So will this be 0 for 3? Apparently some find Everett Bogue a bit too pretentious for their tastes. I agree that he’s in his own world where being a white male 20-something from a 2-parent home and middle class living may be blasé. If we are the sum of our experiences I’d also offer that such mundane (read that as dysfunction-lite) living is fast becoming a privilege for a few “lucky” people. Taking that into consideration I can understand why someone who’s had their basic needs met would find being a cog on a wheel unacceptable in the Age Of Turmoil and having a safety net/support system in place would be more likely to take a risk to than someone who was starting life at -20.
I think anyone that can build an online forum in a year that fulfills them personally and financially supports them wholly is brilliant. Whatever they’ve tapped into has obviously resonated with enough people who were willing to “put up or shut up” is commendable. I still don’t quite get it either, but I offer my grudging admiration for someone thinking outside the box and having it all pan out.
If no one is being harmed in real life he thinks he’s in the Jump program of The Matrix, that he can fly and other people are supporting his endeavors more power to him.
That’s what I think we should learn.
As for the political blog Tennessee Guerilla Women…from what I’ve read most recently the content is not in any way questionable. The reader who took issue with them should probably address her grievances with the blog administrators at that site directly and hold them accountable. Tennessee is a conservative state. Just like California – but one is more honest about it! Schwarzenegger would have never been able to pull off his bogus Total Recall-style Republican power grab in a truly liberal state.
A PUMA reference immediately brings me back to 2008. I went to Denver for the Democratic nomination. Let me tell you plainly there were quite a few (wise) black women who questioned what Obama would actually deliver. I remember thinking they were a little too angry for my taste and too loyal to the Clintons (because let’s face it Hillary & Bill are a package deal despite any protests to the contrary) for the wrong reasons.
It would be nice if more black women drew a line in the sand regarding their standards and adhered to it. It would be nice if more black women would negotiate the exchange of services for their support. Instead some of them still claim We Must Support BO Because He’s A Brotha. Did you take note of the rage and hate in that commenter’s sentiment towards another black women who doesn’t share her Ride-And-Die mentality?
Update: I was actually referring to a commenter at Betty Chambers Has Spoken and forgot to insert the link, but now that I compare the sentiment between her commenter and mine there’s only a few temperature degrees of hostility removed.
Why are some still focused on outsiders and “white” racism when we have our own home-grown black anti-BW misogynists surrounding us at every turn?
In discussing how we as women should be free to embrace being women: read that as genteel ladies again, this blog written by an older white man (and you may think it’s pretentious and racist, lol) is a nice segue for the transition. While we do not want to return the 1950’s because those times were oh so fun for black women – not – we do want to be able to be appreciated for our best qualities. We may be able to bring home the bacon, etc. but we don’t want to carry the burden of having to do so without having a partner who’s doing the same. After being confused and irritated for years at women who’d bust their humps achieving academic and career success only to ditch it when they became somebody’s MRS I finally get it. They did it because they could. They did it because the man in question isn’t the cab driver, chimney sweep or McDonald’s employee. He certainly isn’t a petty thief, armed robber or convicted rapist (usually). He’s usually hard-working but constantly moving forward and upwards with an education or skills to match.
The unions may not always be ideal, last for years or bring out the best in each other but they are almost always advantageous to the woman in question. She might return to her career or marry again, maintaining what she had at a minimum. Like I said, I get it now.
We all have our roles to play. Some women who are not into men or who have disdain for them will continue to push forth an agenda beneficial to their lives without them. Every other woman can take the resulting changes in societal mores and use to their advantage. We’re not Sex and the City, we’re not Desperate Housewives either and we’re certainly not the women of Mad Men. Besides, if you will note those three shows have been fashioned by the vision of gay white men from similar backgrounds. Me thinks they’re projecting…a lot!
We’re not Girlfriends, The Game or Friends either. I think we’re a little bit closer to Living Single or Designing Women and perhaps if we’re lucky The Golden Girls or perhaps that newer show also starring Betty White Hot In Cleveland.
We may not relate to any of the characters listed for any of these shows. That’s fine. I’m still partial to Clair Huxtable personally. Clair if you will note was shapely, glamorous, fluent in another language, whip-smart, elegant, confident, never raised her voice and didn’t let the small stuff phase her. She also loved art and I see a 21st century Clair – even more posh – sans five kids (maybe one with a full-time nanny, personal secretary and trainer.) I’d want Cliff to be a location independent/internet/man of the world – with a splash of MacGuyver, Johnny Depp’s character in Chocolat, Bono and Daniel Craig’s version of James Bond. That translates to altruistic, intelligent, flexible, resourceful and compassionate. See, I didn’t even have to say cute, right?
Work whatever combo floats your boat..just don’t sink by staying on the Titanic.