Comments on: Do You Sometimes Wonder How Dysfunctional Relationships Become the Norm?

By: ActsofFaithBlog

ActsofFaithBlog — Fri, 28 Aug 2009 05:06:28 +0000

Zindzhi: There was a post that CW wrote at her blog that stated, "let the dead bury the dead". That's what we need to do.

By: zindzhi

zindzhi — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 14:35:29 +0000

That is why i refuse to read black gossip blog and read the comments. why read more toxic crap about black women. Remember reading Afrobella 's outrage at the stuff they said to Rihanna. I remember not being surprised at all. It also crazy that rappers have come to represent black masculinity. I live in a patriarchy and rap videos here are not censored , so young Haitian men are referring to themselves using the N word and reinforcing their sexist behavior, because they saw it on the videos.I hope Kelis gets her share after all she will be raising children.

By: ActsofFaithBlog

ActsofFaithBlog — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 20:13:15 +0000

tertiaryanna: I think receiving encouragement from others who see our best assets can be very helpful in changing our mindsets. It's difficult to function being surrounded by the indoctrinated and miserable who want to pick you apart because they themselves are miserable.khadija: No I don't recall much griping about Strahan's ridiculous settlement or the defense of Halle Berry who'd almost gotten sucked in completely had she adopted Benet's daughter. I'm going to remind the few foolish people who make comments regarding the settlements of other women like Kelis. Thanks for reminder that there are people still processing this information.

By: Khadija

Khadija — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 19:53:18 +0000

Faith,I wonder if these same people were outraged about Michael Strahan's White ex-wife getting MORE than half in their divorce. Or if they were angry about Eric Benet seeking payment***after having cheated on her***from Halle Berry during their divorce. Hmmph.You said, "The hate is rather obvious to you and me but so many are still lost in the wilderness. I'm wondering if I'm beating a dead horse with these posts and if this is helpful…"I think back to how reading various pioneers' essays helped me organize my thoughts about certain issues LONG before I ever started commenting on any blogs. At that point, they had no way of knowing that their work was having a profound impact on my life. I'm sure that a similar things is happening with your work. There are a lot of people quietly reading who never comment. I'm sure that even though they don't comment, many of them ARE changing course in their lives for the better. Keep up the great work!Peace, blessings and solidarity.

By: tertiaryanna

tertiaryanna — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 18:40:39 +0000

Our choices will likely reflect our mentality to begin with. It also comes down to how shrewd we are or are willing to be. We don't want to keep playing catch-up while life is passing us by.This is straight truth. I also think that decisions self-perpetuate. Bad decisions are easy to keep making when you start, and good ones are easy to make when you start doing them. But it's hard to switch from bad to good. It's doable, but it takes effort, time and dedication. So when we see people who are quick to embrace damaging actions, we must be careful not to slide down the hill with them. And we must also be careful within ourselves when we find our own bad decisions, so we can concentrate our efforts on building what we want to achieve instead of being caught in what we want to abandon.

By: ActsofFaithBlog

ActsofFaithBlog — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 11:49:55 +0000

Aina: Welcome and thanks for delurking. The hate is rather obvious to you and me but so many are still lost in the wilderness. I'm wondering if I'm beating a dead horse with these posts and if this is helpful so I appreciate your comment.

By: Aina

Aina — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 11:17:45 +0000

Faith -Thanks for this!I stumbled upon celeb gossip blog, whose link I refuse to submit because the entire site is full of DBR-speak and general tripe, where the author and a good majority of the commenters stated how Kelis is asking to be a "chalk outline".One white male commenter even went about describing exactly HOW he would kill Kelis if he were in Nas' shoes! This is a black-written/black-frequented blog and no one saw anything wrong with these comments! Only two women defended Kelis by saying she was entitled to what she's going after.When I pointed it out that this white male was vocalizing the destruction of a black woman, and that NONE of the black male commenters had anything to say to him about it in defense of Kelis or, really, ALL black women, straws were pulled about my coming to the blog and commenting when I supposedly don't like the content.I was too enraged to respond.Anyway, I do love your blog and this is my first comment. I think it was about time that I stopped being a lurker. -Aina