A few things to consider. Early reinforcement of positive and affirming messages about the value of girls form the basis of a healthy self-image. By no means should we feed the ego or encourage chasing after male attention. This is about encouraging trust in our innate femaleness and femininity. We see examples of how women who’ve been denigrated or indulged behave in ways that don’t serve their interests.
All females know in their heart of hearts that they are pretty. God designs, Nature endows, and hormones energize them that way. (Some may think they aren’t pretty, but it’s their conscious mind working. They have quit listening to their heart.) When parents and family tell them they are pretty, daughters hear a ringing endorsement of their heart of hearts. They really are pretty, and it confirms their femaleness and self-respect and reinforces their sense of self-importance.
An absent cultural infrastructure impacts every aspect of a girl’s life. Without a supportive enough background many black women cling to religious totems too tightly. Well, actually a lot of people do this, but the disproportionate amount of worldly chaos influences the divine dogmatic devotion amongst African American women in particular. How can it not? It devalues but sets up females to be sabotaged while still expected to be saviors.
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Operating from such a deficit is something many folks don’t want to admit – let alone change. We can always talk about the depravity antics within Blackistan. It’s more important to focus beyond limitations and dysfunction.