If You're An Ally Of Black Women You Had Better Go Over EVERYTHING With DISCERNMENT Before Supporting ANYTHING!

Why It’s Important To Recognize When Images Used To Evoke Certain Emotions Can Manipulate You

President Obama sitting on the bus where Rosa Parks refused to change seats.

What is your first reaction?

Do you get a warm and fuzzy feeling? Do you assume this action implies Obama is paying tribute? If so how does that translate into something tangible?

Are you satisfied by a ‘good’ feeling?

The Montgomery Bus Boycotts were an integral part of Civil Rights activism. Without the participation of African-American women there was no “movement”. Without the participation of black voters Obama will not be elected for a second term. Black women gave him his highest percentage block of votes (65%) in 2008.

How have ‘we’ benefited during this time in terms of political appointments, infrastructure building, job creation, business opportunities, etc? No excuses about obstructionists. Now compare that to other groups and how their needs have been addressed during this same period. Despite obstructionists.

This is a low-cost gesture at projecting something blacks and non-black liberals will respond positively to, without offending conservative voters.

I’m not saying the photo was generated with ill intent. Yet, the administration is making a (minimal) effort at courting the black vote. Supporters have a right to measure the return on their investment to decide if it paid out or not! Would you react the same way if Mitt Romney had posed for this photo instead?

You need to think of yourself as an asset that appreciates in value.

(Fake) Praising Black Women Is The NEW Denigration

With the success of the BWE social justice movement, many of the basic tenets that were openly opposed seem to go without incident. I look at it this way, certain oppositional forces already know not to directly challenge some of us lest they have their teeth handed to them on a platter. So they must find more subtle ways at undermining us.

Yet everybody knows we hold ALL the cards.

We have ALL the resources. They can’t SURVIVE without us.

We’re the ONLY ones holding the”community” together.

I realize this might go over the heads of most readers over 30 and non-hipsters, but the indie group Chester French has a new single titled, “Black Girls”. Oh – it’s getting a certain amount of attention – and praise.

The song lyrics are positive……

This ain’t no fetish, ain’t objectifying no one
I reject your deconstruction of my taste
But ignoramus always look in my direction
They’re so frustrated I don’t keep it in the race
Like they’ve never seen this before
Like it’s 1954
But the whole world’s turning brown and who cares
I’ve got a thing for black girls
La, la la la la, la la, la la la la la

but…deconstructing the video it’s full of conflicting images that OBJECTIFIES women despite the ‘compliment’! It completely negates their little PR blurb.  Media literacy is very important in knowing how to recognize DENIGRATION and PROTECT our image.

This video actually reinforces white women as the object of desire. It’s tantalizing imagery implies typical straight male pornographic fantasies of girl-on-girl action. Very LOW-BRAIN. For these reasons alone we’d have to give this a pass, but I had a personal exchange confirming why this group’s motives are questionable.

Lead singer D.A. Wallach is friends with rapper Asher Roth and DEFENDED him (dismissing his slur against black women where he repeated Don Imus’) on Twitter about 3 yrs ago. YES, I have a LOOOONG MEMORY! Do not support ANYONE unless they are PROVEN to be LOYAL & CONSISTENT allies.

This is another example of Hipster Racio-Misogyny. Now had this been a female-fronted LGBT group with a history of anti-racist activity, we could have analyzed it from a slightly different perspective. I don’t buy how a guy who ignored OBVIOUS bias against black women can suddenly display an honest and bold presentation that properly offers a celebration of feminine beauty and interracial love.

Or do you think Tyler Perry, Chris Rock, DL Hughley, Toure and ALL THE OTHER BLACK WOMAN BASHERS have repented? **Update – I just saw this video posted at a few blogs and this is EXACTLY what we’ve been trying to educate black women about! Thank the stars many of you are getting it. Boycotts aren’t necessary – when you leave JUST GO! No explanations necessary!

So now a change in tactics from those who think they’re special snowflakes encourages them to do something sneaky. Why not PRETEND to be a friend, get in our good graces, grab some attention, play DUMB if held accountable and funnel those resources under the table? Our focus has been on exposing black male terrorists (of which they are PLENTY) so non-blacks have largely flown under the radar unless it was something highly offensive. And so many black women are still so indoctrinated they circle these forums but are often hostile and oppose real change, it’s a multi-level issue.

This is the next wave of post-BWE BW-Bashing and Blackistan propaganda support. This is why it’s important to keep emphasizing why EVERY MAN, (other women) and SITUATION must be thoroughly EVALUATED!! Stop giving UNPROVEN people the benefit of the doubt.

There are plenty of nefarious white men out there, too. My post on men who claim casual sex is the new intimacy revealed one very UNSUITABLE male who was dating a black women, but harbored latent disrespect for ALL women. Yet, the overwhelming odds still swing in the favor of securing high quality interracial relationships BUT YOU MUST RID YOURSELF OF YOUR BLACK WOMAN-HATRED (internal/external) lest you attract a poor quality male or DBR with WHITE SKIN.

Everybody’s trying to make $$$ off black women now!

**I was going to cover this, but I just can’t be bothered discussing the ‘artistic’ racio-misogynistic cake debacle. It was your typical black-woman hating, user/leech black male aligning himself with whites who assume having a self-hating Negro ‘friend’ absolves them of all racism. Been there. Done that. Let’s keep moving forward!!

42 comments to If You’re An Ally Of Black Women You Had Better Go Over EVERYTHING With DISCERNMENT Before Supporting ANYTHING!

  • jubilee

    I subscribe to a website that is called movieguide.org..they critique movies from a Christian standpoint..they crtiqued the newest movie that beat out Hunger Games. I couldnt believe what they said: for one thing, they rated it LOW and also, they said it was DEMEANING to black women..I dont know if it was Ted Baehr himself that critiqued it, or someone else..I couldnt believe that they brought up 'black women'…hey, at least someone cares. If that 'french' video was any good, he shoulda said: GOTTA THING FOR KEISHA, etc. and made her look like a 'lady' instead of a 'ho….without clothes no doubt? whats sad, is many bw think the vid is 'cool'. I just think they were raised in a PORN CULTURE and dont know better

  • truthp

    I hate to say it but I think some of the dbr black dudes were right.
    I think some women have different standards for white men (read:lower) than they have for black men.

    I like this video,not the song though, better.
    The people in it are pretty and BOTH people are naked http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=np_dW7yzhM8&fe
    I think it would have shown guts if DA had did something like this.But with a better song of course.

    • Faith

      I wouldn’t give credence to anyone using bad faith arguments based on their jealousy.

      There are numerous threshold moments where some black women oppose accountability: weight, IRR dating, leaving Blackistan.

      The particular tipping point doesn’t matter. Like I said MANY women circling these forums are only willing to TOY WITH the concepts of BWE. Their personal limitations get in the way eventually.

      Since they can’t honestly refute BWE tenets and get others to agree with them, they’re particularly hostile to other black women who stick to their principles.

      I’m not going to spend more than a minute trying to persuade a grown woman about anything. Nor will I let insincere spectators derail serious discourse, but they’re usually the ones who get upset the quickest.

      • itsmeak

        This is all a good reason for me mostly liking music from almost any genre as long as it's before 1991 for the most part! LOL I didn't even know about this vid until you mentioned it Faith and I still haven't seen it because well you make it sound so off-putting and even so-called indie music from both side of the pond is so lackluster to me.

        New music is mostly very empty to me these days and now that I've said that please hand me my walker, my hearing aid, and my hair dye!

        • Faith

          Ok, old lady! I never told anybody they shouldn't watch it. There are worse videos. It is a ZERO VALUE representation of black women beyond featuring an attractive model -- in my opinion. Judge for yourself though.

    • Faith

      I just watched the video. It's nice. That would have been a better representation -- with clothes on of course! Some BW would see that one video and get swept away by "black love" fantasies. I looked at another video and the BM artist has a non-BW love interest. So, it's business as usual. We can however support the artist, V who co-starred in the video IF she's not denigrating other BW.

  • MsMellody

    Faith you said .."Fake praise without putting any skin in the game after assuming gullible BW who've been so thoroughly savaged by BM will lap this up. Not on my watch! "

    Exactly!!!! Loved your post about this latest effort to make $ off bw.

    • Faith

      Thanks. I'm beginning to wonder if this vigorous defense of obvious opportunists is motivated by a personal relationship with them or desire for one.

      We're not discussing the Obama photo op in depth and I think this election is far more important.

      • km aka kmblue

        This election is do or die. And I'm conflicted because I really don't believe that Obama deserves a second term but then again, I don't want Romney as the president either. On the issues, I really don't agree with either and I don't want to vote for the lesser evil, again, like I did in 2008. I'm still figuring out what I want to do with my vote, I'm going to vote no matter what because there are some big local and state elections here and my voice needs to be heard but I really have a bad feeling about this 2012 presidential election.

        • Faith

          Yup! If AAs didn't have such a huge victim mentality, so many things would be different. I don't really have any answers but black women need to get busy doing something productive.

  • elg

    If Chester French "likes" black women so much, why couldn't he appear in the video HIMSELF instead of the white woman? Could it be that he didn't appear in his own video because he didn't want to be seen making "love" (lust?) to a black woman who is unambiguously black?

    If too many white and non-black women get upset about his "liking" black women (and decide to boycott his "music") he can always pretend that the white woman in the video is the one who actually has the black woman "fetish", not him. After all, he is nowhere to be seen in the video.

    • Faith

      Fake praise without putting any skin in the game after assuming gullible BW who've been so thoroughly savaged by BM will lap this up. Not on my watch!

  • km aka kmblue

    "Black Girls" is another form of poison in a different candy coating. Just because a guy is singing that he has a "thing" for black girls doesn't mean that he's an ally or the song is worth praise. This song is business as usual with a hipster coating to make money. And even though hipsters are younger (teens-thirties), the racism and misogyny in that group is just as bad, just coated with "irony" to be cool and different. Just another okey-doke.

    As for the photo op on the bus… too many people don't recognize pandering when it is happening to them.

    • Faith

      Hopefully these conversations lead to more awareness! Thanks for stopping by.

    • jubilee

      okey doke is RIGHT— why was the BLACK GIRL IN THE VID NAKED? why did french show HIMSELF and a cute chocolate black girl whos a lady? wellllll sounds like da' ol' coon show thing to meeeeee.

      • Faith

        Because they're celebrating feminine beauty of course! Showing naked women is always a sign of respect. Something every caring father wants for his daughter. Ashton Kutcher approves according to his blog. So if they say it's 'black girl' adoration it MUST be true, right? Why would they LIE???!

  • Jamila

    I wasn't crazy about the video by Chester French and the song is OK, but DA Wallach has pretty consistent about his love of black women and he even graduated from Harvard with a degree in African Studies. So I think DA's heart is in the right place but the video's execution is off. Asher Roth also has a black girlfriend. Not to excuse Asher, but I think white people who have black lovers or close black friends may feel that they have a "pass" or that perhaps they are now "in the know" about black people and that this somehow gives them the ability to take liberties with the jokes they make.

    • Faith

      And any black woman who dates or marries a guy BLACK, WHITE or OTHER who thinks it's ok to continue using a slur referencing black women as "nappy-headed ho's" as a "JOKE" is just as racio-misogynistic and SLAVE-MINDED as the man she CHOSE.

      Because I can guarantee they don't joke about their Jewish heritage. I expect the SAME RESPECT!

      Like Attracts Like.

      You've made it clear what YOUR standards are.

      This is a warning to those who are still figuring things out to be very CLEAR about their influences.

      If those women dating out don't have any racial and ethnic pride they're no better than the DBR black males we've encouraged them to get away from.

      DBRs come in ALL races and genders.

      • truth p.

        Look at all the black men with black wives who have for no reason denigrated black women.Kevin Hart Steve Harvey the one dude that can't keep a show to save his life who has dreads and very nappy hair.

        I can't accept that from anyone.What happens is the black women who chose and got chose by a black or white man feel that THEY are okay because THEY have a man and their man isn't talking bad about them.So it's okay if their man poos on the rest of our heads.But then they find themselves in Mary Harvey or Torri Hart.

        If a man is damaged and attacks innocent people that does not know him with drive by slanders trust he has other issues and they will manifest over time to where YOU may be affected.

        • Faith

          Exactly. I don't understand why some of these foolish women bother to offer the SAME excuses for MALE racists, sex abusers, beaters, etc.

          The fact they protect RANDOM STRANGERS is far worse, but those women hate other women making better choices.

          • Jamila

            "The fact they protect RANDOM STRANGERS is far worse,…"

            And why do you attack RANDOM STRANGERS? You are always talking about looking at someone's body of work…so why don't you look at Chester French's body of work?

          • Faith

            I don't need to look at anything. Their anti-BW behavior has already been shown.

            YOU'RE the one with blinders on!

            This is exactly why foolish women REJECT sound advice when they toy with adapting beneficial practices READING legit BWE forums instead of LIVING them.

            Your rejection of basic common sense is your choice.

            Don't argue. Just walk away.

          • Jamila

            "Don't argue. Just walk away."

            I couldn't argue with you even if I wanted to, apparently you have no evidence of anything so there is nothing of substance for me to argue with.

          • Faith

            And you came to a forum that protects women's interests determined to DEFEND men who denigrate women.

            You're NO DIFFERENT from the black male trolls that used to harass us for calling out their behavior. You're not even remotely original in your false arguments.

            But keep digging that hole.

        • Jamila

          "Look at all the black men with black wives who have for no reason denigrated black women.Kevin Hart Steve Harvey the one dude that can't keep a show to save his life who has dreads and very nappy hair."

          I don't own a television, so I don't see the vast majority of the stuff that the black women I meet on the internet seem to be encountering. However, when I see that someone has record of mistreating black women I tune them out. For instance, I don't support Kevin Hart (I don't think I've seen him in any move), I don't know any guy on TV who wears dreads; and, I won't be going to go see Think Like A Man.

          But what does all that have to do with Chester French? Nothing. So why would I tar and feather CF for something some other men said and did? I have no reason to do that.

          • Faith

            You SEE what you want. You made your decision to support them NO MATTER WHAT before you posted your bold defense of them in the first place.

            You're no different from all the other women before you who fixate on some person or situation that limits BW free agency and responsibility.

            MOST of you are stuck in your excuse, denial, lesser-than mentalities. You don't use proper standards to evaluate men. You don't surround yourselves with the right influences.

            You need to go back and let the title of this post sink in.

          • Jamila

            "You SEE what you want. You made your decision to support them NO MATTER WHAT before you posted your bold defense of them in the first place."

            OK, I JUST told that you that I did not like the video, but that I think they had the right intentions. How is that a bold defense? I am defending them because you are attempting to denigrate them with no evidence (other than some secret, furtive conversation you might have had with someone, somewhere.) I think you made your decision to not like them 3 years ago when DA defended his friend Asher Rother--you were going to reject the video and the group no matter what the video looked like.

            "You don't use proper standards to evaluate men. You don't surround yourselves with the right influences."

            Faith, you are just extremely bitter and the stench of your bitterness is so loud I can smell it through my computer screen. Bitter people are always unhappy, always complaining, always upset, always trying to associate someone new with their old hurts and pains, etc., I hope you find healing from the pains that you are so clearly suffering from.

          • BWLivingWell

            "Faith, you are just extremely bitter and the stench of your bitterness is so loud I can smell it through my computer screen. Bitter people are always unhappy, always complaining, always upset, always trying to associate someone new with their old hurts and pains, etc., I hope you find healing from the pains that you are so clearly suffering from."

            I think you need to slow your roll there dear. That comment was WAY OUT OF LINE.

            You got called out on some of your dysfunctional/indoctrinated thinking and instead of owning up to it or going away quietly, you want to lash out. You only make yourself look like a fool.

            After all the things Faith has done for BWE, I think she deserves more respect than that.

          • Jamila

            Faith is Bitter. And maintaining a BWE blog is no guarantee that a person is not Bitter with a capital B.

          • BWLivingWell

            "You got called out on some of your dysfunctional/indoctrinated thinking and instead of owning up to it or going away quietly, you want to lash out. You only make yourself look like a fool. "

          • km aka kmblue

            She's bitter because she's demanding that this guy, Chester French, is held to a high standard and he's lacking because of what he's done in the past, something that was mentioned in the post?

            Dating a BW, being friends with a guy who dates BW, being friends with black people and making a song that looks like it is elevating BW but is really just sexually objectifying BW doesn't make someone an ally. But it could sure mean that this person is trying to make a quick buck off of BW.

            Recognizing that doesn't make someone bitter. It means that someone is using the brain that God gave them.

          • Faith

            She knows this -- which is why she's lashing out. Glad to see nobody else who has commented is as foolish.

            This is the most attention that opportunistic group has received in a long time.

          • Faith

            Thanks. I let her comments through as a teachable moment. She has dealings with the fake BWE Opportunist after all.

            So, she is NOT a TRUE supporter of BW free agency. They always get nasty when exposed. They're just showing their true DBR nature.

            I want to make sure this next phase of progression exposes and weeds out the BW who date/marry non-black men but harbor the SAME anti-woman dysfunction those who solely focus on black males do.

          • Faith

            Thanks for the laugh.

            Some of you SLAVE-MINDED black women think your youth, appearance and book knowledge set you apart but you're still ROTTEN to your core.

            A**holes seek out weak-minded women JUST LIKE YOU because you are so easily manipulated and will argue against the GOOD ADVICE from women who know better!!

            LEARN THE HARD WAY!

          • truthp

            "DA defended his friend Asher Rother" This is what you said Jamila.

            When Asher Roth said what he said about black women DA defended him against us.

            How are we bitter for being less than impressed and supportive?
            Wouldn't it be hypocritical of us to support DA after taking a stand for his friend against us?

            I wouldn't do this for a black man either. *nose in the air*
            No disrespect Jamila but I fail to see how this makes us look bad or bitter?

  • Mikey Tandino

    Yes. I agree. We need to ignore that cake foolishness and allow that piece of garbage to go back to starving for a living. Good post as always, Faith. I love it!

    • Faith

      Thanks. Now if BW would sit out Think Like A Man, so it goes away quickly we'll be onto something!

    • jubilee

      I hate that 'french' song--im into black girls? whaaaaat? why couldnt he or someone else write a song with her NAME--im into KEISHA etc.--but alas, they havent did a song with a womans name in it since SARAH SMILE back in the early 1970s--I believe donna summer may have ruined it with the song 'love to love you baby' when she had orgasms all over the airwaves--which coulda led to the c/rap music phenomea (sp) and the c/rap movement brought back the jimcrow coon show mess by our OWN MEN—sigh--

      • Faith

        Well Hall & Oates recorded Maneater and a few other songs with a few questionable lyrics, but for the most part kept it respectable. And they weren't talking about black women.

        Donna Summer didn't write her early disco songs. Not to mention, disco music was threatening because black women were at the forefront, singing about sexual satisfaction and relationship equity.

        It is the anti-thesis of (c)rap music.

        • elg

          "Not to mention, disco music was threatening because black women were at the forefront, singing about sexual satisfaction and relationship equity."

          But disco came and went so fast! This (c)rap "music" has been around forever it seems -- at least since the early 1980s. When is it going away?

          • Faith

            It’s not going away and has made a huge impact culturally. There were a few groups that put out great music, but the majority brought their hatred and diseased thinking. Outsiders swept in to make HUGE profits after many initially dismissed it. Now after trashing black women and promoting rampant consumerism and criminality, the societal blowback is coming home to roost. And since the genre isn’t as popular as it once was, dance music djs trying to break into the American market are working with many of the “urban” artists with dwindling sales. If BLACK people hadn’t supported the DISEASE, those artists would never have gotten popular.

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