“You look at our eyes,” Parris said. “You hear the pain in our voice. We have no reason to lie to (about) this man.“”I loved him,” Parris said. “I’m always going to have love for the things that he taught me. But how he left us hurt worse than anything I ever felt in my life.”“You finally have a father that you’ve always wanted for and always dreamed of,” Parris said. “He would just walk away from you if you don’t give him what he wants. So you end up turning into something you never thought you would be, which is now a slave to a man that you love.” “This man turned his back on us when he had no more need for us,” Parris said. “That’s not a father, that’s a predator.”WTF!!!!!!
I have to admit I had never heard of Eddie Long prior to last week. I don’t attend many churches because of the history of dogmatic religious rhetoric that isn’t always based on sound biblical application. The more I research the history of his behavior the more horrified I become.
This is a follow-up of sorts to the hackneyed response of quite a few entrenched obfuscators of the efforts initiated with No Wedding No Womb. There was a lot of attention generated. Now it has to be utilized as best it can. That depends on the focus of individuals. I expect to see a coordinated response by December from those who most vigorously disagreed with the means by which some of us sought to address the fatherlessness that has nearly saturated the black community with solutions of their own. This campaign was organized in about two months because the groundwork has been laid by many concerned black women who’ve discussed our mistreatment from Zora Neale Hurston to the BWE bloggers. If those objectionists are sincere in their desire to see change then they must follow through.
Another thing I observed was what I considered the free reign by which some of the opposition are allowed to sow seeds of confusion and deny the seriousness of this problem, but then again I am notoriously protective of the messages dispensed at this forum, who has access and how I respond. After nearly three years of being immersed in shifting awareness, watching motivations unfold and of course having differences of opinion setting boundaries is important when it comes to execution. As long as it works it doesn’t matter how things are implemented but messages can be as fragile as seeds planted in shallow dirt.
I and a score of other citizen activists and bloggers (of sometimes divergent interests) have come together in an initiative today to blow the lid off the explosion of out of wedlock child births in the African-American community in particular, the large never-married status and mass abandonment of black women and children. For regular readers of this blog you will likely be familiar with my previous posts where I’ve discussed how this pattern has become normalized and why it not only lacks tangible benefits but is in fact destructive.
This has been an ongoing topic of concern brought to light by a few key black women bloggers who seek to encourage other women to rethink the general consensus things are fine as is. These conversations have brought the ire of many but ignoring less than ideal circumstances don’t make them beneficial.
Today is your Emancipation Day! Please feel free to join in. Here’s my entry for No Wedding No Womb. Thanks to PR pro Christelyn Karazin for organizing this event, Lorraine Spencer for the great lyrics to the theme song and a special shout-out to the black male bloggers I approached who agreed to participate.
One of the benefits of attending the Gov 2.0 Summit two weeks ago was the opportunity to meet entrepreneurs as well as government officials, journalists and civic advocates while covering the event for my Examiner column. I’ve included a modified version of that article here for the blogging audience. I had the wonderful opportunity to interview staff from the GSA, USDA and CPSC. I also met with a team member from a start-up to discuss the following initiatives:
Today’s African-American women are loyal to their detriment and ready with all sorts of excuses to explain away abhorrent behavior in the black community and specifically with some black males as they internalize the stress and negativity from such associations.
There was a vocal contingent of a few outspoken women (serving as guard-dogs and soldiers) who were hell-bent on defending Kanye West by denigrating Taylor Swift while discussing the Video Music Award show that aired on MTV this past weekend (via Twitter). Likewise some were vehemently opposed to any criticism or accountability for Chris Brown or R Kelly, going so far as to ignore key evidence and acquitting Kelly.
I believe there’s a play titled, “When A Woman’s Fed Up” and I think this applies very rarely but with certainty. I analyze these conversations to gauge what are the important conversations amongst a group of people who may share followers or feel the need to ReTweet (resend) the messages of others. It was that and people participating in a send-up of the Dave Chappelle skit “Racial Draft”. Humorous for sure but I found myself wishing that many people would come together to do something that would permanently uplift the collective (like participating in combating the rampant out of wedlock births via group initiatives like No Wedding No Womb).
It’s hard to remember but there was a time when we weren’t tethered to hand-held devices, PDAs and over-arching schedules. Each advance comes with its own set of positive and unanticipated consequences. With the advent of cable for example people were able to watch television independent from a network schedule. When VCR technology was introduced people could record shows without being home to watch them in real time. Speaking of which, years later the DVR allows us to pause live television. Using the internet we can meet like-minded people who share a variety of interests without being limited to the same geographical area.
Sometimes these advances can seem more like a burden as it becomes difficult to unplug and recharge. We also have to be careful about isolating from social interactions by missing out on regular in-person contact. Yet no one can deny the benefits of being able to have a live chat using Skype. So far we’re discussing our personal use of technology and time-keeping skills but how do we manage our work life?
I attended the Gov 2.0 Summit , co-produced by O’Reilly Media held in Washington, D.C. earlier this week. I was able to interview a few government staff and technology innovators and will post that series next week for my Examiner column. The purpose of Gov 2.0 as stated: “Our focus this year is on opening the door to innovation — learning about the latest technology and its application, and breaking down the barriers to its adoption.”
One of the ongoing conversations we have at this forum is being expansive in the ways we define ourselves and paying attention to emerging social and economic trends. I’m reminded of who is – and isn’t – staying connected and informed by the composition of participants for events such as these. We need to make sure we’re not being left behind!
The diet industry is a billion dollar market. Jenny Craig, Nutrisystem, Weight Watchers, Celebrity Fit Club, Slim Fast – take your pick. Even Special K cereal promotes weight loss. While the two entertainers are not personally battling each other it’s a marked study in contrast the campaigns initiated by their corporate bosses Weight Watchers and Jenny Craig respectively.
These companies use a host of celebrity endorsements to entice us regular folks to buy their products all in the vain hope we will achieve our fantasy life – which we’re led to believe solely lies in fitting into the smallest clothing sizes possible. It’s also an incentive to getting the “good” life we think others are living. It’s a Never-Never Land of pixie dust, being fed grapes and living on perpetual vacation where the day-to-day stresses of life don’t have to be navigated.
What would certain members of the white elite and political manipulators do if working class and poor whites figured out they were being played? Those Tea Party members might reconsider how easily they’re being manipulated into racially scapegoating others and recognize it’s a class battle they need to be organizing against. The Southern Strategy aka “Operation Scare White People” has been such an oft-used ploy to get them to work against their interests I wonder how can so many be led down a very familiar path time and time again?
Meanwhile Kevin Drum, as stated in his Mother Jones article, The Fate Of The Tea Parties suggests that the Tea Party is a fad stating —
We’ve seen similar conservative movements flower like clockwork during previous Democratic administrations, and they always burn themselves out after a few years. The tea party movement has ascended faster than its ancestors, partly because of lousy economic conditions and partly because of the power of modern media, and my guess is that their fall will be equally swift when it comes.
— I’m not as certain as he purports to be of their pending fade to obscurity. The damage left in their wake often lasts far beyond the sputtered agendas only to be reignited again. In this case the economic indicators may be far worse than what we are being led to believe as the more “radical” forecasters have been warning of a major collapse since 2005-2006 and a permanent shift where mere recovery won’t bring back the removal of a big chunk of the infrastructure.
In fact, The Institute For Policy Studies has published their latest annual Executive Excess report http://www.ips-dc.org/reports/executive_excess_2010 showing the spike in profit margins for CEOs of companies who get rid of large swaths of their employees. It pays to fire people!