I was about to write this post from a completely different perspective but thank goodness for stream of conscious writing. First, I’d like to thank my naiveté. I think this is the first time I actually understand what Neo felt like after he was freed from the Matrix. Although I’ve been reading about the behavior of these DBR (damaged beyond repair) AA males I noted it from afar. Sure I have some male relatives I would say have some of those tendencies but for the most part they’re a good lot.
Yet, I’ve also observed the mating patterns of many of my female relatives and have seen how it’s they who have chosen varying degrees of mediocrity. That would be collectively with particular quality choices made by a few individuals. I think that is representative of the black collective as well. The majority are on a major crash and burn voyage while a few wiser individuals are on the periphery. Some are preparing and others are rolling in the mud trying to get as much on as possible. Well…that’s my observation and I’m still processing this.
Second, I think it’s important again to make the ethnic distinctions of which majority I’m referring to and ding ding it’s African-Americans. We have to have something else that binds us than admiring the accomplishments of Michael Jackson. We have to have more than fleeting outrage over the latest public spectacle of a rap music artist – or now some swimming pool controversy at a private club in PA. People are praising Al Sharpton for his MJ Memorial speech (which wasn’t bad) yet forget (or never even know about) that he publicly supported the rapists/attempted murderers at Dunbar Village apartment complex in West Palm Beach, FL. I haven’t forgotten. He was more concerned that those DBRs (damaged beyond recognition/repair) black males would potentially be “railroaded” rather than stand with the survivors of the attack, a black woman and child.
I wonder what it will take for some people to wake up – a pound of flesh maybe? Dead body after dead body from the mass black on black crime? The 50% high school drop out rate for black teens? The out of wedlock birth rate for black women was listed at 72% by the CDC in their preliminary report for 2007. The official 2006 report had it listed at 70% but it had jumped 25% in a five year period. So even with a conservative estimate of 2.5-5% growth rate that number has to be somewhere around 76-83%. It’s pretty much over for a particular segment of society. I’m speaking in terms of quality of life and productivity. That’s going to lead to a lot of struggling, abandoned and angry women and children. Some of whom are boys and so the cycle of destruction will continue. *I modified my original 80% OOW birth rate and added in the data instead. You can do the math or dispute it to your heart’s content. It’s a TRAGEDY not to be taken lightly!
I’m not prepared to say this results solely from growing up in all-black (physical) environment. The indoctrination I’m talking about can still occur even if you weren’t physically present. Isn’t that why you’ll get immigrants who move here still practicing things that might run them afoul of cultural norms (or laws) in this country? It’s the mentality behind it and that goes beyond a residential area. You take your thoughts and attitudes with you wherever you go.
Some white feminists have complained about faerie tales like Cinderella saying they set women back and teach women to expect to be rescued. In those books the heroine is always rescued by a man. Where some see oppression I see a man understanding his role and stepping up. They see a woman in distress and they resolve the problem to her advantage! They offer to love and protect her. Also the woman has to let the man rescue her so she is accepting his help. Where’s the weakness in that?
I get the overall ramifications of why some women think being put on a pedestal is sexist and problematic. These women have not had the AA woman experience of being stripped naked and spit on in the public square for hundreds of years. Collectively these groups of non-black women will NEVER know what that’s like because their men will never allow it. If they did their group would have to be in a state of chaos and dysfunction like the AA “community”. It’s not going to happen.
The word “cinderella” has, by analogy, come to mean one whose attributes are unrecognised, or one who unexpectedly achieves recognition or success after a period of obscurity and neglect. Wikipedia
I’m thinking Cinderella is in fact a secret stealth training manual showing women how to get your “fantasy” life become your REAL life. It’s for women who are unappreciated, unloved, used like a mule for all of her resources and cast out when she will no longer play ball. This describes the state of the average AA woman to a tee, doesn’t it?
These phrases should go in the canon of lies/manipulations told to a black woman to keep her down:
- Help a brotha out
- I need a place to stay
- I’m in between jobs
- I’m hungry
- I need help
- You’re being selfish
- You have to help your family
- You think you’re too good
- You’re ugly
- Don’t go to school
- You have no credibility
- The white man keeps me down w/x,y,z that’s why I don’t x,y,z
- I want a wife who brings in some money
- You’re supposed to clean, take care of the baby & cater to me
- Why do you want to hang out with your friends?
- Are you cheating on me – then prove it by x,y,z
- If you really loved me you’d do x,y,z,
- I’m clean baby I swear, we don’t need to use a condom
- If you get pregnant I’ll be there for you
- I’m seeing somebody else but…,
- I’m a man I need to do x,y,z,
- No dark butts
- It’s not my fault I sell drugs/went to prison
- I like light skin/light skin is so pretty