Picking up where we left off at Pt. 1 of Evaluating Men #17, the overwhelming consensus is one young woman made a critical error in who she chose to mate and marry and must make solid exit plans for her sake and that of her unborn child. Phew, the ramifications are intense!
*After I wrote this intro, the woman wrote in. I stand by what I said. Please send her love, light and wisdom. Hopefully, she makes choices that benefit her.
We all make mistakes. It’s just some can have more serious consequences. Even deadly. The HIV conversation begins now……
HIV rate climbs to record highs for black ‘gay’ and bisexual men. I put gay in quotes for a reason. Men who have emotional, romantic or physical connections with other men are not mutually exclusive to those who willingly identify as gay (or bisexual). The CDC rightfully avoids any specific LGBT labels and lists them as Men Who Sleep With Men (MSM).
I think author E. Lynn Harris covered this dynamic very well with the character Basil Henderson. Baller. Stunner. Sex symbol. Relationships with numerous women. Has a child. Has sex with men regularly and one could infer prefers it, but wants to maintain a certain image. He will never admit there is a closet, let alone come out of one.
He’s not supposed to be considered down-low because to some WW feminists and gay BM activists (note the connection and whose interests are being served) there’s a difference.
Well, between prison culture and perpetual criminality the number of BM inmates outnumbers college grads. Men will have their sexual needs met by hook or crook. Whether they admit to being (or are actually) gay (or not) ISN’T THE POINT!
The fact many of these males are having unprotected sex with black women is. I’m not putting up any disclaimers or caveats either. You don’t get always get a second chance from toying with life-threatening issues. The CDC reports a 73+% of OOW birth rate based on findings within a 5-year period, added onto the previous 40 years. A recent USA Today article says it’s currently at 80% which does not surprise me at all. The CDC also lists HIV rate of infection as the highest amongst BW 25-44 amidst all groups of women. Not to mention numerous other ailments and infections. See the chart below and be sure to read the CDC findings from the link provided.
It isn’t that BW are racking up an endless list of sex partners, but the men they’re with are.
- High prevalence of HIV
- Lack of knowledge of HIV status
- Complacency about risk
CDC Suggested Solutions:
- Only have sex (i.e., anal, vaginal or oral) if you’re in a mutually monogamous relationship with a partner you know is not infected.
- Use a condom every time you have anal, vaginal or oral sex.
You can play dumb or protect yourself, but don’t let anyone else obfuscate the issue. Stop limiting yourself to black males and pick quality partners. When the denial brigade at the NAACP feels compelled to create an HIV manual for black churches you know there’s an as-yet unacknowledged epidemic. Yes, it predictably focuses on black males. 1 out of 16 of your kings will contract HIV. This is 2012 – not 1985.
This is why I had a near mini-fit about this 2 years ago when Dr. Shannon Hader intentionally downplayed the underlying causes of the then 90% HIV rate amongst the black population in DC at a local Ted Conference. Please go back and read it. Nothing has changed. Oh wait, it has! It’s worse!!
We know who faithfully populates and supports the black church: black women. When your bodies start dropping it’ll be too late. This has nothing to do with the ‘black elite’. Yet going back to the Obama/Romney post you saw how other people who never reciprocate got twitchy by the mere possibility of BW pulling their resources. HIV is but ONE major detrimental condition of the present state of the black community and why continuing to support Blackistan in any shape or form will lead to your death.
See this Frontline story on this as-yet misdirected epidemic that will NOT stay on the down-low for much longer!
ACT-UP Founder Larry Kramer