When Stumbling Out of the DBR Matrix These Are Great First Steps

Or you might consider this part of your escape route when deciding which pill to take when you decide to get out of **DBR-Ville!! This scene is from the television show The Game. I have mixed feelings about this show overall but this was an excellent example of what a woman should be doing with [...]

Do You Sometimes Wonder How Dysfunctional Relationships Become the Norm?

Per celeb gossip news rapper Nelly and singer Ashanti broke up last week. When I read it I wondered why it was a surprise. The guy made a music video where he slid a credit card down the butt cheeks of a woman. That speaks volumes about his character, values and how he views black [...]

Oh No – That Steve Harvey Book Is Being Made Into A Movie!

Here’s further proof of the LACK of a normative black culture that we can rely on. Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man will be coming to a screen near you. Oh happy joy! “As a producer you’re always looking for your next big hit that can be culturally relevant while still having a [...]

We All Deserve Love

Yet it seems to elude so many of us. We don’t know where or how to find it. Is it like a seedling that needs water to grow and nurturing under equal parts sun and shade to fully thrive? Can it be dropped from the sky into our waiting arms and if so would [...]

Ladies Get It From the Horse's Mouth

If you are happily coupled or not looking then you may proceed to the next blog post. If you are reevaluating your dating experiences or in an unsatisfactory relationship proceed with caution. I saw the following post “From A Brotha” at the NecoleBitchie blog which was culled from her comment section in response to another [...]

I Pity The Woman Who Takes Relationship Advice From Steve Harvey Alone!

Don’t be a fool ladies. Oprah may have found his shtick funny but it’s not as if she’s going to stop whatever works for her life with Stedman to adopt Steve’s rules of engagement. I blame best friend Gayle who clearly lacks some critical thinking skills and knowledge of what’s happening in today’s dating [...]

Tyra Banks Show On the Obama Effect: Will Black Men Get It Together Now?

Ha! Ha! That wasn’t the title of yesterday’s episode but it’s a valid question to ask. Of course if you personally have it together this doesn’t apply to you. So no accusatory comments mmm-okay? The subtitle of this episode should be: Black Women Don’t Wait Around For Black Men Still Trying To Figure Things [...]

Tyra Banks Show On the Obama Effect: Will Black Men Get It Together Now?

Ha! Ha! That wasn’t the title of yesterday’s episode but it’s a valid question to ask. Of course if you personally have it together this doesn’t apply to you. So no accusatory comments mmm-okay? The subtitle of this episode should be: Black Women Don’t Wait Around For Black Men Still Trying To Figure Things [...]

What We Can Learn About Love and Life From Famous Women

Women who are famous are not so different that we can’t relate to certain universal truths or find commonalities. They may have certain career pressures as well as access to unique circumstances. Sometimes the grass is not greener on the other side. What lessons can we glean with regards to the men some famous [...]

Tyra Banks Says She Has No "List"

So I was watching the Tyra show yesterday and I wish I had recorded parts of it to play back for this discussion. Half the time when I watch I cringe or find myself shaking my head (and turn it off). Other times I think she covers topics of great interest. No, I don’t have [...]