Do You Enjoy Being A “Girl”?

Reading Melina’s work on deploying womanly arts has truly transformed my life. My journey began with her blog, “The Art Of Being Feminine” and continues with her premium site “Feminissima“. To say it was an eye-opener is an understatement. Where some women may be offended (???), I see the promise of a return to what makes us unique and powerful. It takes confidence to rely on our instincts and not let societal pressures, external agendas or inner doubts override what we know to be inherently true about ourselves.

Black women in particular have been maligned or bought into a distorted outlook of themselves. We need to stop being martyrs and fulfill our destinies. Every woman as an individual has her own particular set of strengths she should become familiar with and utilize.

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What We Can Learn About Friendship From Jane Eyre

Good grief the Brontë sisters know how to write tales of wanting, loneliness and dra-a-a-ma. And triumph. Jane is orphaned, mistreated, cast off, mistreated some more, falls in love, mistreated some more, wanders the moors and nearly dies and then becomes an heiress! Rochester is a bit of a letch in my opinion – despite the 4th quarter plot twist to redeem him which is what makes it such a compelling novel.

She didn’t compromise her values despite all sorts of pressure that would’ve broken most people, let alone a woman from that time. Indeed, Jane Eyre was ahead of her time with so many admirable qualities we can draw from as modern women. She wanted to define herself separate from societal captions but maintained compassion and character. She has endured many experiences similar to the Cinderella mythology. I don’t want to give away any more specifics of the book plot, but in case you’ve never read it you’re missing out.

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In Case You Want SOTU Info

Extra post alert! Since I said we’d be covering more politically-oriented fare (even as the personal life-affirming choices we make may seem political to some), I wanted to remind any interested readers the first State of the Union address from President Obama in 2012 is scheduled to air tonight at 9PM EST.

This is an election year and it’s imperative to think and act strategically. As always we must use discernment when taking in messages. We can weigh whether our support yielded results and how certain relationships have benefited us.

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Proving You Can Do It Too: A Reader Recaps Her Trip To Spain With VaughanTown

Reader C.O. answered the call of travel and participated in the VaughanTown program. This is a two-week volunteer exchange pairing native English speakers from around the world with business professionals from Spain who want to improve their language skills.

In March 2011, I wrote the post Teach & Travel In Spain With VaughanTown and am so pleased a reader participated. I love reading about women who think expansively and take opportunities to meet new people – and yes, I’m ESPECIALLY pleased it was a sista!  C.O. very graciously sent me some photos, which I’m sharing here.

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Progress Or Sabotage: Haywire and Underworld 4 Get Same Day Release

When I saw the trailer for Haywire, about a female assassin I immediately perked up. I found the original Underworld to be a fresh take on the vampire meme. Plus, I loved the gothic architecture in the background. When I discovered they filmed location shots in Budapest I’ve wanted to go to Hungary ever since.  I wonder if action or science fiction movies with a woman as the lead protagonist will become the latest cool trend like paranormal romance novels are for book publishing. There’s clearly been ongoing interest by audiences for these types of stories.

There have been other films where women led the story like the Lara Croft and Resident Evil franchises. Hollywood even threw us black girls a bone with Sanaa Lathan starring in Alien v. Predator way back in 2004. While these films may have been profitable, Angelina Jolie and Milla Jovovich have hearty careers (esp. Jolie) they were made for the mental capacity of 12 year-olds. 

And while Salt (originally written with Tom Cruise in mind which also starred Jolie) was a much meatier film I’m still waiting for one that has enough gravitas. I may have urged folks to see Colombiana, but a film about a woman seeking vengeance whose family were essentially criminals is not exactly the best message.

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Clooney & Davis Cover Entertainment Weekly: This Girl Dreams Of A Real-Life Courting

My jaw hit the floor when I spotted George and Viola frolicking on the January 13th cover of EW. It was just so unexpected. They look like they’re having so much fun and it got me thinking about future possibilities. Apparently they’re friends!

While I’ve made no secret I abhor movies like “The Help” and the desperate black actresses who accepted such demeaning roles should be tarred and feathered, I am pleased as punch by that cover for it shows endless possibilities. The accompanying interview was very telling.

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My Dream For You: Reflections on MLK Day

The timing of this post fell very nicely in with MLK Day, which I’ve often thought should’ve been dedicated to Coretta Scott as well because Martin would not have been able to have the impact he did without the stability from being with her, where she sometimes got the short end short end of the stick. I’m trying to be generous here. We know how sexist men were back then (and now).

I haven’t written an MLK-related post since the blog began, but as a few people are celebrating I thought this would be a good time to tie this in with BWE of course. One of my most important posts close to my heart acknowledges the sacrifices of African-American women and how they helped secure our futures by advocating for the passage of the Civil Rights Act.

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Inspirational Quotes Series: Eric Hoffer

The feeling of being harried is not usually the result of living a full life and having no time. It is, on the contrary, born of a vague fear that we are wasting our life. When we do not do the one thing we ought to do, we have no time for anything else – we are the busiest people in the world.

~~ Eric Hoffer

Hoffer wrote about the relationship with self-esteem and the impact of trying to live a full life in absence of it. He observed societal change and authored several books including, “Reflections On the Human Condition” and “The True Believer: Thoughts on the Nature of Mass Movements“.

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