We interrupt this regularly scheduled blog post to take a moment to ask a serious question:
Are you really in support of black women?
ALL black women – including acknowledging the contributions of African-American women that pretty much everyone else benefits from and appropriates the Civil Rights model those women perfected for your group’s personal use?
Some may have wondered why I chose to post “lighter” fare the past few weeks. Well…of course if you are a discerning reader you already know subtle doesn’t equal lack of depth and adapting new mentalities can be employed in a variety of ways. Besides, I’m getting rather fed up at the poseurs and voyeurs who are mere passengers seeking an amusement ride.
Let me speak plainly now:
All the faux (or real) outrage in the world will disappear into the ether without a well-supported infrastructure.
Some of us have been telling you all along to – -
a) get your own house in order first
— and then
b) think more critically about who and what you associate yourselves with.
This is why I had to write about the fake BWE infiltrators AND traitors amongst us. There isn’t only one people. This is why the call for accountability and transparency is tantamount. Yet, if women don’t know what they stand for and who they are to begin with, they will choose…cotton-candy flavored poison instead of eating their vegetables.
Total 100% agreement on every issue is not the goal. Core support that is consistent, measurable and reliable has been the end game all along. There is and has been and will continue to be a steady diet of poison being offered in publicly attacking black women as less than but guess what; the majority of it will ALWAYS come from other blacks. So, I’m not going to be more outraged by so-called “outsiders” when the various internal insurgents are detonating bombs from behind the wall.
Yesterday it was this, tomorrow it will be that. Rinse and repeat. While we most certainly should not ignore such denigration, how we respond is just as important. Boycotts don’t work. Letter-writing may generate a moderate response. Totally cutting off the oxygen to the haters is what is in order, but we have an underlying and as-yet unresolved problem. Without racial and ethnic pride any response will be limited at best and not sustainable. It will always be reactionary to aggression and stimuli.
How many of you have gone back to buying Pepsi products after the SuperBowl flap? How many of you still read and buy Essence? Plunked down money for the latest Tyler Perry/T.D. Jakes/Martin Lawrence etc. version of “black women ain’t &*%*” movie? Why would anyone take you seriously? Feel free to respond in ways you find appropriate but what are the long-term goals at hand?
Oh, by the way I’ve also noted how some “liberal” non-black media entities are now responding [very selectively of course] to some of the denigration. Yeah…we’ve done all the heavy lifting so picking up a few socks off the floor shouldn’t be that much trouble. We’ll see if it’s a sustained effort or an hijacking attempt for credibility and funding.
If some of these non-black entities seriously want to help uplift black women then they should be speaking to those of us who have been leading and protecting the BWE social justice movement and others who are defending black women from denigration and violence. Otherwise, it’s just more lip-service to look “concerned”. There’s an election coming up after all and people are going to want our money, time and resources – AGAIN. Hopefully, THIS TIME some of you will DEMAND PRE-PAYMENT IN FULL before lifting a pinky finger in their direction.
Of course if blacks in general had weighed the unforeseen costs of various examples of “progress” [I'll leave that discussion of defining progress for another time] like the Obamas being in the White House, with an attractive AND intelligent African-American First Lady [we're going to set aside the utter foolishness of allowing (c)rap artists who bash black women have such access to her for a moment as well] they would be PROACTIVE IN PROTECTING THEMSELVES TO BEGIN WITH.
We’re not even at a point we can even think about dominating as a collective. That’s over in fact. Yet, for the very reasons I’ve had to make caveats is why there are no such provisions being generated. It all comes back to those who want to escape their black identity, the broken family structure, the allowance of violence, the unchecked racio-misogyny and the grabbing for rainbow coalitions so AA women can be the water-carriers for everyone else.
If some people, black women and AA women in particular were focused on our individual elevation along with respecting our heritage we would be fully funding the work of the BWE activists. We’d set up think tanks. We’d create viable media and other entities that we own and control for our own benefit. Most importantly, we’d set standards, erect boundaries and enforce protocols.
We’d stop financially supporting our oppressors and leeches.
We wouldn’t close ourselves off in woman-designed boxes.
We wouldn’t actively block the progress of other black women.
There’s one important step in correctly identifying the indoctrination that has tripped, derailed and ruined the lives of other women. Then there’s the moving on factor. We already know divided houses fall. If your internal house [point of view and expectations] are out of alignment with what’s best for you, you are of no use to anyone else but the leeches.
This forum is going into its fourth year and we’re still rehashing the same scenarios. I could close up shop and come back in a year and it would be in the midst of the same drama – guaranteed! What will have changed except for a few centimeters of forward motion with complaining and measured labor all the way before taking a huge step backwards (compromise, magical thinking and sabotage)?
The lack of support is very telling. The lack of respect speaks volumes. The protests of being “too busy to do A, B or C” shows where your priorities lie. Watching a black woman as Sapphire on a reality show is more important than feathering your nest, mentoring a young girl or clearing away useless things/people from your life.
I’m not so sure many of you really want to be free because your actions display a victim mentality. Where’s the power? Where’s the self-satisfaction? Where’s the robustness from a life well-lived? Where’s the plan? Where’s the beef?
To my surprise my most popular blog posts to date have been about Della Reese and the first entry in the Surrounding Yourself With Light & Beauty series. Was it curiosity, the particular subjects or an indication of a shift? Only time will tell. Don’t think I’m depending on this one little post to be your “lightbulb” moment either. I just had to make sure I stated things for the record. I see what’s going on behind the scenes. I don’t need to discuss it publicly but I am not a fool. I am also not going to attempt to produce blood by squeezing a stone. I have done my part — and then some. The rest is up to you…or not. People support what they value and junk the rest.