Yup, that’s a provocative title for sure. It’s a spin on the book Girls’ Guide To Hunting & Fishing. I was thus inspired by a little blogger troll who took issue with my Mrs. & Mr. Zuckerberg post from last week. Which was about how an average woman can position herself to live well and how marriage to a person who adds value certainly helps facilitate that. So sad…too bad certain people remain stuck on stoopid. It’s all about perspective..and choice.
Apparently Flat Earth Theorists know something we don’t. According to this scholar of relationships black women wouldn’t be interested in a man who came from a 2-parent home, espouses Middle Class values, busted his hump to get into Harvard, learned how to relate to women by trial and error – oh and is a game-changer. Oh yeah, I almost forgot – no OOW kids, criminal record or public displays of questionable behavior. Not to mention a Rolodex and access to certain social circles to die for.
If he isn’t a pretty (white) boy, all bets are off? Seriously? This is a renewed (and unoriginal) attempt at poisoning the well. I don’t know why these white hegemony-fighting black women or deeply insecure black males still come to this forum whining after all this time. We already know many black girls are preyed on by lecherous older black males while other women are guilt-tripped and browbeat into propping up ex-con/rarely employed/under-educated ‘Pookie’. Now someone’s parroting a DBR comedian obsessed for years with telling everybody how “we don’t want no white boys”. You wish!
Looks are in the eye of the beholder. And you know what, really good-looking men often have an inflated sense of entitlement. There are also males coddled by overindulging and weak women who make lousy partners. Some males don’t even TRY to compete with other men for achievement and continue to suck from the teat of WOMEN their entire lives.
As I’ve written over numerous essays BACKGROUND & BEHAVIOR trumps everything when evaluating a man’s potential. Every man must PROVE himself. I am very adamant that BW do NOT take up with any random dude, lest he reveals himself to be a DUD. Dating ‘white’ doesn’t automatically make it right (as a few disgruntled readers have found out). It doesn’t mean someone’s an ally of other black women either. You also don’t get a pass from playing your A Game.
Despite all exceptions and objections to the contrary most women – especially those who want to be mothers – are best served by high-caliber partnerships drawing from every population and better social strata. Marriage.
Which begs the question: why not consider a qualified white male? Even if some are a little slow on the uptake. The more couples that find each other, the more couples will grow. People are like plants. A little soil, water and sun (nurturing) and positive reinforcement is all it takes.
Here’s a few refresher posts.