs. Zuckerberg!
She’s every woman….meaning her potential is your potential however that manifests itself. This isn’t about chasing after a life partner but ATTRACTING those who will love and support you best! Sure, you can do it on your own…but why should you have to? Sometimes, it takes more STRENGTH to be vulnerable than live with false bravado.
Continue reading “Smart Black Women Will Craft Their Own Asian Woman Marriage Playbook”
How can you not want to try this? Dang it Bon Appetit!
PARMESAN SHORTBREAD with Fennel and Sea Salt
- 1 cup (2 sticks) unsalted butter, room temperature
- 1/2 cup powdered sugar
- 1 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper
- 3/4 teaspoons kosher salt
- 2 cups all-purpose flour plus more
- 1 cup finely grated Parmesan (about 2 ounces)
- 1 tablespoon fennel seeds
- 1 teaspoon Maldon sea salt or other coarse salt [note from me: this definitely calls for pink sea salt!]
- 2 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil
Get the cooking directions at Bon Appetit.
Continue reading “Shortbread + Mimolette + Coffee = Foodgasmic!”
Every woman should know how to flirt and coo like hummingbird with functioning men regardless of her sexual orientation. A man appreciates being reminded of his masculinity – regardless of his sexual orientation. We’re all drawn to happy, confident and smiling people. Honing a witty repartee is a highly valuable skill.
This not only benefits a woman seeking romantic connections. It helps in finding mentors and developing valuable business alliances. A man can still be in a committed relationship but serve as a key ally helping you. Men want to feel their significance and where the politicization of feminism stumbles is in pushing women to view them as inadequate or combatants across the board. This attitude posits women prettify themselves out of weakness in deference to patriarchy, when the opposite is true.
Continue reading “Do You Enjoy Being A Girl? #2”
I’m getting the jump on an upcoming post discussing 2012 blog memes and sharing this one early. The Revisiting series will highlight one or two posts whose content garnered a lot of interest and deserves a review to accommodate newer readers and long-time blog friends alike. It’s another tool for evaluating your education and preparedness in the new millenia. Continue reading “AOFB Revisits: Financial Acumen”
“We live in a world which respects power above all things. Power, intelligently directed, can lead to more freedom. Unwisely directed, it can be a dreadful, destructive force.”
Mary McLeod Bethune
Continue reading “Inspirational Quotes — Mary McLeod Bethune”
1. What is YOUR normal?
2. Is it valid?
3. Are you willing to change it?
Continue reading “Is There A Bus That Will Take Me There?”
I was going to end the post title with “what makes us fat” but the series is already so un-PC I’m trying to brace the reading audience. The series which is hosted by holistic nutritionist Gillian McKeith takes a look at the habits and motivations of everyday people who need a wake up call to change their lives. At least by the time McKeith approaches them they’ve been primed, screened and ready to begin her regime.
The series typically peeks into the lives of an individual and their relationships. They then do a weekly breakdown of what the person normally eats (sometimes spreading it all on the table for added effect) and Gillian gives them a new food plan (also spread out so they can sample it) and exercise regime which they are to follow without substitution.
Continue reading “BBC Show “You Are What You Eat” Offers An Unflinching Look At Our Food Choices”