In Honor Of New York And London Fashion Week: Recognizing & Affirming Our Beauty

I missed Tedx talk when pioneering black beauty blogger Afrobella first spoke. Lately, I’ve been inspired to do a complete overhaul of my wardrobe. I have to take a moment to recognize the joys and pitfalls of online shopping when you can’t find styles that suit your tastes. The same can be said for online dating! I’ve also been feeling frustrated by what I see when I look in the mirror because I want photo-shopped perfection. I had lost a good amount of weight three years ago by severely restricting my caloric intake and only eating certain foods. When I hit a plateau, the scale would not budge and my narrow lane of food intake rebelled against my foodie-loving tendencies.  Lifestyle choices take time, so I’ve had to readjust my expectations and call a truce with myself even while eyeing a goal.

I’m the type of person who falls into an over-analyzing abyss and has to silence a harsh inner critic. I’ve recently experienced a break-through in terms of my outlook. While, it is true we need to be healthier and keep ourselves in proportion, telling yourself everything about your existence is “wrong” until you achieve certain goals is not the way to be “right”. The journey is just that…a journey. Not a sprint. Not a click your heels and throw some pixie dust jaunt without taking that mile-long trip to discovering you.

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The Wonders Of Natural Oils

This is a basic infographic on choosing a good cooking oil. I want to add one important oil that’s missing: COCONUT OIL. Not only is it great for cooking with,  because it’s higher smoke point means it will be less likely to burn than go-to fave olive oil, but it’s also great to use on your skin and in your hair. It also has numerous medicinal qualities.  #justsaynotogrease

 

Film Short, ‘The Door’ By Ava DuVernay For Miu Miu

This is interesting. The House of Miu Miu released a fifth installment of its The Women’s Tales series — a project of commissioned works from top female directors around the world — which also highlights key pieces from the Italian brand’s Spring 2013 clothing collection. The short features Gabrielle Union, Adepero Oduye, Emayatzy Corinealdi, Goapele and Alfre Woodard. Sweet!

“In the film, characters arrive at the door of a friend in need, bringing something of themselves,” DuVernay explains. “Eventually, we witness our heroine ready to walk through the door on her own. The door in the film represents a pathway to who we are.”

If you’re getting over a break-up why not do it in style, with fabulous friends? See the film after the jump.

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Here’s A Few Curated Tumblr Blogs Giving Kudos To Black Women

Tumblr users tend to use lots of gifs, animated media freeze-framed into clips. Someone will get a movie clip and write the dialogue or get a moveable screen-shot of a reaction and loop it. They’re using imagery, not just commentary to get the message across. It’s good to have both. I don’t recall these blogs in existence two years ago.

As further evidence of the lasting success of authentic empowerment, I’ve observed an explosion of sites dedicated to healthy representation of relationships, advocacy with the necessary internal transformative work being discussed, tributes to darker-complexioned black women, fun travel sites, health & fitness, beautiful photo sites, fashion and a peek into different cultures.

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This Is What Defending Your Daughter’s Black Beauty Looks Like

Let us review this sepia brown-skinned young woman’s fight to self-acceptance. Fruit from the poisonous tree sewn from unexamined, escalating black-on-black hatred is ruinous. Not everyone will survive. She is within her rights to only focus on her protection, because of the intra-racial politics women her complexion and appearance do bear the brunt of erasure and demonizing from other blacks.

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A “Hoochie” Barbie That Offends Or Is Mattel Paying Attention?

I just did a quick peek at the Mattel company website and did not see this potential offering of their latest Barbie, but discussions on social media platforms are already abuzz.  Naturally Moi has an article asking whether this doll (which they’ve labeled as being a new Barbie) is an accurate representation of African-American women.

Meet your newest Ratchet Hip-Hop Black Barbie?!

Knock-off designer bags. Check.

Exposed cleavage. Check.

All they need to do is add a few pieces like pajama bottoms, a head scarf, purple drank and Hood Rat Barbie is complete.

Does this offend you?

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Did Steve Stoute Try To Link Kim Kardashian To His Black Woman Bashing?

Any black person with even a rudimentary knowledge about our history knows the reasons that black women’s bodies, hair texture, phenotype and skin shade have been historically politicized and dehumanized. In the context of interacting with the dominant white groups, blacks can intellectualize Eurocentric standards of beauty and worth hasn’t been supportive in acknowledging our particular beauty. In turn black men and women internalized this on varying levels, across the span of ethnicities and nationalities.

Typical West-African ‘Negroid’ features being labeled unattractive was a manipulation tool used by the dominating group for control. The attitude of defeat (from not being proud to come from ancestors who SURVIVED chattel slavery) has been passed amongst the black collective like a permanent defect upon birth. The present ongoing conflict lies in how black women and girls are continuously assaulted (physically, mentally, emotionally) by other blacks and the lack of accountability for it.

We have the POWER to change those patterns now.

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Beauty Is As Beauty Does

**Update November 28 There was a change to the contest. It’s been extended through November 30th. You still have time to enter. **

I just re-read my post Femme Time Is Power and applaud my own personal transformation after a) getting rid of 70 lbs. and b) touching the stillness via yoga and meditation. My self-image has soared dramatically this year as I’ve embraced my femininity. I’m looking forward to reaping the benefits throughout 2012 and beyond from sustaining this new attitude and lifestyle adjustment.

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Kerry Washington Covers November ELLE So Why The Crickets?

Last month’s ELLE that split the cover with several white actresses and Gabourey Sidibe got a lot of attention. Some of it was positive as many claimed it was empowering for black women to see Gabby on the cover. Some…ahem begged to differ and stated emphatically that not only did the choice of actress but the layout was in fact insulting and damaging to the image of black women.

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