If music reflects society and depicts the loosening ties between the sexes, many rightfully wonder where all the love songs went.
If girls and women trash and abandon listening to any music that demeans females or lifts men over them, then men would soon follow. If women were to like and listen exclusively to love ballads and similar female-friendly music, men would be forced to listen or go elsewhere. If sex is more hint than obvious, such music calms instead of elevates libido and aggressiveness, especially for men. It helps bond those who want to bond. It pushes sex into the background. Not forbidden but something to be earned, which challenges men and earns manly respect of females that insist on sex being earned by someone worthy of them.
Sir Guy uses rock as the example but everybody knows the most destructive music genre is rap. Hip-hop culture reshaped black society into total denigration. for every misogynistic rock band there were two love songs to counterbalance. rap as it pertained to black women was 98% bad.
The dirtiest rockers still for the most part uphold the value of marriage if not always being the best husband or parent. Subtle sex play in songs i.e. Pour Some Sugar On Me vs. Candy Shop. Rap infiltrated R&B. Can Usher release a song that isn’t about a bad break-up or how he’s going to ‘do you’? Ugh!
When will women stop castrating/competing against males, go wild or settling for crumbs? Don’t let chickens get a taste of your meat. We have to be our most authentic selves. Know what you value in a relationship. Be friendly but set boundaries. Use your instincts. Make a list of the Top Five qualities most important to you and take it from there. See what doesn’t fit and keep moving forward.
By the way, we’ve got Damien Rice, Jason Mraz, Ray LaMontagne, Donnie, Rahsaan Patterson and others still singing about love. No, these are not classics by the likes of Luther or Marvin. Different time. New era. John Mayer may be damaged, but his music is actually affirming of women and relationships. Too bad he isn’t living like that off stage. When we focus on what we want instead of what we don’t have, things will shift.