Evaluating Men For Alliances & Marriage Series #19: Give The Dude Enough Rope To Hang Himself

I’m so sad I missed this bit o’ schadenfreude in real time, but thanks to the internet there’s at least a partial archive!

Here’s the curious case of a DudeBro and his girlfriend. Dude claims his girlfriend is not especially attractive compared to the “hot” gals he can find at an online fetish website. He wants them to “try” an open relationship!!

If your sideye is already twitching the way mine was when I spotted this curious attempt at woman juggling/man-sharing messiness, then let’s proceed to the end of this sordid tale with a quickness!

DudeBro wouldn’t directly break up with his girlfriend because:

a) he’s lazy, manipulative and probably figured he could string her along for non-committed interim sex

b) he wanted HER to end things so he could avoid any responsibility for negative emotional fall-out by claiming he “tried” to work with her…..

He admits the relationship was great emotionally BUT he’s online looking at “women” on various websites and gets the idea that he’s missing out on all the supermodels he could be dating and blow up dolls he can play with – if not for that pesky girlfriend expecting his loyalty.

So, he presents his girlfriend with an ultimatum to give into his demands or break up. She’s obvious upset, but agrees to his hijacking and disrespect and like a good little trooper ALSO signs up for this fetish website. Supposedly they have rules in place and inform others of their “arrangement” and DudeBro is excited about his future of endless babes with a backup wifey.

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In Honor Of New York And London Fashion Week: Recognizing & Affirming Our Beauty

I missed Tedx talk when pioneering black beauty blogger Afrobella first spoke. Lately, I’ve been inspired to do a complete overhaul of my wardrobe. I have to take a moment to recognize the joys and pitfalls of online shopping when you can’t find styles that suit your tastes. The same can be said for online dating! I’ve also been feeling frustrated by what I see when I look in the mirror because I want photo-shopped perfection. I had lost a good amount of weight three years ago by severely restricting my caloric intake and only eating certain foods. When I hit a plateau, the scale would not budge and my narrow lane of food intake rebelled against my foodie-loving tendencies.  Lifestyle choices take time, so I’ve had to readjust my expectations and call a truce with myself even while eyeing a goal.

I’m the type of person who falls into an over-analyzing abyss and has to silence a harsh inner critic. I’ve recently experienced a break-through in terms of my outlook. While, it is true we need to be healthier and keep ourselves in proportion, telling yourself everything about your existence is “wrong” until you achieve certain goals is not the way to be “right”. The journey is just that…a journey. Not a sprint. Not a click your heels and throw some pixie dust jaunt without taking that mile-long trip to discovering you.

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Evaluating Men For Alliances & Marriage Series #18: Get Your Sexy On!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BSUGgdhcFsE

Lois and Clark getting a little friendlier…..

It’s been a minute or two since I’ve added a new installment to this series, but this was an opportune moment. In other words, I really needed to have something to say! While posts at the main site vary in frequency, you can always find daily conversation at Twitter or Facebook.

Despite some of the more recent upsetting current events, we must keep moving forward. I say this as much for myself as for all of you, that we have to find a way past obstacles and see the best outcomes for ourselves. That’s not easy.

So, after reminding women to be women and stop feeling obligated to be good little soldiers lined up on the battlefields only to be knocked down, reacquaint yourself with your va-va-voom. And you can’t get your sexy on while feeling or being under siege.

Repeat after me: Men Must Rescue Themselves.

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