Snagging, Bagging & Tagging: White Men!

Yup, that’s a provocative title for sure. It’s a spin on the book Girls’ Guide To Hunting & Fishing. I was thus inspired by a little blogger troll who took issue with my Mrs. & Mr. Zuckerberg post from last week. Which was about how an average woman can position herself […]

Smart Black Women Will Craft Their Own Asian Woman Marriage Playbook

Girlfriend get your BA or JD, MD, PhD or MDiv AND your MRS!

Congrats to Priscilla Chan, aka Dr. Chan aka Mrs. Zuckerberg!

She’s every woman….meaning her potential is your potential however that manifests itself. This isn’t about chasing after a life partner but ATTRACTING those who will love and support you best! Sure, you […]

Follow-Up To Marie Claire's Fake Out Series On Love & Race

Marie Claire can try to spin it any way they like but the lopsided reporting in Love & Race reinforces white male bashing and black women intra-racial relationship myopia. Remember, everyone claiming to support your interests may not be. You must carefully evaluate people, places and practices.

Why didn’t […]

Does Ashley Judd Think She's The Rosa Parks Of Patriarchy?

Victim or Victimhood Peddler?

Puffy or Not Is Ashley Judd The Real Face Of Sexism?

Poor Ashley is having a very public moment. Maybe she’s going through something privately that’s making her a little extra-sensitive these days. I can’t imagine why she’d take the time to write an entire […]

Follow The Career Of British Director Steve McQueen Making Non Stereotypical Choices

No More Excuses From the Usual Suspects

Just call him the Black Steve McQueen. Acclaimed artist and director Steve McQueen has only made two feature-length films so far, but so far so good! Plus, his subject matter from Bear to his most recent art installation in Amsterdam is actually interesting. Not […]

Those People Who Have A Problem With Fassy & Nicole Can Kick Rocks!

This is a great example for black women branching out! When I write about certain topics there’s usually a multi-tiered purpose with an immediate and long-range plan in mind. The main priority is to shift thinking and clear a space (mentally, physically, emotionally) to safely re-examine people, places and practices. […]

Clooney & Davis Cover Entertainment Weekly: This Girl Dreams Of A Real-Life Courting

My jaw hit the floor when I spotted George and Viola frolicking on the January 13th cover of EW. It was just so unexpected. They look like they’re having so much fun and it got me thinking about future possibilities. Apparently they’re friends!

While I’ve made no secret I abhor movies […]

Evaluating Men For Alliances & Marriage Series #3: You Have To Be In It To Win It!″>

I was featured in an interview on interracial and international dating in Norway’s largest newspaper, Aftenposten. Overall, it was a good article. I would have liked a more intensive interview (a series would be nice!)  but it is what it is. A good message that featured attractive, intelligent black women who are willing […]

Who’s Getting It Right #3 Paula Patton: Ethnic Pride, Marrying Well & Finding Love At A Young Age

We spend so much time at this forum discussing strategies for self-improvement, the damage to the collective and identifying the Flat Earth Theorists and other enemies I wanted to make sure we also look at key real-life examples of black women who are living ahead of the curve and their choices that lead […]

Are Black Women Still Blowing Their Dating Chances With White Men?

Don’t run screaming away in terror – or anger. It’s a valid inquiry. The same question could be asked about all non-black males, but for many black women born in the United States who’ve been influenced by limiting views (often double-standards in comparison to the males) within their homes and communities there seems […]