I know this post is sure to kick up the Black Male Protection Reflex in many people. So my advice is to take a Valium and go sit in the corner. The reason why all of this accountability talk is so threatening is because no one has been held accountable. Generations are simply repeating what their elders did – or worse going backwards. Although there were significant social gains reaped in the ’60’s it has all but been completely squandered.
Of course there’s another component to this argument that is also rarely discussed. We are of course referring to HETERO black males in these narratives. The same DBR behaviors exhibited by some men and used against black women will also be expressed toward others based on their orientation or gender identity. Also the women clinging to their church totems, who may be never-married single mothers and are in misery sometimes focus too much on what some “phantom” gay person is doing because it provides a (temporary) release for them. Many of these blacks who are opposed to gay marriage for “religious” reasons don’t even get married themselves! Not with a 30% marriage rate amongst blacks, an 80% OOW birth rate, a 70% unmarried status for black women and an HIV rate that’s the number #1 killer of black women 25-34.
Every week since the aftermath of my conversation with DBR Middle Class educated black males who reveled in bashing Serena Williams and bristled at my critiques I realize more and more men belong on the other side of that line. How are we supposed to distinguish who’s safe and who’s wearing a mask in disguise? Is it based on musical tastes or income to debt ratio or religious practice? Surprisingly it doesn’t take much to get them to reveal themselves but clearly they feel they can move without impunity. We can use that to our advantage on one hand but what of those that still consider themselves “decent”? No one ever admits to engaging in damaged beyond recognition behaviors! Others silently support them because they still get to benefit from it indirectly. Those who push a limited view of blackness (i.e. anti-intellectualism or gross materialism) also continue to be a disservice. We can’t let ourselves get tripped up in the process.
When we discuss divesting and leaving this mentality behind what will it be replaced with? We need to be thinking about that. Of course leaving the unsafe physical areas and modifying certain situations immediately is key here. We see there is no mass push at defending black girls and women. Any mention of this is met with complete silence. The latest reinforcement of this indoctrination is in the typical reaction from many blacks in defending the actions of Henry Louis Gates against the police. Even the President supported him.
Although I agree there’s a history of aggression and misuse of law enforcement, I don’t think Gates was without some responsibility for adding fuel to the fire. Now that the person who initially called the police has been revealed to have not been a neighbor at all and to have grossly exaggerated (ok she lied) about the “suspicious activity” the rush to throw this on the altar of great white oppression kicked into high alert.
The problem I have is the lack of racial or ethnic pride on the part of Gates to excuse this instigator completely and only focus on the white male officer’s actions. So he defers to a white woman, Lucia Whalen discussing how he understood her concern and he’s send her flowers while complaining about ill treatment for being a “black male in America” by the white cop. He also ignored the black cop on the scene because that didn’t fit into his narrative of “victim”. I somehow doubt he would have been so concilliatory had Lucia been a black woman.
The “black community” indoctrination of dysfunction is so insidious, so pervasive I want to wash my hands of many people completely just to keep some order. Perhaps this is because I’m still working on my life outside the Matrix (of Abnormal Values) but I can’t help but feel a little out of sorts from time to time. Actually I’m not exactly thrilled carrying around this knowledge. Membership has its responsibilities. Realizing you’re one of the sane in an insane asylum of confusion and distorted thinking makes me want to go live on an island by myself. This is where finding a small group of like-minded individuals is absolutely necessary. It’s a lifeline that we’ll need.
In the meantime black girls are still being attacked and are defenseless against the onslaught of criminal activity and apathy. Thanks to the glorification of that lifestyle blacks don’t have a leg to stand on when it comes to complaining about police malfeasance but they don’t get that. I’ve been reading a lot of other blogs whose readership is either predominantly white or law enforcement oriented and it’s been a real eye-opener. The general consensus is that President Obama should not have criticized the police and that Gates exaggerated his unpleasant encounter. Oh – and these white people do not care to hear any complaining about racism because there’s a black man in the White House.
So the majority of blacks are shooting themselves in the foot by not addressing these internal pathologies and consequences. The symbolic payoff comes attached with many strings. Sadly I don’t think the correct analysis is coming. What is somewhat surprising to me is the intelligentsia and elite classes seem to be just as clueless. Aren’t they supposed to be “better, harder, faster, stronger” and know more than the rest of us “peons”? When I was willing to discuss DBR behavior in black men I got a lot of grief. When I sought to bring it full circle by addressing the choices some black women are making I got grief. I can’t win for trying. If people have their heads stuck in the sand, what type of generational, mental, financial or quality of life growth can reasonably be expected?
The misogyny and homophobia prevalent in the black community has me on pause. It’s not that other groups don’t have similar issues but they also have safeguards in place to ensure their growth and/or continued domination. Blacks collectively have nothing in place but discussing the evils of white racism as it pertains to black males. If people are not fighting discrimination across the board then blacks will not progress any more than where things stand now. To suggest moving away from the knee-jerk responses followed by no strategic choices is looked at as a form of heresy. It’s met with complete resistance. If it’s not those engaged in DBR behavior, then it’s those who are in denial it exists, that it’s as wide-spread as it is or those focused on protecting the guilty. They are no use to me – or you once you leave. If you ever do…..