Marie Claire can try to spin it any way they like but the lopsided reporting in Love & Race reinforces white male bashing and black women intra-racial relationship myopia. Remember, everyone claiming to support your interests may not be. You must carefully evaluate people, places and practices.
Why didn’t Marie Claire publish the stories of these couples (Jonathan Sam/Shevy Katan) and (Arielle Davis/Ian Julie) instead of pulling the Bait & Switch? Glancing at Love & Race, it LOOKS attractive on the surface until you thoroughly READ the
stealth OBVIOUS poisonous message DISCOURAGING non-white women/white men pairings!!
As we discussed in Has Joanna Coles & Marie Claire Declared War On Blacks, Asians & Latinas Marrying White Men? last month, there was a rather blatant anti-interracial message threaded throughout the series. Two women (Asian and Latina) reported very negative experiences with white men that was only remedied once they went back to ‘their kind’. I know it may be difficult to believe, but now that it’s posted online you can read it yourself!
From Never Marry A Mexican – One day when I was 8 years old, I tagged along with my dad to his job as a janitor at the city airport. Even I could see that he seemed invisible. Although he had worked there for three years, many people didn’t know his name. By comparison, the tall white pilots strolled through the airport with purpose, commanding respect. My father nodded to them and told me, “That is the kind of man you want to marry. A white man.”
After living in Manhattan for a decade, I had dated casually but hadn’t met anyone who fit my husband model. From talking to my family in California, I knew that my younger female cousins were repeating the same pattern: They wanted so badly to emulate the roles played by Jennifer Lopez in films like Maid in Manhattan, Monster-in-Law, and The Wedding Planner— young Latinas who marry wealthy white men. But if I hadn’t achieved that by my late 30s, was there any hope for my cousins?
I was struck by a realization: On my own, I had achieved the kind of life my father said only a white man could give me. This revelation freed me to be with the man I loved.
From The Asian Thing – Sometimes men try to get my attention —By greeting me in Chinese: “Ni hao ma.” If I tell them I’m Korean, they’ll try Japanese: “Konichiwa.” Perhaps they think all Koreans speak Japanese? My physical Asian-ness (fair skin, jet-black eyes, China-doll-round cheeks, and petite size) is apparently blinding — it’s all they can see.
I tend to be attracted to aggressive men and often perceive Asian guys as passive. (I know, I know — I need to work on my own stereotyping!) But I’ve found myself in a dating pool of mostly white men, many of whom have offensive, clichéd views — in a word, fetishists.
So where does all of this leave me and my single self? Since I can’t single-handedly re-educate mankind, I’m trying to make changes in my own life — like being more open-minded about dating Asian men.
In addition, one BIG highlighted section in the print version reinforced Blackistan Thought Propaganda using a never-married black woman to discourage the BWE message. It’s included in the online segment. I’ve already covered that foolishness in my first piece. I’ve said all I’m going to about it.
Between certain protected and privileged women claiming victim-hood and other women waking up from being used to feather male nests, it may seem confusing. You may think these entities have power over you. You don’t need to react as if you’re under attack. This is a seismic (mental) shift to a societal imbalance beginning to correct itself. Just take note these tactics are shiny objects meant to distract you.
Women achievers have no time to support non-beneficial ideologies. Don’t be in the least surprised at the multiple efforts by those trying to remove you from competition and stick you in a box. We are going global. We offer an amazing Return On Investment. Other people have been eager for us to step out of the shadows. Keep up the good work in fulfilling your dreams!