Don’t Support The Hustlers Who Rob Black Women Of Their Dignity: Just Say NO to Tyler Perry!

I know many of you will have to fight the urge to “see themselves represented” on screen but before you plunk down your hard-earned money to see the latest Tyler Perry minstrel show on Friday I’d like to remind you of a few things:

  • Black people are operating under mass dysfunction, lies and utterly insane notions of what passes for “black” and “black culture” these days.
  • Tyler Perry bulldozed his way onto this project by pushing out a BLACK WOMAN WRITER/DIRECTOR.

Furthermore, Perry doesn’t even like black women! We are simply his cash-cows and as long as we support his projects he can use our money to further denigrate us!

The collective silence and true lack of sisterhood between black women helped facilitate Ntozake Shange’s mental anguish when she originally published For Colored Girls. We could also include Pearl Cleage’s Mad At Miles, Alice Walker, Zora Neale Hurston and any number of AA women creatives who told it like it is and have warned us time and time again.


We know this already but we keep going back for more abuse as the denier/liar brigade continues their assault at our attempts to dismantle dysfunction. Look at the insane response from the black woman hating misogynists (both male AND female) who’ve attacked the BWE/BWIR forums, Bill Cosby/President Obama’s attempts at addressing the fatherlessness mass dysfunction and the motley crew of Internet Ike & Ikettes who’ve latched onto tearing down No Wedding No Womb.

That’s all too obvious but what’s worse are those who compromise themselves and want to sacrifice us in the process by accepting mediocrity if not blatant warfare.

You’ve heard the arguments:

“There are so few portrayals of us blah blah blah”.

This is an abdication of any responsibility on our part for not having an infrastructure (esp when so many black stars are making upwards of $20M per picture) AND placing blame with outsiders (blaming white people AGAIN for not “giving”).

Remember Oscar Micheaux?  — via Wikipedia:

The advent of the motion picture industry intrigued him as a vehicle to tell his stories. He formed his own movie production company and, in 1919, became the first African-American to make a film. He wrote, directed and produced the silent motion picture, The Homesteader, starring pioneering African-American actress Evelyn Preer, based on his novel of the same name. He used autobiographical elements in The Exile, his first feature film with sound, in which the central character leaves Chicago to buy and operate a ranch in South Dakota. In 1924, his film, Body and Soul, introduced the movie-going public to Paul Robeson.

Given the times, his accomplishments in publishing and film are extraordinary, including being the first African American to produce a film to be shown in “white” movie theaters. In his motion pictures, he moved away from the “Negro stereotypes” being portrayed in film at the time. In his film Within Our Gates, Micheaux attacked the racism depicted in the D.W. Griffith film, The Birth of a Nation.

The Producers Guild of America called him “The most prolific black – if not most prolific independent – filmmaker in American cinema.” During his illustrious career, Oscar Micheaux wrote, produced and directed forty-four feature-length films between 1919 and 1948 and wrote seven novels, one of which was a national bestseller.

“If only whites would do this for us (slavery reparations, etc). It’s because of racism”

Racism isn’t going away anytime soon as long as black engage in self-defeating, predatory, misogynistic, violent, criminal behavior against each other.   As long as black males continue to mistreat black women the “white’s man boot” isn’t getting off his back. It’s called karma. Blacks have all the tools and resources at their disposal when and if they decide to thrive – on their own.

“This is a celebration” as if one caveat as the exception opposed to the steady diet of depravity makes it ok.

As Gina stated in her post on why those offering even tentative praise to BET for one program doesn’t undo 30 years of utter evil and foolishness, blacks are far too gullible and willing to settle. Now there’s yet another post stemming from the indoctrinated mind of a black women who should know better suggesting that because a rap artist/criminal admits his lucrative career denigrating black women may have actually caused harm (really?!) that automatically means he’s repentant. Huh? Pedophiles who admit they like raping children are not SORRY about it! They’re just letting you know that they know EXACTLY WHAT THEY’RE DOING. Sociopaths and narcissists do not have the emotional capacity to feel remorse!!


People complain about the Black In America series which is such an obvious attack on what’s left of the integrity and image of better functioning blacks but they keep going back to watch…and complain. When non-African Americans seek to exploit black pathology for their career gain (yeah I’m talking to YOU Soledad) but deliberately paint a rosy picture for their own ethnic group (compare the Latino in America series) it’s a HIT JOB plain and simple. Yet some of you keep watching!


People (I fell for this one) who watched the BET Awards to see that promised Michael Jackson tribute but got a career criminal rap artist sexualizing his 10-year old daughter while she danced to his song about %&^* multiple random women.


Look, I know the idea of seeing Mrs. Huxtable in a major motion picture may cause many of you to cave but remember this: That money you’re spending is lining the pockets of a very damaged man with some serious unresolved issues who regularly trashes black women.


The only reason why he chose to hijack this film is his ego needs to be fed and he covets an Oscar and respectability from whites. Even though Tyler Perry owns his own studio and may or may not be paying his writers their rightful union wages (finding loopholes to steal from blacks while claiming to celebrate blacks) people are confusing a grudging admiration for his work ethic with quality of product. He does nothing beyond the 2010 version of Coon-A-Thon. Hollywood will take his money but they do NOT respect him (Oprah non-withstanding).

Speaking of Oprah, have you noticed how graphic her shows on abuse (particularly sexual abuse) have been? After she gave a one hour commercial to Mo’Nique’s sick brothers and enabling parents to make excuses and deny her abuse last April I was disgusted. Now that it’s her final season she and her producers have spoken explicitly about the physical details of abuse of the guests they feature. There is NO BENEFIT for random strangers to know how someone was raped.

I use this as an example because this is where the line has been crossed between letting go of shame by naming your abuse and stepping forth boldly as a survivor…and a sick fascination with depravity. I’d love to hear from qualified mental health professionals about this.

By the way, I thought I’d also remind folks that Lucifer is equally as resourceful and keeps very busy as well. Being destructive.

I cannot tell anyone else what to do. I can point out that for those black women who want to separate themselves from the pack and the mass delusional thinking supported by a majority of African-Americans would best be served by thinking about the long-term impact of their support.

How are things ever going to change if we keep riding around in circles – making other people rich – while our collective image further slides into the gutter? Why can’t those black women eager for acceptance and affirmation purchase Ntozake Shange’s works directly and buy the DVD from the 1982 production?

Stop Letting Black Males Hijack Our Stories (On Your Dime)!!

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71 Replies to “Don’t Support The Hustlers Who Rob Black Women Of Their Dignity: Just Say NO to Tyler Perry!”

  1. This is bigger than self-hating black men — yes — there are just as many black woman hating black women out there supporting this nonsense and beating each other up (usually related to saving, supporting and coddling black male interests. You need to forget the "white agenda" and stop being focused on white hegemony. Again, your focus is on reacting to external stimuli and NOT on the internal motivations blacks have more killing and cannibalizing each other. Also, again this forum is not focused on black "people" but BLACK WOMEN and AA in particular. You are venting all over the place and need to give yourself time to think about the mental slavery fuleing these actions that people choose to hold on to. Also, this thread is rather old so I'm not sure if you're going to get a response from the other commenters after so much time has passed.

  2. I genuinely like this angle that you have on the topic. Certainly wasn’t thinking on this at the time I started browsing for tips. Your ideas was totally easy to understand. Im glad to find out that there’s an individual online that gets it precise what its is talking about.

  3. I have yet to watch anything by TP. The first I heard about one of his movies had the Madae character (I guess I spelled the name right). When I heard a friend of mine describe the character I immediately determined that I would NEVER EVER attempt to watch ANYTHING made by the man. On top of it from what I hear he is playing that character by dressing in drag (another offending thing to me). When I have tried to state that I will not watch any of his work, people looked at me sideways asking if I had seen whatever. I said NO and that I would NEVER EVER support ANYONE that produces the dreadful Madea character. My conclusion at the time was ( and apparently my guess was right) that if he produced such a dreadful character that is supposed to portray a black woman that I probably would NEVER see a good portrayal of a black woman. Why would I spend one time (or waste precious time in my life) partaking of entertainment that demeans me as a black woman? My time is better spent living my life WELL and to the FULL.

    1. Pamela: You were wise enough to spare yourself a lot of unnecessary nonsense. I have watched Toilet Paper films in the past and would feel as if I had been soiled afterwards. It just took me some time to figure out why. Seeing some of my favorite childhood actresses working again was also a nice ploy at confusing the situation. He is very manipulative and calculating. Anyhoo, once all the dots were connected I realized he was just the sneaky version of the rapper who refer to BW with obvious insults, denigrating us from a different angle. It seems we've so thoroughly allowed our collective consciousness to be shaped by the warped thinking of damaged black males that we don't even think to reject this illegitimate perspective. Many blacks really do form and reinforce their identities based on suffering, struggle and pain and the trappings of religiosity versus an active spiritual practice and resolutions of said "issues" to a life of abundance. It's been an eye-opening experience to see just how entrenched this defeatist attitude permeates the collective while they wait for "Jesus" to deliver them instead of stepping off the Cross themselves.

  4. Thank you Faith for speaking it out against Tyler's exploitation of black women and profiteering from cooning and neo-buffoonery (becasue of the black community's stupidity). Thank you for the reference on Oscar Micheaux. I read about him in the past and he faced much worse racism than Tyler but was a great film-maker.

    1. TinaJ: Welcome and thanks for your comment. I hope other black women will start to see and avoid being sucked into the Vortex of Coonery and giving their money to others who spit on them. If Tyler Perry was making a series of films castigating (but it would be rightfully so) the dysfunctional black male behavior but only limited it to the stereotype they would obviously be upset. So he picks the soft target: black women. He ain't fooling anybody!

  5. Here's a blast from the past, courtesy of Muslim Bushido blog:

    "As you noted, it's very hard to take folks seriously when they LIKE music and other products that debase THEM. Anybody who wants abundant LIFE is going to have to make some choices about the various deathstyle products in their home. Across the board. There's no way around it."

    1. Foreverloyal: Pretty much everything Khadija's been saying for the past 2 years has been 100% spot on and we're seeing it unfold before our very eyes. In fact I'm going to stick my head in the sand right now….(Wink)

  6. Evia said:

    “Can someone please explain to me why AAs try to operate by a totally different set of rules in the SAME world where everyone else lives????? I am serious. Why? Did a higher power designate us AAs as “the entitled ones” while I wasn’t paying attention????”

    Like Lauren Hill said in her song ‘Everything Is Everything’- “it seems we lose the game before we even start to play, who made these rules were so confused easily lead astray” (end)

    Many AAs believe the rules were made up by white people, they wonder is marriage for blacks? I was confused growing up in regards to Christianity, it seemed to me like white people had the monopoly on that, until I read the bible and could see clearly it was being marketed as something that it wasn’t.

    Faith said: “Why are blacks more than one third of the entire movie audience yet have less than a 10% representation? Why are we “complaining” about the lack of roles for black women? Why are we allowing roles that are written for AA women being given to non-AA women but it’s not reciprocated?”

    We are so powerful as AA woman. I’m not going to wait for the masses. Like the word says, “let him how has ears to hear-hear”. I’m going to do what ever is in my control and use my power in a way that benefits me as an AA woman.

    White people are watching TP. I was at a church, small all white. The pastor came to know I had gone through a divorce and wanted to ‘encourage’ me. He casually mentioned over the pulpit that “it wasn’t my fault”, but that I should “watch the way I talk, or my attitude”. I was perplexed; anyone who knows me knows I’m not given to anything loud and such. Later when I was invited over their house, they were talking about how they watched this TP film and how it’s Godly and has a Godly message. When I watched a little of it, I could immediately see where he had gotten his impression from. It’s not as if he interacts with black women.

    Thank you Faith for this post. Some women just need to straight out be told. And at lest they were told. I tell you what it’s gonna be like the days of Noah, when he was building the ark and people weren’t ‘getting on board’ so to speak. We who have FLED to take hold of hope are going to be saved.

    1. Squarlymade: Some well-meaning "liberal" whites who aren't necessarily trying to be racist will watch the mess produced by Toilet Paper and their ilk thinking because so many other blacks like it that it must be okay. As for this pastor thinking it's godly….well neither the pulpit nor creating a baby requires a license, training or any prior experience so as with all things we must vet others and take things with a grain of salt.

    2. Squarlymade, thanks for your response. Maybe you realize some of this, but the main reason why SOME blacks 'lose before they even begin to play the game' is mostly due to magical thinking and its twin: non-critical thinking. For ex., as you said, when you actually started reading the Bible for yourself, you realized that many portions of the scriptures have been corrupted by self-serving humans. If blacks want to believe the lies of other people, that's on them. I am extremely skeptical of ANY minister's and other "church folks' interpretation of the scriptures. I can read and interpret for myself.

      I would estimate that 75% of the thoughts that typical AAs have are magical thoughts. I could easily pinpoint exactly why so many AAs 'lose the game' so soon if we were to look at major areas like marriage, childrearing, education, finance, health, and various other areas. It's really pretty simple.

      And IF blacks are going to throw out other peoples' rules for surviving and thriving, then where are THEIR new replacement rules that work? Sane surviving and thriving rules are necessary, and must be committed to, enforced, evaluated continually, tweaked, etc. However, what we see in many black social circles, communities, churches, etc. are situations where the person who can talk the loudest, has the most charisma or has bravado, has the cutest hair, chic clothes, late-model/expensive car, or has certain "credentials" that will impress white folks, etc. becomes the default leader. Barely anyone checks the person's track record to find out what the person can actually DO for others. Let's face it. Many blacks are bowled over to the max by superficial things. That's driven by magical thinking.

      This is exactly why so many bw choose bm mates poorly. They're bowled over by a bm's height, width of his shoulders, his charming/funny personality, swag, shape of his head, his teeth, his car, his cologne, his wardrobe, the way he dances, what he SAYS he 'fixna do,' etc. I've actually heard quite a few bw say that this is why they 'went there' with a bm. This too is the result of magical thinking.

  7. It is how we see ourselves and we have got in the habit of always being clowns in the media. I am not a Tyler Perry fam myself, because I am so tired to seeing the commerical black fat women, I am hoping the film he is directing, he does it justice.

    1. TP is trying to come up with his "Precious" and we're not talking Lord of the Rings! he'll keep trying but hopefully he won't succeed. I really hope this movie fails its projected targets so some of these people start figuring out we mean business. Yes, I know that Ntozake has claimed "support" but so did Anne Rice when Tom Cruise played Lestat! She wasn't pleased, let it slip publicly but had to go along to get along. If people would just buy her books it would be so much better. Plus she has a new one out that she co-wrote with her sister. Support the creators not the culture vultures!!!

  8. My views regarding the dissociation of bw are based on my views regarding nature itself. In nature all life forms must be on the defensive and offensive (attack in order to protect) all of the time. With lower life forms, their offense and defense is inbuilt. With humans, we have the ability to teach and learn to defend and offend (use systems & ways to protect ourselves from attack in advance of the attack). A big part of human social structures are set up for defense and offense.

    These are the basics and all humans pretty much STILL live on a tribal, basic, savage level though we pretend to be evolved and sophisticated. LOL!

    ALL tribes (groups) of women in the world have been and continue to be defended by the men of their tribe. Typical, NORMAL males/men of all tribes are socialized to try to defend or go on the offensive to protect their females, if necessary. All tribes of men make up the current patriarchy and the patriarchy rules the current world.

    AA women and bw in similar situations in the West have been in general abandoned defensively and offensively by the men of their tribe. AA men rarely, if ever, speak up in the media to defend/protect bw's image publicly as DBRbm and others smear our image. That sends a message to ALL others in the world that we do not have males defending us. Our image is that of defenseless, vulnerable women.

    Image becomes perception and perception becomes reality.

    This means that the door is wide open for ANYONE to savage the bw in these particular tribes (AA women and similar others) in whatever way they want and if we didn't live in the WEST with laws and wm law enforcement protecting us physically, it would become very clear and very fast just how vulnerable we are. This is compounded by the fact that the vast majority of AA women have been indoctrinated not to defend themselves or go on the offense in a sensible, effective way and to instead wait for a savior of some sort.

    THE main reason why AA women have disabled their defense is because EVERY bw reading this knows that the main attackers and smearers of bw's image these days are DBRbm (or abcs, ikes, etc.) and many of y'all are too soft-hearted or loyal or whatever to stop them even though bw collectively do have the power to put an end to anti-bw smears, attacks, and propaganda INSTANTLY from these factions of DBRbm and their ilk. So nothing is done.

    Many AA women think that if they do nothing, others will go away and leave them alone. Wrong. That only makes an attacker more bold. When a person under attack does nothing, it tells others they are easy prey. In general, if you leave yourself open to be savaged, someone is going to savage you sooner rather than later.

    But it's a total waste of time being angry at AA males/men or expecting them to become functional men. The vast bulk of them are as dead in that way as a decomposed horse. It so sad that SO MANY AA women cannot accept the fact that the typical AA male has been defeated and conquered and virtually all of them these days have voluntarily surrendered. This is proven by their ACTIONS and/or inaction.

    There is a small percentage of AA males and other bm who haven't surrendered, but it's almost impossible to identify them.

    AA women and similarly situated bw MUST seek out stronger, higher functioning men in the world as mates. DO IT NOW! We've known for thousands of years that the fate of women in the patriarchal world rises or falls in direct proportion to their male consorts--and these consort males can be ANY strong, high functioning MAN in the global village. This must be a #1 priority. This must be a #1 priority, This must be a #1 priority. LOL! I really don't know how to say this more emphatically.

    I want to emphasize that this is the way of the world because so many blacks continue to be shocked and surprised. I don't take any of this personally. I'm not angry at any GROUP of people. I'm a realist. They're only doing to me/us what I would do to them if I had the wherewithal because it's about survival. Sometimes, I do get angry at individuals though. But anger towards whole groups is a waste of time because IF you don't protect yourself one group or another IS going to savage you.

    1. Evia,

      You said, "But it’s a total waste of time being angry at AA males/men or expecting them to become functional men. The vast bulk of them are as dead in that way as a decomposed horse. It so sad that SO MANY AA women cannot accept the fact that the typical AA male has been defeated and conquered and virtually all of them these days have voluntarily surrendered. This is proven by their ACTIONS and/or inaction."

      "…as dead as a decomposed horse…" {gales of laughter}

      I agree with you that the bottom line is that normal humans are going automatically act in ways that are SELF-protecting and SELF-advancing. It's as sure as night follows day. Because this is how normal humans are mentally hardwired.

      It's not anybody else's responsibility that AAs of both genders choose to behave in ways that are NOT self-advancing or self-protective. Other folks will note how peculiar AAs are, and go on with their self-advancing behavior and lives.

      There's really no such thing as opting out of the human game of individual and group competition. Other folks don't and won't stop seeking their own advancement just because AAs (of both genders) have mostly decided to surrender and play dead.

      And, as you noted, there's no rational reason for being angry about any of this because this is normal human behavior.

      This is why I've been trying to steer AA women toward imitating the stealthy and successful strategies that Asian women quietly used to get where they wanted to be.

      All the fussing, hand-wringing, and teeth-gnashing that many AA women like to do about the functionally "dead as a decomposed horse" BM is a waste of valuable time and energy.

      The winning answers, templates and examples are readily available for those AA women who are truly ready and willing to MOVE ON.

      1. Khadija, MOST of what causes AAs so much confusion and angst these days has been figured out and used with good results by other groups for thousands of years. The rules are the RULES in this world, and the rules have been here for a long time. Can someone please explain to me why AAs try to operate by a totally different set of rules in the SAME world where everyone else lives????? I am serious. Why? Did a higher power designate us AAs as "the entitled ones" while I wasn't paying attention????

        If not, then we have to follow the same/similar steps that every other groups follow. As I often told my sons when they were younger, "If you want to use your own rules, then you'd better go and create your own world because this world is NOT going to change for YOU."

        If AA women want what other groups of women have, then we have to take similar steps that they have. We have to do the work and create the lives we want--even though we may be scared sometimes, even though it may be difficult sometimes, and even though we will mess up sometimes. We've got to go through all of that and maybe even more, but if we keep our focus and keep learning from our mistakes and keep moving, we will arrive. If it's worth it, we have to keep moving towards it.

        For me, "settling" for a less-than man was not an option. Settling was a form of living death. Settling would have shortened my life because it would have robbed my life of all joy. I would have been spiritually dead. So I was compelled to keep moving towards a life with a loving and lovable Quality man. I had no choice but to keep moving towards him.

        Yeah, other folks may be trying to dissociate AA women from quality men, but who cares? Other folks can just keep themselves busy trying to do whatever they want. I personally wasn't going to let them succeed with me unless they killed me. If EACH AA woman would just vow to herself not to let others succeed with this dissociation maneuver and then do the personal work on herself and whatever else that she needs to do to get her quality man, then that would put an end to the schemes of others after a while because they would see that they're failing. Trust me--men are the easiest part of the equation because they've been wired already to want a reasonably attractive, pleasant woman. Mostly ALL men are like this and there are a LOT of men in the global village. I knew that many of those men wouldn't be interested in me, but I also knew that many of them would be interested.

        So I don't think for more than a minute about what other folks are trying to do to stop me; I think about what I'm doing to get what I want.

    2. Evia: Blacks are going to continue to be shocked and surprised after the elections tomorrow as well and the next few years. As if BW didn't already get the message after one Mrs. Shirley Sherrod.

  9. Hello Everyone.

    Having read your comments, I've come to realise that You guys are lucky you have "good" theatre to see with positive reinforcements of Black Women in the theatrical presentations of "Sabrina" and "Oklahoma". Unfortunately many people here in the Caribbean venerate TP and we even have a "Caribbean" version of his plays! Yes we do! The only good rendition was "The Vagina Monologues" and since then(2 years ago) it has not been re-played in our theatrical circuit. We have silly, stupid comedies about hypersexual black women who attempt to have sex with equally hypersexual men. Or gay men who discover they are gay etc, etc, etc. Total boredom and stupidity and here comes TP to feed the stupidity more. TP films are sold out here like hot bread and people refuse to see them for what they really are. Can you imagine how I was shot down for my arguments about the film "Why did I get married 2"? Many aspects of the film did not make sense for example (and this was my main beef):

    Why would a woman who escapes from an abusive relationship run back to her abuser just because he has cancer? I totally did not get that… does she not have a sense of self?

    Of course as a Literature teacher I made it a point to discuss the plot during a tail end of one of my Lit. classes. Much of his perspective does not make sense and as a WOMAN and TEACHER, I've made it my DUTY to let my students QUESTION, QUESTION, QUESTION, RESEARCH, THINK, OBSERVE AND PROVE.

    Now that "For Coloured girls" is due out, many of my students are eager to see it and I will go with them: JUST TO HAVE THEM RESEARCH THE PLAY beforehand, QUESTION, THINK, OBSERVE AND PROVE. I want to make sure that they know the difference between what the playwright REALLY meant and the playwright's vision versus the watered down version that is possibly going to be presented not just to an AA audience, but a WORLD audience! Now that you are all saying what I suspected to be true, I think I will just show my students "Ruby's Bucket of Blood" with Anela Bassett during drama class and have my students do a critique. If you have any other films to recommend, please do! Heaven knows they are always in need of good films to look at instead of watered down stuff and nonsense.

    I shall do my part to enlighten my students. I think they have already begun to see through the looking glass (many of them have begun to question TP's perspective of Blacks)… now it's my time to BREAK IT!!!

    1. A.C.: Thanks for your comments. I don't know if enough people have the discernment to see how destructive TP (Tyler Perry…Toilet Paper) is. Clearly many people enjoy his work. If your students have been fed a steady diet of dysfunction how would they effectively distinguish normative portrayals of black women (and black people in general?) It would seem "odd" to them. I recommend the bell hooks book Reel to Real where she interviewed a few directors and discussed their normal, every day portrayal of blacks in their films. They weren't lead roles they simply had regular interactions and weren't based on any stereotypes. I read the book, rented all of the movies and read the specific chapters with the movies and the light bulb clicked. The black people in the films weren't "black" characters. They were just regular people. That's part of the problem with the way we are portrayed in film to begin with.

    2. This movement is new to me but I am blown away I thought that I was the only person who thought some of these things and in the Caribbean no less.

      The Caribbean dynamic is a little different from the American and self hate is rampant and encouraged especially if you are a darker Afro-Caribbean woman. Seven years ago when I banded the watching of BET in my home visitors would laugh and make fun of me when I cataloged the ills of such programs, when I stated that I would not be purchasing Sean Johns and indicate that black 'stars' were worst to their own than any-other race because they exploited, encouraged and fostered ideals that is destructive they said that I was too intense. Reading these post I feel as if I have just taken a deep breathe.

      Thank you!

      1. Danielle" You're welcome and thanks for the feedback. It's not so much a "movement" as simple common sense, life-affirming values. Some people have them while most do not! We're trying to reestablish balance, find other like-minded individuals and pay it forward. So please share the online forum, support the messengers and save a life.

    3. i think it's easier for people to like Tyler perry movies if they live in a country that is majority Black. Inm ajority Black countries, you are compared to other Blacks, so his stupid sterotypes slide right off your back because you know that the people around you are not like that for the most part. You know, like everybody's Black -- from the garbage man to the business man, to the President and all of Congress/Parliament, so the stupid stereotypes have no hold there.

      But in America, where Black women are not the majority and are ALWAYS put in comparison to white and other non-Black women -- and you get to see first hand how white and non-Black women are presented compared to Black women -- Tyler Perry movies are extremely damaging. If that makes any sense.

      1. Ms. Sick & Tired: The reinforcement of dysfunction and the smearing of black women is just as damaging in a majority black country as out. In fact, I think it's even more damaging long-term. My focus is on how black women are being portrayed -- not black "people". A negative image coupled with the support of criminality = more rape culture/violence/denigration. At least in a country like the US where there's a minority black population BW are able to move into the larger society. Not so otherwise. Besides, Tyler Perry got his start and support HERE in the US. It wouldn't have happened anywhere else. His particular brand of stereotyping of BW is influenced by African-American culture as well. So, to be clear when I'm discussing his slagging of black women I am specifically talking about how he's denigrating AA women.

        1. That's a good point. I never really thought of it that way internationally, but I see yourpoint, especially when i think about how much self-hate people in the developing world are towards darker skin and dark skin women in particular. It's probably because of the smearing of Black women that I heard that skin-lighteners have become increasingly popular in the Caribbean and parts of Africa. And I definitely agree that there is some rampant hate in Black American culture towards Black women for some crazy reason. I truly just don't get it, it's mind blowing.

          1. Think a little bit more about how black women are complicit in their own suffering and less on reinforcing the meme of victimhood. Victims are not responsible for their actions and can blame others. Those who are supporting the denigration against them are equally responsible.

  10. I know, if many black women that would get together and create movies for ourselves, the situation would change: there is a play called MEMPHIS which is about early r&b music and I would LOVE for it to become a movie--it's set in the early 50's and the main characters are a black woman white man couple--the white man is a radio dj and the black woman is a singer who wants to get heard

    1. I haven't seen Memphis but I saw it win awards during the TONY Awards and Evia just featured it at her site.

  11. Let me ask Khadija and some others -- regarding this male dissasociation thing. What are your thoughts on who is behind it and why. Is the ultimate goal to completely eradicate Black women? What is the goal behind this is my question. i have my own thoughts but would first like to hear what you ladies think and why.

    1. Neecy,

      From my point of view, this disassociation thing is being promoted by 2 main factions: (1)DBRBM, and (2) WW (with a certain amount of back-up from the "don't you dare call me Black" so-called "biracial" women, Latina women, and self-proclaimed multicultural women.

      In terms of motives:

      For DBRBM, this disassociation thing is about making sure that there's a pool of single and lonely AA women available for AA men to exploit as a "Booty Call Corps." BM predators LOVE the current situation! They don't want it to change. If more BW expand their dating and marriage horizons, there won't be such a large pool of exploitable BW.

      For WW it's about eliminating BW from competition with them for alpha WM husbands. In advance. WW see what Asian women have done. WW DON'T want BW becoming seriously competitive for their quality men like Asian women are.

      For the side-kick, back-up chorus of "don't you dare call me Black" so-called "biracial" women, Latina women, and self-proclaimed multicultural women), it's about maintaining their current perceived spot in the "favored by BM" pecking order—a spot ABOVE "non-exotic" BW.

      The "don't you dare call me Black" so-called "biracial" women, Latina women, and self-proclaimed multicultural women (like the Kimora Lee Simmons creature) depend on the few AA men of means as being their sure-thing, fallback, safety net if they should ever become glaringly NON-competitive as women (obese, drug problems, public reputation for being promiscuous, and so on).

      These various nonblack women know that under the current status quo, no matter how low they fall (and how unsuitable they make themselves for WM of means), they can always snag a BM of means.

      The current status quo that these various parties (DBRBM, WW, the "rainbow chicks") want to maintain at ALL costs requires BW to be perceived as NON-attractive, NON-wife material.

      Those are just my thoughts about this disassociation thing. I could be mistaken. 🙂

      1. Thank you Khadija for your post *BTW Faith I hope I am not going too off topic here, let me know if I am and I apologize in advance*

        I definitely would agree with your assessments on the who, what and why is behind the current trend of perpetuating Black female disassociation.

        I can't believe that BW are still sitting by idle and supporting their very own assassination. Tyler Perry films REEK anti Black female. I noticed no amount of attention from Black men is spent telling the "stories" and lives of Black men. Hmmmm. And negative, depressing stories at that. makes you wonder why so many Blk male directors and such are so hell bent on representing Black women as these women who always have issues etc.

        I believe BW need to move stealthily towards fighting against this male disassociation thing. just like you have mentioned many times, as to how Asian women QUIETLY moved onto marrying high quality Alpha men.

        1. Neecy: No the convo with Khadija ties into the overall goal of the post which is to get BW to rethink their strategies. Actually it's to adopt one period.

  12. i have no desire to see that depressing looking mess. Black women need to stop supporting these dark films that always make us look like we have issues. I cannot imagine what most people are thinking -- when they see these depictions of Black women always having some problem etc.

    i am TIRED of it and i am TIRED of TIRED PERRY.

    Khadija and some of the other ladies on here got it right: Black women are being targeted for dissasociation from men b/c I cannot imagine any man who would look at the constant depictions and portaryals of BW (without knowing any personally to counteract these images) to think of a Black woman as his long time companion. With all the suffering, mental and physical anguish etc. its downright depressing. Everytime I look at one of his posters for this movie I cringe "for colored girls only". Can you imagine what most people must be thinking when they read that? i understand it was a play and whatnot back in the day, but its 2010, BW need to stop allowing others to seperate and other us from the normal population.

    ENOUGH already.

    1. Neecy: I'm going to amend the blog post to include my posts from last year where I linked to Ntozake Shange. I take it you haven't read her choreopoem. Go to the library or bookstore now. It will change your life. It was amazing! Tyler Perry doesn't have the mettle to give this story any justice whatsoever….

      1. I figured much. i am sure he butchered a great piece of work that could have been told through the eyes of a Black female.

        Why are Black women not suspicious about the number of Black males of power in the Entertainment industry always doing these stories revolving around Black women and their "issues"? Its like HEL-LO why are Black women acting as if they are comatose to this mess.

        The same Black director who did Monsters Ball (UGH) is responsible for that Precious mess. Now we have Tyler perry.

        Black women simply don't support each other while BLINDLY supporting any ole Black man. Its so sad.

        1. Neecy: I hated Monster's Ball. I saw it once and had nightmares about for years!!!! The number of black women defending that disgusting display of pathetic coupling which only proved to fulfill a BM's desire to see a BW be savaged, to take a swipe at IRR and for her desperation to be fed as a triumph was sickening. Plus Lee Daniels is GAY but he clearly ALSO has issues with BW. And Lenny Kravitz has gotten on my last nerve with his love of all things white/light/bright AND 1/2 his age trying to play it off as if he would ever bed or date or mate a woman who looks anything like a Gabby Sidibe. I've seen his true behavior up close and he's full of #$$&&&**.

  13. Oops! I meant to say below that 'AA men' would try to go beserk in attacking TP if the movie production of "For Colored Girls" is anywhere near the same in intensity and focus as the B'way play I saw.

    And if any of you really want to know what's in that play, please, please just read the original book as Miss Glamtastic (Tia) mentioned.

  14. Faith, THANK YOU! I had told Darren that I wanted to see "For Colored Girls," but I just couldn't/can't because of TP's involvement. I saw an off-Broadway performance of the play years ago, and it was just so powerful until I'll never forget some of those scenes. I can still even remember some of the painful dialogue. It was just that gripping. That play actually changed me forevermore. It pulled ALL the wool from over my eyes about DBRbm. I do NOT believe that TP's production can possibly be that raw and truthful because AA would try to go beserk. It would radicalize a LOT of AA women and make a LOT of the bw viewers burn ALL bridges between them and bm. I believe his production is going to be watered down a whole lot.

    I absolutely detest TP. Why does he have to devalue bw in order to fatten his pockets??? He does it because he knows he can get away with it. He knows that perception is reality. He goes out of his way to slant the perception of typical bw as undesirable females and we're not supposed to detect that. A lot of bm KNOW that many bw don't really like each other and they use that to pit bw against each other. Also, he's simply using bw as the wind beneath his wings. Trust me--other groups of women would NEVER tolerate this.

    @Miss Glamtastic (Tia) re:

    Evia stated it best: we need to “jampack these theatres.” We have to support productions that portray us in a good light. I will be going to see Oklahoma! as well.

    Yep. While bw are in the process of setting up their own production apparatus, we need to clearly send the message to white producers and directors that We black women will make you filthy rich if you depict us in the way we want to be depicted. Absolutely nothing talks like ORGANIZED will and money because:

    Organized Will + Organized money = POWER.

    Other groups of people are not just magically powerful. They're DOING certain things that create their power. ANY group of people can be powerful IF they do those things and these certain things are NOT a secret.

    I respect Oprah for a lot of things, but I totally disagree with her re supporting TP. I think she supports him due to their both having been sexually abused and the pain they share from that. BTW, I read somewhere that Oprah has opened over 200 girls' schools on the African continent. That's a part of her legacy. IMO, Oprah has given up on AA women and I think it's because so many AA women keep trying to push their heads up a bm's butt. I read that Serena Williams is following suit and also opening up schools in Africa for black girls there. Of course, they're both criticized in some quarters for not also setting up schools for black boys.

    1. Evia: Wow! If my post reiterated for you how non-beneficial it is to see a Tyler Perry coon-show that's huge! (Smile). As I stated to Patricia every woman has to decide for herself but all the various forms of indoctrination and "backsliding" into Sodom & Gommorah are just TOO EASY. We have to keep our eyes on the prize if we want to be live full lives and see other black women elevate themselves too. I was trying to catch some of us lest we forget we're in a war and being taken out one by one. All the while there are a few people putting out quality products that we're ignoring. At the end of the day which is going to be better for us, our children and the collective image of black women?

      1. LOL! I wanted to see FCGs so much until I tried to forget that TP was producing it.

        I'll be posting news soon about another major production in which a bw is the romantic lead playing opposite a non-black men. These plays/shows/movies are out there but barely anyone circulates the info. IMO, ALL of our sites should be mentioning them so that they can be attended/supported to the max by black women and our supporters. As you said, there should be some sort of communication of appreciation or indication of interest shown. Let's all think about how we can do this so that it is DONE each time. IMO, this should be the SOP (standard operating procedure) whenever a bw is prominently featured in a positive way in the media or even when a bw achieves highly on other fronts--to drown out the negativity that thrills the anti-bw crowd.

    2. Prior to seeing this movie I would have agreed, high-fived and co-signed with every single one of the comments on this board. I've been ambivalent about Tyler Perry and his movie for years. After Diary of a Mad Black Woman, when all his new movies were running along the same "woe-is-me-it-sucks-to-be-a-black-woman" theme I stopped seeing them. Especially, since he wasn't making any movies aimed at black men. Why just preach to black woman?

      For these reasons and more (agreeing with much of whats been said), I was going to pass on "For Colored Girls". After a surprisingly positive review from my favorite film critic in The Chicago Reader, mys sister and I took a chance and saw it last night. Afterward, I went back to the critics website and left this review..

      "Never thought the day would come that I would say this about a Tyler Perry movie -- For Colored Girls was phenomenal -- truly worthy of four stars. The acting was subtle, fierce, inspiring and intelligent. I hope Mr. Perry will show the same kind of restraint in future projects.

      And, I cannot say enough about this spectacular cast. Janet Jackson, surprised me, and Phylicia Rashad was outstanding, Best Supporting Actress material for sure. Run to see this movie and for my people who have had some misgivings about the caliber of a Tyler Perry movie, rest assured you won't be disappointed, AGAIN, ready to fight somebody for your $9.50 back."

      What can I say even a broken clock is right twice a day… Ultimately, I choose to view that my money went to pay this spectacular cast and I truly hope this opens more doors for Kimberly Elise, Janet Jackson, Loretta Devine, Thandie Newton, Anika Rose, Kerry Washington, Tessa Thompson, Phylicia Rashad, Whoopi Goldberg & Macy Gray…

      This is the movie I wish Mr. Perry had started with in his career and hope that he takes this experience and grows… Maybe the roasting he got from that Aaron McGruder's Boondocks episode on him and his films and the controversy his reaction to it caused, had an impact.

      1. I feel so privileged to get my very own Tyler Perry troll/blanket defender! Yah! As if Perry could EVER give For Colored Girls its rightful treatment. He's NOT a black woman. Besides since you can obviously ignore the fact that he trampled one of us for the priviliege of bringing us HIS vision of who we are for HIS profit you do not possess the type of discernment or care for other other black women required. Then again, what you've offered is your OPINION. Just as I've offered mine. Run along now.

        1. Faith, I am NOT defending Tyler Perry and am sorry you view it that way. Nor am I a troll, just a person who assumed that my comments would be respected even if they're disagreeable to you. I'll respect that this is your blog and you can write and say whatever you want. I'm sorry that the hard line you've taken on Tyler Perry does not allow for open & respectful dialogue, for this reason I won't be returning because I don't tolerate disrespect from anyone, no matter how well meaning their intentions.

          And your comment about my lack of discernment or care for other black woman doesn't warrant defending since this was an irrational emotional response which cuts off dialogue instead of inspiring it. I'll leave you to your groupthink.

          1. haitiangurl: We will agree to disagree. I stand by my assessment of Perry. You are not required to share the same sentiment but if you're going to post a 300-word comment defending him you'll also receive a response in opposition from me. If you cannot bear to hear any criticism or have your views challenged after you come to this forum to disagree with me then you are not seeking an exchange in kind but a free space for advertising. That's not happening here. I allowed your comment through so I do take some dissenting voices but will not allow for those who are continuing the indoctrination of diminished lives for black women to stand unchallenged. Perhaps you will never agree but you will most certainly think about this conversation long after it has passed.

  15. Faith, I saw one Tyler Perry movie on a group outing years ago, and that was it. I don't have an urge to see anything that seems to be one attempt after another to make me eat something I only end up regurgitating.

  16. I started leaving TP alone once I got into the BWE movement. I know that there are *some* BW living a life very much like his characters. But what his movies lack is tastefulness- the difference between his characters and the non-Black characters portrayed in other movies is tackiness. Compare Keisha Knight-Pulliam (hooker in Madea Goes to Jail) to Julia Roberts (hooker in Pretty Woman); or compare Kimberly Elise (scorned wife in Diary of a Mad Black Woman) to Goldie Hawn, Bette Midler, or Diane Keaton (scorned wives in the First Wives Club), or even compare Lynn Whitfield (momma pimping out her daughterss in Madea's Family Reunion) to Rosalind Russell (momma pimping out her daughters in Gypsy.) He has an uncanny ability to paint the female characters in the worst way possible, even the protagonists. And BW will still enjoy the film, because they identify with the character, even if the personality portrayed borders on ridiculous.

    Maybe the real reason why I don't like TP's films anymore is because I was exposed to great movies as a child, therefore, I knew that I wasn't missing anything by avoiding his films. Yeah, won't be seeing "For Colored Girls." I can read the play-I'm sure I'll get more out of it.

    1. Tia: Tyler Perry despises us even as he has a sick fascination with observing us he has to keep tearing us down. I watched the Oprah "I Was Abused" show and aside from the glaring elephant in the room about his sexual orientation he has clearly not gone to therapy to deal with any of it. He specifically talked about being molested by a black woman and his sexual hangups with black women and his dysfunctional relationship with his now-deceased mother. It was truly one of her best Pain Porn episodes because they refuse to let it go in any type of healthy way.

      1. Faith, although I didn't see the episode I did see the previews. He was describing being abused by the woman and he said "it was just nasty." The way he said "nasty" totally let the cat out of the bag regarding his orientation. I wondered if the show was going to be his coming out, so to speak, but to hear your words obviously it wasn't.

        1. Karen R: No Tyler Perry isn't going to come out any time soon. The religious brigade of never-married black women who actually find him secretly attractive would have a fit! Again…he really has a SIGNIFICANT AMOUNT OF DISDAIN FOR BLACK WOMEN BUT WE ARE HS CASH COWS. I was was live Tweeting the show that day and had to ask another Twitter follower (who's a gay BM) if he had the same impression I did and what TP said. Yup. Dysfunctional. Closeted. Gay. Self-Loathing. Is in competition with black women. I don't care that he's gay. I care that he's denigrating our image and clearly his unresolved issues around his abuse influences his view of us.

          1. OMG!! Faith you hit it out of the ball park with this assessment.

            YES YES YES and YES again it is BECAUSE these highly religious never been married religious Black woman supportin' all of the church women ARE indeed secretly attracted to Tyler Perry.

            And step back..wait a minute TP is the poster child for the DBRM if you ask me. Wait a minute ..he hates Black women, he stands back and has observed every minute affectation of a Black women-hence his uncanny ability to potray that Madea characterization…and he is CAPITALIZING on this craziness to the further detriment and destruction of all those single never been married supportin' all of the church religious Black women!!!

          2. Thanks for your comment. Those BW who think of TP as a potential mate would be very disappointed to find out he's playing for the other team (if he comes out) as they'd view it as another "good" brotha lost to either to white women or the booty warriors (that's how they'd look at it). Either way it's more bad advice from a male looking to capitalize on the lack of discernment of black women.

      2. @ Faith -- I stopped watching O a long time ago, so I missed this episode. But from what you described, I probably wouldn't have watched more than 5 minutes of it, anyway. He has some major issues with BW on the whole, and until we resolve it, we can expect TP to continue his "smear with a smile" campaign against BW.

  17. Um, do we realize that if we don't like anything on TV and the movies, we can take the radical step of NOT. WATCHING. ANY. OF. IT?

    Weekend before last I caught matinee showing of Sabrina Fair at the Ford Theater in D.C. Yeah, it was around $65 but it was well worth it to see a black woman portray the lead in a romantic comedy.

    I don't go to the movies or rent/download them much anyway, but if I did I would be willing to stop doing that and go to plays such as these when they come around with the money I would have spent.

    In the near future, I will be going to see a black woman play romantic lead in the new production of "Oklahoma!" We keep funding our disassociation at our own peril.

    If I didn't live near any productions of this kind, I would GLADLY rather buy a ticket online and not be able make it to the theater, than spend less $$ and go see mess in person.

    1. I saw Sabrina Fair as well. It was worth every penny, and it's a positive portrayal of Black women. I won't go see "For Colored Girls" though I love all the actresses in it. I started boycotting TP a while ago. Evia stated it best: we need to "jampack these theatres." We have to support productions that portray us in a good light. I will be going to see Oklahoma! as well.

    2. Hey Foreverloyal: The production sounds as if it's absolutely lovely. I've noticed there's a lot of productions in DC featuring black women in an uplifting way. THIS is what we need to be supporting. Even if some of us don't live in that city we can write to the producers telling them if they bring it to another are WE WILL SUPPORT IT. Ladies, it's time to get busy and put our dollars where we can where they'll count the most. This is being strategic, will help some of us "regular" black women earn a living doing something we love AND will come full circle as it will serve as inspiration to young black girls. Everyone isn't feeling the pain in this economy. Let's pay it forward.

  18. I stopped watching TP after that movie where he had Sanaa Lathan's husband slap her clear over a counter and the audience clapped. In ever other mainstream sector of society, domestic violence toward women in not ok, but putting a black woman in her place with violence, especially after she got with a white man, is ok? Hmmm. Tyler Perry writes the same characters over and over again and the antagonist is always a career-focused, ambitious black women who needs to be taken down a peg or two, and then paired with her blue collar black knight. It's fairy tales for socially underexposed black women. WTF is up with that? TP engenders hate from those of us who have a clue because the hate he has for women like me drips from every 'film' he makes. A black man dressed as a huge black woman in a dress? with a gun? beats children? Hahaha, let's all laugh, right? But the joke is on US. Take a read of Patricia Hill Collins' Black Feminist Politics if you have't. Her historical explanations of these controlling images like the asexual mammy, the loud, sassy Sapphire, etc. blew my mind.

    I don't know where I read this but it totally resonates. Black women are being targeted for disassociation. Between rap music, 'R&B' music (which today is just raunchy rap set to a beat by the likes of haters like Usher, Ne-Yo, etc.), TP movies, Pine Sol and Popeye commercials with mammy-like spokespersons, I rarely see black women portrayed in a way I deem positive. And no, help is not on the way. Folks like C. Delores Tucker in the early 90s saw the writing on the wall but were shut down by everyone from Snoop Dogg to so-called First Amendment supporters and look what we have now? 10 year old dancing on the BET stage like hookers, oow births at 70% and rising. It's madness! Save yourselves, ladies. Get yourself into a safe area, only mingle with decent men and people who share your values, get as much education as you can and flee! And yes, do not ever participate or fund your own oppression if you can help it. Faith, you are saving lives here. Thank you!

    1. E,

      You said, "I don’t know where I read this but it totally resonates. Black women are being targeted for disassociation."

      Halima, blog host of Black Women's Interracial Relationship Circle was the first person I heard point that out. And she's right: Unfortunately, BW are being targeted for male diassociation.

    2. Thank you E exactly. Black people, men and even black women, clap and cheer when a black woman is beaten up by a man, and every antagonist in anything TP related IS a black woman with a great career and her own money.

      Black women from the time they're young, a lot of them were told by family members, family friends, and sometimes other adults to work hard, strive, get as much higher education as you can, to be independent, etc., etc. and many black women do all of this and this is the thanks they get? To be lambasted, disrespected, and portrayed as evil incarnate by another BLACK person's medium?

      It's like TP has never met a black man who was a real so-and-so in his whole life because within his media, they mostly never exist.

      Thank God I live in England now where the only way you can see a TP movie is on some pirate illegal DVD.

      1. AK

        You are correct when you said

        "Black people, men and even black women, clap and cheer when a black woman is beaten up by a man,"

        YEP, and even Non Blk people have joined in. And its always in films written and directed by BLACK MALES that show Back women being assualted. My friend told me some years ago she went to see that Spoof movie Scarey Movie 2 or 3 (written and directed by the WAYANS Brothers). Anyway, there is a Black woman in the film that is loud, obnoxious and ghetto. In one part of the movie she is in the movie theater and talking loud. People are asking her to be quiet and she just gets louder. Then the main character (who is a demon or something) comes and hacks her to death in the movie theater in front of the moviegoers. My friend said everyone in the REAL theater she was seeing this was clapping and laughing.

        She said she got up and left and vowed to never see a Wayans movie again.

        1. It's black males of questionable sexual orientation who grew up poor/abused/otherwise dysfunctional environment who "love their mommas" but who really HATE black women.

      2. AK, you are so right. I have been thinking the same thing. My mother AND Father raised me to respect education, go to college and graduate school, to travel, be independent and not wait for ANY man to do what I could do for myself, all the while reminding me to keep a conscience about Black people and Black pride -- which I did. And utter hatred and demonization is all we are getting in return from the hand-picked media slaves supposedly representing Black people. Sad.

        But I do know that this thing is bigger than just some self-hating Black men. The mainstream media has long had a racist agenda against Black people -- they are just now pointing their aim at Black women and using the same Black male sellouts to help them push their destructive agenda. IMO.

  19. Since I am one of those crazy BW who love Tyler Perry movies, I have to respectfully disagree. But to each his/her own.

    Not saying that all his movies/plays are my cup of tea, but I don't understand the hate that he engenders in some quarters.

    If you don't like him or his products, let us know what movies/directors you do like and encourage us to watch/support them. Just my 2 cents.

    1. Patricia: You are free to love and support Tyler Perry as you wish. Off the top of head a list of directors I enjoy: Chris Nolan, Kurosawa, Satyajit Ray, Julie Dash and a host of others. Here's a queston: why hasn't Julie Dash been able to make another film that wasn't completely self-financed, watered done or not given a wide distribution? WE HAVE NOT SUPPORTED HER EFFORTS THAT'S WHY! But how many black women are going to rush to the theatres to see the two buffons bring Wanda and Shenenee to the screen next year?

      There's the Celeste Bright films on Youtube. Could they be on the bog screen -- yup! Are we collectively supporting her and others who offer a dignified portrayal of "regular" black women? No. Is the excuse going to be we didn't know about her? Perhaps if we went looking for a meal instead of settling for crumbs we'd find a host of black women at the ready with stories that would not only appeal to us but to a general audience.

      Why are blacks more than one third of the entire movie audience yet have less than a 10% representation? Why are we "complaining" about the lack of roles for black women? Why are we allowing roles that are written for AA women being given to non-AA women but it's not reciprocated?

      I don't know about you but I've come to accept responsibility for that seemingly innocent choice of "letting things slide", paying for that "crappy" movie, listening to the one "good" song by the otherwise hatedful black male misogynist and remaining silent as part of the hammer that has chipped away at our collective image, survival and ability to thrive.

      Especially in this economy as the fate of black women hang in the balance. When the NAACP and President Obama trashed Shirley Sherrod and nobody said anything about it.

      To me it ALL ties TOGETHER.

      I know many people who enjoy watching that horrid House of Pain/Meet the Brown combo of coonery but I'm not one of them. I think our tastes have been so devalued that we (taking a line from The American President) mistake sand for water when we're thirsty.

      Aside from his foul behavior in threating to ruin the career of Nzingha Stewart if she didn't turn over the For Colored Girls project to him after she bought the rights and wrote the screenplay and signed an agreement with the studio, oh let's see Chris Rock sending his minions in the steal "Oh My Nappy Hair" nearly scene by scene for his Good Hair rip-off, Steve Harvey taking not only the name but bastardizing the book "Act Like A Lady…" from author Sharon P. Carson we have a host of black males who use their position to trample over black women's creations to sell back to black women as their own ideas and black women eat this #$&% up!

      I bet you if one of us were to have been privvy to the REAL conversations that went on behind the scenes you'd find these black males working with their hired white males and a few black women enablers discussing how they were going to take these projects because BW are trashed so regularly no one was going to say anything anyway!

      IF we were supporting each other and using our efforts at uplifting each other instead of saving the "community", DBRs and the no-value black males most of us spend our time thinking about, making excuses for, financially supporting and propping up we could HAVE OUR OWN PROJECTS THAT SATISFY OUR NEEDS THAT CELEBRATE OUR BEAUTY, STRENGTH and INTEGRITY.

      By black women for black women.

      FYI: I have two films I'd like to complete. One on the unsung heroines of Civil Rights and another on the beauty of black women and our need to date outside the confines of the race construct. I'm trying to get funding now and am not counting on getting support from blacks to do it. If I was to rely on that I might never get these films completed.

      1. “But how many black women are going to rush to the theaters to see the two buffoons bring Wanda and Sheneneh to the screen next year? ”

        There ARE things we can do to stop the release of such movies, like the Wanda and Sheneneh. PLEASE join me and send this prewritten form letter or CALL the numbers I have listed at my blog to STOP the release (at least to thetares) of Skak Robbers/Wanda &Sheneheh. If we work together on this, we can do this!

        1. Ms. Sick & Tired: While I applaud your efforts and wish you all the success in your venture I removed your link for two reasons. 1) You didn't read my commenting policy about new posters who've made no extended contribution to this blog leaving random links. You have to be a vetted participant in this forum and I always reserve the right to not publish a comment. 2) You are still working through your indoctrination phase I'm afraid. You are right smack dab in the middle of Sister Soldiering. I hope this doesn't upset you too much and you are free to disagree. If you've read any of the BWE forums or other BW anti-denigration sites you'd already have learned these types of campaigns do NOT work! Also, it keeps BW focused on the miscreants and their denigrators instead of encouraging BW to LEAVE ALL THE MESS BEHIND. If you want an effective campaign with long-term impact why not educate other BW on why they shouldn't be CONSUMERS OF FILTH & GARBAGE instead. THAT is more long-term, life-affirming and will be met with fierce resistance. See, if BW weren't plopping down their money to watch this crap these types of movies wouldn't continue to be made. Cut off the source of life and the parasite dies. Don't be "sick & tired" just MOVE ON to a better quality life. You are still in "save the people" mode -- which is your choice. You might want to do a long-term cost analysis of how that will benefit you and yours not only in the immediate future but for generations. If some folks want to roll in poo are you going to spend your time and energy fighting with them about it or keep it moving so YOU can lead by example as you LIVE WELL? It's something you should think about. Be well.

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