I’m having a poetic epiphany!
Between Questlove, Russell Simmons, Ashley Judd and now Lisa Price of Carol’s Daughter ganging up on black women, denying our heritage, telling us the only blacks are men and all the women are white, it seems the usual denigration has been kicked up a notch while they’re kicking us in the teeth.
You do realize this means we are “winning”, right?
The BWE message hasn’t even reached saturation point yet.
If you will take a lovely skip down Tumblr-ville you can find a plethora of blogs dedicated to celebrating the beauty of black women. BLACK women. These blogs weren’t even around a few months ago. We have fake-BWE bloggers now. The integrity of the message is up to you. The continued elevation of black women is up to you as well. In fact, more women are getting the message and taking the red pill to get out of the DBR-Matrix!
We’re reclaiming our W.O.M.A.N. Black woman-specific beauty. Not 1/16th of a snail’s head and donkey’s butt, or 2/34ths of purple, or any of the extreme stretches of DNA strains some black people are grabbing to differentiate themselves from you know, the “regular” and “plain” black folks. Er…I should say black WOMEN, since this is the core issue at hand: OUR DEVALUATION.
Don’t fall for the head fake out. They see the momentum and are trying to derail it. Keep your eyes on the prize!
Ashley Judd wrote a memoir where some media outlets decided t focus on her accurate analysis of hip-hop (c)rap music as promoting a rape culture and one that’s highly misogynistic. She left out the part where it was done by black males targeting black women. It caused a lot of brouhaha as those with an interest in either a) continuing to leech off black women b) who want to keep black women from using their power to their benefit converged to silence her.
Even in cases of white DBR rappers like Eminem – he focused on his ex-wife and messed with a few pop stars — not the entire collective of white women. White men will not allow that! That’s how David Letterman found himself on the wrong side of the 8-ball when he overstepped his criticism of Sarah Palin and dragged her daughters into the mix.
There is no such protection in place for black women when they’re relying on it to come from black men. Which is why the black community is dead. Which is why black women should be seeking their bliss elsewhere. This is why the push by AA black males to join in “Rainbow Coalitions” (so they can have access to non-black women and breed out) is so detrimental to black women. Our Coalition Partners do not want us (er them) anyway)!! They do, however want the resources generated by AA black women. Which brings us back to YOU.
Everyone has benefited from the labor, intellect and resources of the AA woman.
From chattel slavery, to Antebellum South, through Reconstruction, ambling through Jim Crow through Civil Rights and even TODAY. Foreign blacks even got to move here to the US en masse. I want to remind you all again how much we are valued, but we don’t wield our clout effectively. How much we are desired by other men, but we instead focus on the ones who don’t want us. How we are FREE to do as we wish, but we’re waiting for other people to tell us it’s okay to be healthy, happy and whole.
Don’t hold your breath – you’ll asphyxiate!
The Roots drummer, publicly spoke out against the slagging of an entire “industry” – even though that’s not what happened. I was waiting for the “white people do bad stuff too” argument. Like when people mention Charlie Sheen to justify Chris Brown. Why, it wouldn’t surprise me if one day R. Kelly made a public statement against Roman Polanski — something like “at least I didn’t drug my 13 year old”.
I’ve observed this particular fence-sitter who has been curiously silent about the clear examples of when the circumstances have applied. Readers may not be aware that out of his million ++ followers on Twitter he actually deigned to write to me once. This was after he recommended we follow another rapper whose profile photo showed a naked white woman’s buttocks – well naked except for the butt floss thong. It was a large enough t-shirt — or the guy’s girth was anyway — that you could see it clearly even from a thumbnail photo. Mind you this was 2009 when I still thought I could have logical conversations with black males about their misogyny because I figured a successful intellectual conversation would surely convince someone to change the error of their ways? If they knew how they were hurting black women surely they’d stop, right? Yeah…I was a sucker! That’s when I realized the true nature of a DBR and how it isn’t tied to class, education or temperament.
Long story short, I was repulsed and asked why he’d recommend such a person. The “artiste” in question didn’t understand why I was offended and his friend summed it up rather succinctly,“She doesn’t want to be objectified.” Wow, such clarity was a shock to me. The players may change, but the game remains the same.
From the surge in teen sex trafficking in Oakland and countless other horror stories we can exchange involving black girls or the depraved behavior of DBR black males, it’s a never-ending merry-go-round. I don’t want to focus on this — but a famous member of a rap group could certainly bring to light some of the home-grown atrocities facing women who are likely to be fans of and supporters of their music. Yet, the only thing that got him to lumber out of his cave was to silence a famous white woman who brought some much-needed attention to things we are already aware of at this forum? Hmm….
The fact that Judd immediately backpedaled by speaking with Simmons on his Global
Slime Grind site did. not. surprise. me. one. bit. Imagine this scenario as her potential thought-process: Simmons is her “friend” — as much as more famous/wealthier black males are wont to access lighter, brighter, whiter women — because they can. She’s not getting any younger and should her marriage ever go south she needs to maintain a fallback position. She could gain 100lbs and be toothless and still find a black male who will see her white skin as a premium. Not to mention the fact, there are plenty of dysfunctional-black male identified black women who will side with random black males over anything, cutting their own throats — and yours – in the process! So it was a bit of C.Y.A. I don’t blame her really.
The situation with Carol’s Daughter is a little different (but not really). The line of hair care products was started by an AA woman for black women. The company’s latest campaign is featuring women – some of whom I thought were black yet are apparently racial ninjas or genetic hybrids and have been approximating themselves as black women (AA) right under our noses! Replicants must be terminated….
By the way, I have Cherokee heritage on both sides of my family – my maternal and paternal great-grandmothers were. Unlike some African-Americans who leap at the chance to be the “other black” I could really care less. Why? I’m not Native American. Not to mention the fact that the Cherokee Nation has forcibly removed AAs from their tribal rolls for the past two decades — but not white Americans. They’re not the only tribe that’s doing this. Update: Reader GoddessM wrote about the Freedman disbarment.
I know a young woman who is Seminole and AA and she’s complained bitterly about the foul treatment she gets when applying for any benefits. They don’t want her getting anything! Her mother is “100%” Native American so she is legally entitled to receive whatever scholarships and assistance available. Black people had better wake up and get real. Their desire for splintering and being the “other black” puts them in a no-man’s land of ever-dwindling resources.
Besides, what’s wrong with being “just” black? We already know most of us are not 100% as our ancestors intermingled with whites [by the way neither are they]. Those who are more recently biracial [with a parent of differing races, possibly a grandparent] are not special. It’s some blacks who’ve placed a premium on that construct as they adopted the racist thinking of whites — who were protecting their land and resources from all the children white males had produced with black women during slavery.
Why is the expression of racial and ethnic pride such an albatross — for some black(ish) people? When I wrote about Paula Patton discussing why she rejected the “light-skin privilege” blacks wanted to bestow on her and how she refers to herself as black – not “biracial” one of my readers expressed her displeasure. As I stated in that post, anyone who can use certain privileges that were given to them at our expense (but doesn’t) should be considered an ally. She didn’t like the idea of Patton being labeled “just” black as she put it. This reader is an AA woman married to a white man. I asked her if she was going to apply her stringent categorization to her children. I don’t think she had considered that aspect because she suddenly declared she wasn’t certain she’d have biological children. This is something AA women in particular DO need to think about. The random checking off of any categorization on the Census has repercussions beyond that moment. The allowance of anyone to call themselves black is something else we have to think about it. Likewise, rejecting people who could chose to “other” themselves but don’t should not be discouraged.
We’ve got enough “regular” black folks who want to be anything and everything but black. Here’s another scenario that has caused me stomach flips. One esteemed BWE blogger who has been using the term PAB [Passing As Black]. While I think everything that needed to be said was covered at Sojourner’s Passport I have something else to add.
When I see PAB I don’t read it as —
Passing As Black as intended by Evia. I see —
Passing As Black
Imagine a white person saying because they want to reject the racial prejudice and other distasteful behavior of their family (or the white collective) they are now Passing As White — but they’re doing it to distinguish themselves from any random white person we might see while retaining their ethnic pride. It sounds a bit ridiculous doesn’t it? Since this is something that is self-defined and part of an identity or outlook to be determined by individual black/black(ish) women you can already see the problems that will emerge from the bastardization of a highly flawed, albeit somewhat sophisticated concept. The same way the use of the term “Alpha” male has been misused and misunderstood and a host of other core concepts, meant to be suggested as alternatives to the damaged thinking from dysfunctional blacks that’s been particularly reinforced and forced onto AA and other black women.
This is how stepping stones become stumbling blocks.
I also do not subscribe to the thought that AA heritage is solely or mostly one of pain [porn] and do not wallow in it. Just because some black people want to “other” themselves, some black people hate being black, some black people eat and promote dysfunction 24/7 doesn’t mean YOU [or I] have to.That’s why I advocate you separate yourselves from toxic residential areas and people. It was always about the mentality..not blackness.
I write the African-American Women Legacy Series Spotlight for this very reason. We have MUCH to be proud of. There have always been knuckle-heads and they’re not likely to go away. We already know the collective has been dragged into the gutter. How much more important it is that we promote our historic contributions. I have to say I am surprised that those women who’ve long escaped or were never-ensnared by the denigration traps that take out so many of us would be that bothered by the behavior of others that such measures are really necessary.
We can still pursue our hopes and dreams with our heritage and sanity intact. Don’t support those who reject and denigrate you. Later for the haters!
The whole point is FREEDOM OF CHOICE DEPLOYED WITH WISDOM. Are you exercising yours and thinking in terms of building generational dominance for your family and positioning yourself to build one if not? We are so on the verge of a major breakthrough that will be a tide that lifts many black women out of cesspools. Let’s keep moving forward.