You know as a musician with an extensive genre acquisition I had to make song references. It’s Talking Heads, “Once In A Lifetime” same as it ever was vs. “Do You Know Where You’re Going To?” do you like the things that life is showing you/why do we wait so long to see
As we move into 2011 we may review certain key points but they serve as markers for how far we will have traveled, not for giving credence to.
Right on cue, despite the focus of some forums at uplifting black women there are many amongst the throngs who are simply present to stall and derail the growth process for others.
Some Of You Are REALLY That Predictable….and Obvious
I’m not going to rehash what was the response personified in Halima’s Dec 20th post during a recent conversation at another blogger’s Facebook group, but I am still stunned/perplexed/incredulous at how deeply embedded that dysfunction chip is amongst some of you. I don’t consider myself uber-evolved by any means, but dang it haven’t we been discussing BASIC CORE PRINCIPLES OF SELF-RESPECT for about 4 years now? I think the last two years has been the Tipping Point! The behavior patterns are so obvious and have been displayed time and time again. When will some of you ladies learn? NEVER apparently. The contrast between those women who’ve prepared to leave the Matrix, have already left and who remain is astounding!
Just for the record, a male that tells you he’s not in a “relationship” but is “having sex with someone at the moment until I find the right woman” should not even be a remote possibility of someone to consider…for anything. For a host of reasons, not the least to protect YOU from being his next non-relationship sex partner amongst many other gullible women who are probably running around thinking their somebody’s girlfriend or worse KNOW they’re being used and have resigned to lower themselves into the gutter where that pathetic example of a male resides. But some women who are trolling, arguing against and participating in the BWE forums are still Flat Earth Theorists, Black Love Advocates, White Hegemony Fighters, and Grudge-Holders, Shoot the Messenger types sinking on the Black Community Titanic. Which is your choice. Those of us who think we’re clear had better widen a path for the exploding heads to follow.
WHO WE ARE
What do we want for our lives and do we want to see other women learning and growing? Will we be humble enough to heed solid advice? Will we be able to discern it? We don’t want to have to have these conversations AT ALL! We want all BW to be thriving and in ways that continually challenge and amaze us so we all raise the bar a little bit higher for each successive generation.
WHERE WE STAND
This is the end of the line. The last call for your life. There are other women and girls that would use the life-saving information offered amongst the BWE messaging immediately IF they had access to it and saw other women applying it. We do not have time to continue coddling those who’ve had weeks, months, years (?!) to get it together. While we have our own time-lines for our individual journeys it’s time to pick up the pace. Your house is ON FIRE! It’s time to get out unless you want to go up in flames. There’s no time to look back, watch it burn or run back in to get something. Do not attempt to put it out yourself and please don’t throw gasoline on it to make the flames go higher. GET AWAY QUICKLY. Save yourself! Or not.
Blog Posts To Review:
What posts did you find illuminating at Acts Of Faith this year?
Here are some of my personal favorites from 2010:
Thanks to all of the active participants, sister bloggers and readers. AOFB has grown 30% this year with to nearly one million visitors since its inception. I couldn’t do this without your continued support.
We’re going to move into 2011 with our heads held high and continued interpersonal growth. Be well everyone.