For many black women navigating exclusive dating waters within the black community or “black thinking” with its singular focus on or influence by lesser-quality black males we’ve mistakenly thought carrying a few extra pounds would make us more appealing to them.
Read more after the jump…..
While many of us will never go to extremes with targeted plastic surgery or exercises to pad an excessive hourglass frame or enlarge our posteriors to Kim Kardashian Buffy the Body Venus Hottentot status many of us have taken what seems like admiration too far and allowed our health to take a backseat to vanity.
Think about it for a moment. If black women’s bodies were the real ideal for black males why would they have steadily rejected so many black women with natural curves, great skin that often belies our true age and other attributes many other women use surgery to imitate?
This isn’t about them.
This is about you.
I declare you’ve been lied to in an attempt to keep you tethered to false concepts that have no bearing on reality. It’s a tactic at limiting more women from being their best and removes us from potential competition status for other women. It also stops many women from exploring interracial dating waters and the more plentiful options available.
In reviewing previous archival postings at the Art Of Being Feminine website, some males were asked what they were looking for in an ideal woman. One comment really stood out for me which I’ve excerpted.
“Lower status guys will accept almost anyone…If you hold yourself to a higher standard, you can achieve more. The ideal woman has high standards herself and offers value. She’s not a bottom feeder!”
Reading that I’ve concluded it is in fact the warped mentality of males with below average standards who are of questionable caliber that wish to place women in such limited roles. It isn’t a cultural exploration – it’s an act of slow sabotage to get us to shift our standards downward. All for male approval. We must also remember how the standards for black women have always been skewed to eliminate the majority for a few within a sub-group: those who were lighter-skinned and have Euro-centric features and hair. It has only gotten worse.
The idea of otherwise lean women starting to skew heavier on top of the daily assaults on their person and the collective denigration has led many women to take a concept too far. Not to mention those young girls who’ve eaten themselves into obesity as a reaction to stress (which I’ll discuss in Monday’s post). It’s one of the reasons why so many have a hard time believing non-black males will find them attractive and not a lesser-than.
This is just one more layer of control designed to keep black women in the (black-indoctrination) Matrix.
From now on, for the sake of our health we must shatter that dead concept and embrace health and a normal body weight. It’s just a few steps from thickness to obesity to death if we start adopting non-beneficial habits to begin with.
I’d also recommend all women read the post about Mentally Unstable Men —
In case you’re thinking that getting involved with a mentally unstable man isn’t very likely, psychological studies have determined that 8 out of 25 men have some kind of physiological disturbance. And 4 out of 25 men are mentally unstable to a SEVERE degree.
So, on the basis of these findings, at least 1 out of 2 men is mentally unstable (or maladjusted) to some extent. And at least 1 man out of 4 is severely unstable or maladjusted.
—- and take notes on a series of questionable behavior that the more forgiving of us may mistakenly allow – and suffer for later.