I thought I’d mention I’ve now gotten rid of nearly 50 lbs. since August. I say good riddance!

Notice I didn’t say “lost” because they will never find me again. I’m making a conscious effort at decisive choices that will benefit me. This has nothing to do with shame, recriminations or because I am somehow less than unless I do or look like A, B or C.

I simply decided to put down my load and believe fully in myself. It doesn’t mean my life is problem-free but I finally realized I was never going to be in a place where I could comfortably say I was “ready” to tackle making these final changes that have long been overdue. I’d be waiting for that “exhale” moment forever and life would continue to pass me by along with certain opportunities that I couldn’t take full advantage of.

That meant taking responsibility for all of my choices and how I reacted to obstacles. There is no perfection, only sustained and positive efforts to move forward! In many ways these changes are remarkably uneventful and I’m learning a lot about myself as I’m being reintroduced to things I’ve set aside.

This change can manifest itself in many different ways, but this was an obvious place to start (for me). Other women may have their own loads and belief systems to adjust. I am likely to discuss this process and what made me do a complete 360 early next year but for now I’m taking it one moment at a time with a daily focus.

There were a combination of factors at play but I have to admit one celebrity’s actions were encouraging. I just didn’t realize how much until I wrote this.

Let’s watch the Jennifer Hudson Weight Watchers video again. Didn’t she say she turned CAN’T into CAN? This isn’t an endorsement for one company but I thought hiring her as their spokesperson was a brilliant move at the time and the ad campaign was written from a place of empowerment instead of the “my life sucked until I joined blah blah blah”.

Yup, she sure did.

What’s stopping YOU from boldly declaring you can go where no other black woman has ever gone before? Fear? Lack of foresight? No initiative? Thinking you’ll always have tomorrow?  Oh and you over there hiding under the rock: Are you a woman or a potato?

34 comments to Are You A CAN Or CANNOT PERSON?

  • ph2072

    "What’s stopping YOU from boldly declaring you can go where no other black woman has ever gone before? Fear? Lack of foresight? No initiative? Thinking you’ll always have tomorrow? Oh and you over there hiding under the rock: Are you a woman or a potato?"

    These questions are great food for thought and came at the perfect time for me, as I'm currently in limbo (in my mind) and waiting for the fog to clear so that I can see my way through. Good thought-provoking blog entry.

    And congratulations Faith. What a major accomplishment.

  • Karen


    CONGRATULATIONS and all the best in 2011!

  • stellas

    I hope to do the same in 2011.

  • tertiaryanna

    Congrats! I really like this message, and feel very inspired. I've got some dreams that have been losing steam so this message is so refreshing. Have a Happy New Year, and I love the new comments layout!

  • Sandra77

    Faith, big (or in this case 50 lbs smaller) congratulations! It isn't easy to conquer these weight demons, but you're living proof that it can be done. Keep at it. I plan to follow your example to get back in shape in 2011 -- I've slacked off severely since 2008. Time to change.

  • palmwater

    Congratulations! Achieving the weight drop goal will be a catalyst to many great things for you in 2011.

    I'm taking that CAN attitude and developing a 2011 strategy for my personal and professional life. MissGlamtastic I think I'll include a vision board as part of my 2011 strategy. Thanks for that information.

  • foreverloyal

    Let me add my congratulations in here.

    It's amazing how great all those little, everyday improvements make you feel after a weight loss/getting in better shape: being able to run up the stairs, feel more comfortable sitting down, and the overall increase in energy.

    Not to mention the "I did this, I can do anything!" feeling that often comes.

    To our continued success in the New Year!

  • Congrats on annihilating the pounds! You got rid of them, never to be seen again (over here doing a happy dance for you :)

    I am a reforming CANNOT person, quickly turning into a CAN person. Fear has kept me from making a lot of moves that could have been great for me-fear of being disapproved by my family, fear of the unknown, fear of losing what security I have . . . But I'm quickly realizing that my fear only hurts and limits ME-and the fear of not knowing what could have been, if I had taken a few more chances, is the scariest thing of all.

    Lots of changes in store for me in 2011-currently gathering my supplies to do a vision board to help me manifest my desires. In the past few weeks, I've seen numerous YT videos and several threads on different websites concerning vision boards-I took it as a wakeup call for me to get it in gear and get focused on achieving some major goals.

  • formavitae

    Congratulations, Faith! I hope to follow your lead. That's very inspiring!

  • NijaG

    Congrats Faith!!!!

    Losing weight is sometimes not just about the physical but also the emotional and mental. It can be hard sometimes, but like you said, it one day at a time. Keep up the great work.

    I'm just beginning my own weight loss journey (for about the third time). This time I think I'm in the right place where I won't let anything get in my way.

  • Pamela

    Faith, I know that your mood is a lot better. You have more energy to do things and tackle challenges. I bet you feel like a new woman. I am so glad you have started with the weight loss. People do not realize that if you have been overweight for a while like I was the sluggish feeling becomes the new normal feel good feeling. I did not realize this until I got rid of 1/3 of my former self. All it takes is making a decision to step forward. You have started that and I know you will continue. You accomplished a goal which will give you confidence to accomplish others.

  • Tracy

    YES!!!!! HAPPY DANCE!!! Wonderful news, and while I have slipped a bit, the finish line is still in sight!

    It is sooo important for BW to realize that we must get to the finish line with weight loss and other things in our lives that are holding us back. Just Get It Over With should be the new Nike motto !

    Congrats and keep getting to the finish line!! New Pic please!!

  • I am so happy for you Faith, keep going the finish line will appear before you can even say 'finish'!

  • Faith,

    Congratulations! {happy dance}

    All of these topics are about moving forward into abundant life—whatever that means for each individual woman. Period. It's not as complicated or fraught with ideology as folks sometimes make it out to be. It's about boldly going forward, seeking what one wants, and getting it! {smile}

  • Jacquie

    Congratulations Faith! I was looking at your picture in the BWDB fb page and thinking you looked really good--radiant!

    I agree--I'm digging the Jennifer Hudson commercials. She looks and I bet, feels amazing! I especially like the newest rounds of commericals with her singing Nina Simone's 'Feeling Good'. I'm not sure if that is the commercial your're referencing up top; I can't view here from work.

  • Zoopath

    I'm so happy for you, congrats!