This Is What Men Protecting Women Looks Like

For those of you still holding out with hope for a golden age of improved relations between black men and women. For those who think if they protest for years on end something will change. For those who want their care, concern, activism or attempts at changing how other people behave to work. You can’t shake your fist, react emotionally or expect all attempts at pushing a mountain will get it to move by your efforts alone. Stop spinning your wheels!

To the Marie Antoinettes, Single Issue Protestors, Faux Progressives, Professional ‘Feminists’ and Anti-Rape Opportunists  who selectively pursue “justice” – those chickens will continue to roost. Misdirecting your ire at so-called elites, pundits, conservatives, or whomever does not absolve you of your responsibility for carrying dead weight and maintaining caustic people, places and practices – let alone recruiting others to do so. From Dunbar Village to Delhi to Steubenville and back.

There is a solution.

Total accountability for men by men who actually give a d*mn.

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Womanly Words Of Wisdom: Zooey Deschanel

Being tender and open is beautiful. As a woman, I feel continually shhh’ed. Too sensitive. Too mushy. Too wishy washy. Blah blah. Don’t let someone steal your tenderness.

Don’t allow the coldness and fear of others to tarnish your perfectly vulnerable beating heart. Nothing is more powerful than allowing yourself to truly be affected by things.

Whether it’s a song, a stranger, a mountain, a rain drop, a tea kettle, an article, a sentence, a footstep, feel it all – look around you.

All of this is for you. Take it and have gratitude. Give it and feel love.

Here’s A Few Curated Tumblr Blogs Giving Kudos To Black Women

Tumblr users tend to use lots of gifs, animated media freeze-framed into clips. Someone will get a movie clip and write the dialogue or get a moveable screen-shot of a reaction and loop it. They’re using imagery, not just commentary to get the message across. It’s good to have both. I don’t recall these blogs in existence two years ago.

As further evidence of the lasting success of authentic empowerment, I’ve observed an explosion of sites dedicated to healthy representation of relationships, advocacy with the necessary internal transformative work being discussed, tributes to darker-complexioned black women, fun travel sites, health & fitness, beautiful photo sites, fashion and a peek into different cultures.

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The Sheer Joy Of Good Coffee!

Yes, there is an art and a science to roasting and brewing coffee. Think of it as the other end of the geek/nerd spectrum. If you’ve had the pleasure of understanding the origins and preparation of coffee beans into a cup, then you’ve experienced pure bliss. Did you know the color of your mug enhances the taste of what you drink? Orange or cream is the best.

Reciprocity 101

True empowerment requires a commitment to self, authenticity and being responsible for the people, places and practices you support. No one does anything for you that you won’t do for yourself. Don’t leave the heavy lifting only to others in situations where you’ve benefited from the actions of others. Don’t keep vital information to yourself.

Correctly identifying allies and opportunities is key.

In case you want to trip down memory lane, watch Miss Jackson after the jump.

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Inspirational Quotes Series: Eckhart Tolle #2

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Once you have identified with some form of negativity, you do not want to let go, and on a deeply unconscious level, you do not want positive change. It would threaten your identity as a depressed, angry, or hard-done by person. You will then ignore, deny, or sabotage the positive in your life. This is a common phenomenon.

It is also insane.

– Eckhart Tolle

This Is What Defending Your Daughter’s Black Beauty Looks Like

Let us review this sepia brown-skinned young woman’s fight to self-acceptance. Fruit from the poisonous tree sewn from unexamined, escalating black-on-black hatred is ruinous. Not everyone will survive. She is within her rights to only focus on her protection, because of the intra-racial politics women her complexion and appearance do bear the brunt of erasure and demonizing from other blacks.

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