One of my readers sent me a link to an interview at Radar Online with an African-American Royal back in January. I posted it to the blog’s Twitter and Facebook accounts but realize it should be bumped to post level for those of you who missed it. Baroness Monica von Neumann resides in Los Angeles after the death of her husband, Baron John von Neumann. I’ve excerpted a portion of the interview but you should read it in its entirety at their site. She’s positioning her company as a lifestyle brand for luxury goods.
On meeting the Baron – “The romance was quite a whirlwind. We met at a dinner party in Palm Springs. I would say he fell in love at first glance. He was quite smitten with my quick wit and attitude. We had a long, insightful conversation and that was that. He soon put the word out that he wanted to get to know me more. Fairly quickly, it was obvious that we were meant to be together. After six months we met, he asked me to marry him. My late husband certainly had a way about himself. He was kind, extremely intelligent, smooth and definitely knew how to treat a woman….”
Life philosophies – “I believe strongly in two things: First, we all a diamond in the rough and (could) use a bit of polishing, whether it is treating yourself to fresh cut flowers or a beautiful candle or a set of nice lines… things that make you feel good. All these things are attainable. Secondly, I believe that everyone deserves to be around beautiful things. Beautiful things do not equate too expensive….”
What’s great is that she was an enterprising young AA woman from Detroit, who met the love of her life and moved into an even higher social strata from her humble beginnings. Clearly, she was already on her way because Sonny Bono introduced them in Palm Springs, a haven for retirees and the monied set. She could be any of us.
On the flip side, I was thinking about the furor over Prince Carl Alexander and Princess Corinna von Hohenzollern and how her new husband may very well love her, but being twice her age and thrice-married, he should be doing a better job at protecting her reputation. I just did a little research and found out Zsa Zsa Gabor’s husband introduced them (Lordy!). As much as we’d like to think grooming, decorum and training shouldn’t matter, women who use their Charm Offensive to move into exclusive social circles with established rules of engagement cannot ignore this.
He’s doing her a grave disservice to not plan for this. He’s obviously quite the character all on his own. Watching shows like Millionaire Matchmaker, I’ve noticed the men tend to have similar patterns of behavior where they want a very young woman and it’s not just for peak reproductive capacity. I’m going to be blunt because he’s made comments to the press about “knocking her up” (ugh). A lot of these overgrown children want inexperienced women who may not know how to negotiate all of the boundaries within a relationship well.
While interracial marriages between black women and white men are on the rise and tend to be the most stable, we still have to analyze all of the angles when evaluating men. We know a few details about the marriage from their press conference, but I have to admit there’s a few red flags.
Of course, this is but a mere blip compared to the scores of black women who never marry at all or who marry lesser-than men who place the burden of the family finances and care-taking squarely on the shoulders of their wives. Non-Reigning Royals have different rules and birth order/gender matters because everything is tied to the bloodline. I realize the benefits to showing footage of interracial couples in loving moments, but I’m not someone who needs to be convinced of such things.
Crown Princess Marie Chantal of Greece wasn’t born into royalty (but having a now-billionaire father certainly helped). Neither was HRH Duchess of Cambridge. When Royals marry commoners (even wealthy ones) there’s a level of expectation that they will flow seamlessly into the public role, in addition to the personal relationship. That’s a lot of stress! There is preparation time set aside to fulfill royal protocols and at the very least, to have time to adjust, be introduced to friends, etc. That seems to have been skipped with Princess Corinna. HSH Princess Angela of Liechtenstein met her Royal in NYC as a business owner for example. All of those women were educated and had bootstrapped their way to the position of meeting a certain caliber of men.
If she was my daughter I’d be very wary about her being with someone who acts like a Man-Child. Of course if they wanted to be together then marriage is the best choice rather than her being a sex partner. Who knows? Baroness Cecily de Massy of Monaco is a fourth wife and by all accounts is content. No one else has to agree with me, but this is why when you reach the other side of 35 everything looks differently.
When Prince Albert II of Monaco married last summer, there were grumblings in the press about a quick sweep under the carpet of yet another OOW child he had fathered. Double standards for women marrying into these families are pathetic but it’s not likely to change. Money is very nice to have, but morally questionable males in positions of power have little incentive to change. I will never blindly endorse any random marriage (even to a high profile spouse) just because.
We want to encourage women entering quality relationships that last. I realize many are criticizing the von Hohenzollerns because she’s a black woman, but some of it has to do with their image and behavior. If he had married Nicki Minaj people would be talking about them and I don’t think you could successfully argue it was solely because of her race. Image matters. Prince Carl needs to step up and be the leader he’s supposed to be as a husband and nip this ridicule in the bud. Princess Corinna could certainly learn a thing or two from the Baroness. I wish them success.