“I’ve come to believe that each of us has a personal calling that’s as unique as a fingerprint—and that the best way to succeed is to discover what you love and then find a way to offer it to others in the form of service, working hard, and also allowing the energy of the universe to lead you.” — Oprah Winfrey
The wonderful thing about having opinions is the fact there are so many. I can find numerous viewpoints from people without having to agree with them on every single point. I’ve stated this previously but running an effective forum while still setting boundaries does not guarantee comfort or popularity — for the forum host or reader. I do appreciate all of you who have joined in on or are continuing this journey.
I want to loosen things up a bit while still staying true to the core message, so we’ll see how this goes. Some long term bloggers participate in various memes for that reason. I used to post classic R&B songs as part of Old School Fridays but the blog hosts who started that ran out of steam at some point. It was fun and one of the things that tied several blogs who were members of the then-burgeoning Afrosphere.
I’m not giving away anything of significance and thought it would be cool to mix things up a bit. Since I am not likely to ever do this again…take notes (haha).
#1. George Michael named an entire album (yes, album hello I‘m old school) after me. Yes, me personally. Ya’ll just don’t know who I know in real life see. He was still dating women back then (maybe) and when he sang how he had to have Faith, he was referring to me in all my lusciousness. [Psych!] But you know that song was used as a pick-up line by numerous men which always made me want to gag!
#2. I almost became “The Help” for a very wealthy and prominent family in NYC. I’m not naming names, but suffice it to say they have an entire department of a major university named after them. Let’s just say I was exploring all of my options and stumbled into this scenario. Let’s just say when I went to their 5th Avenue mansion I would’ve sworn the wall paper wasn’t just gold-toned but actually spun with gold. Let’s just say I found the whole idea of never being allowed to be alone with my potential charge and the fact we’d have a bodyguard assigned to us 24/7 was not only intimidating but felt extremely restrictive considering all the personal freedom I had as a child to explore. Somehow the money disparity between my life and that child’s didn’t seem like such a good payoff. On the other hand, the opportunities they’d automatically receive in life were nothing to dismiss either. It was simply not my world. Then, I thought perhaps I was going in the wrong direction career-wise by even considering that detour. Life is full of many options. I’ll never know because the screeners expressed immediate interest but I walked away.
#3. I am left-handed and at some point I was ambidextrous. Somewhere around the age of 8 or 9 my mother saw me writing at the kitchen table and asked when I began using my left hand. I was of course perplexed. Hadn’t I always used my left hand? Apparently not! I must have been one of the last Catholic school students who had been steered towards using my right hand though I clearly favored the opposite and automatically switched. I wish I had known!!!
#4. I like crunchy, salty, savory and sweet things preferably all at once. Like wasabi peas and chocolate (55%+). I also prefer my veggies or salad be on a separate plate from my meat.
#5. I am very particular about neatness, order and symmetry. I then learned there was an entire system devised to it’s study and practice. Feng Shui. Then I didn’t feel like a freak anymore.
#6. I was once a bit of an “It” Girl in NYC (see my 80-90’s post about the Michael Alig parties) AND in Los Angeles, but for entirely different reasons. In Los Angeles I was known for a brief time for:
Co-Starring in a psychic informercial with Billy Dee Williams
Yeah…let it sink it. Me. And. Lando Calrissian.
(insert long round of laughter here)
Anyway….this was post-Psychic Friends but pre-Miss Cleo.
(insert another long round of laughter here)
#7. I once won a radio station contest to meet Depeche Mode. I could not get the signal for the station at home so I had to go to my part-time job and park myself in the office an entire weekend so I could call in. And hey..it paid off. Thank goodness I had keys!! You’d think I would’ve just shut up and smiled when I met them, right? Well…Dave was in the midst of his then-unknown drug problem and I didn’t know Martin Gore was an incogNegro at the time. As my favorite member and chief songwriter though I had to ask him about some of the more salient (to me at that time) lyrics [Master & Servant for example]. He asked me if I was a Christian and it made me feel “dirty”. Dirtier than the bondage lyrics, eh! I remember wondering how that had happened. Of course I’m older, wiser and less legalistic/puritanical so I understand his point – now. I actually lectured Martin Gore on his lyrics. And yes…I cringe at the idea. I mean compared to other genres and the garbage spewed via (c)Rap “music” DM was nothing. In fact, the reason why I paid so much attention to their lyrics was because they were so thought-provoking. I had zero filter back then. And sometimes now….(haha).
#8. I once turned down a professional baller. Of course that would seem like the obvious choice today given what we discuss here at this forum, but we met when I was 19 and he’d only been in the NFL for 1-2 years. He had Southern charm for days and was very attractive but the fact that he introduced himself by name and “I play X position for the Giants” in one sentence was an immediate turn-off. I just wasn’t able to specifically articulate that at the time because I’d had limited dating experience. I remember asking him what else he was planning on doing with his life and he looked surprised by the question. I don’t think he had even considered it. My greater point for mentioning this is that we often have our instincts pointed in the right direction but we override common sense by letting in outside influencers.
#9. Tori Amos referred to me as a “wonderful mocha presence” when I met her in London. Anyone else saying that would be weird but such a phrase coming from her makes total sense. It’s too long of a story to explain how it happened and honestly to this day it still makes no logical sense. I’ve been to dozens of shows and never had a member of her staff approach me but for whatever reason this time was the charm. She gave me some wonderful advice as well for which I will always be grateful.
#10. I have watched Sex and the City so many times – the original series and the edited for regular tv versions that I can not only tell where they cut it, but what lines were overdubbed. Although I have huge issues with the show’s portrayal of women, exclusion of other women’s perspectives and never bought into the “we can have sex like men” mantra, I always enjoyed the friendship between the women. I can now recite most of the dialogue verbatim. If you were one of those fans of the Rocky Horror Picture Show movie who participated in the full live show experience where you did the dance, bought popcorn, had a newspaper and said “dammit Janet” a lot, then you’ll know exactly what I mean. Maybe I should’ve just let it be about Rocky. I used to go the the 8th Street Playhouse every weekend back in the day….
Well….I think that was plenty. I can still do the Time Warp dance, too.
What things about you would surprise someone?