Broke Bums Ain't Cute

I want to use a few examples from recent media chatter to discuss the perils of women giving men passes for EVERYTHING!!! Men do NOT settle! Men go after jobs and partners they don’t deserve and are unqualified for ALL THE TIME. Extreme social conditioning amongst dysfunctional blacks browbeat black women into accepting crumbs and thinking it’s a meal. Enough!

Brookings Institution study on black women marrying down [they’re mostly focused on black male partners].

There is a growing trend in the United States towards assortative mating — a clunky phrase that refers to people’s tendency to choose spouses with similar educational attainment.

A media storm erupted in the Spring of 2013 when a Princeton alum, Susan A. Patton, president of the class of ‘77, offered the following advice to female students: “Here’s what nobody is telling you: Find a husband on campus before you graduate.” Writing in The Daily Princetonian, Patton went on: “You will never again be surrounded by this concentration of men who are worthy of you.”

One implication of assortative mating is greater household income inequality, since education is a strong — and strengthening — predictor of earnings. Households with two college graduates multiply that earnings power by two and are doing much better than households with less-educated couples.

Race is a factor in patterns of assortative mating. Black women face more difficult “marriage markets” than white women, given current rates of intermarriage according to work from University of Maryland sociologist Philip N. Cohen. Black women have the lowest rates of “marrying out” across race lines, in part because of racist attitudes [My reply: it’s the result of strict social conditioning amongst African Americans in particular] to inter-marriage.

One of the reasons I skip over a lot of these black people gossip story items is because people almost always are acting foolishly. I saw on my feeds that actress Tia Mowry-Hardrict had posted some “stay away from my man” nonsense to actress Keke Palmer ON TWITTER of all places and then deleted it. Palmer recently completed a project with Tia’s husband, actor Cory Hardrict.

Here’s Keke’s interview on Wendy Williams were she discusses her career, current project and clarifies the matter. She’s very bubbly and friendly, though likely nervous because she was talking fast at elevated levels.

 

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Let's Remind Women Of Their Economic Clout: Put A Nice Black Lady On The $20

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Great news!

Women On 20s wants an esteemed woman on paper currency, starting with a newly-issued $20 bill. It ties into the anniversary of the 19th Amendment giving women the right to vote. While there are certain undeniable hiccups with the implementation and timeline of that legislation working for all women, it would be unwise to allow semantics to deter overall social progress. There is no utopia.

We believe this simple, symbolic and long-overdue change could be an important stepping stone for other initiatives promoting gender equality. Our money does say something about us, about what we value. So together let’s make our money egalitarian, inclusive and an affirmation of American values!

The final four candidates are as follows:

While all of the women being considered have made valuable contributions to society – some more widely known than others – Harriet Tubman would set a nice precedence in my opinion. So go vote!!! And the great thing is, any future changes to paper currency or even coins can continue. This campaign may have you fired up…..or leave you disinterested, but cultural shifts often start small and gain traction in other areas.

Apparently, The Root thinks this campaign is offensive enough to publish an article disowning it.

Yeah….I don’t get it either……

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Womanly Words Of Wisdom Series: Barrie Davenport

At its core real confidence is about embracing your true self and learning to love that self while continuing to improve upon it.

- Barrie Davenport

Evaluating Men For Alliances & Marriage Series #19: Give The Dude Enough Rope To Hang Himself

I’m so sad I missed this bit o’ schadenfreude in real time, but thanks to the internet there’s at least a partial archive!

Here’s the curious case of a DudeBro and his girlfriend. Dude claims his girlfriend is not especially attractive compared to the “hot” gals he can find at an online fetish website. He wants them to “try” an open relationship!!

If your sideye is already twitching the way mine was when I spotted this curious attempt at woman juggling/man-sharing messiness, then let’s proceed to the end of this sordid tale with a quickness!

DudeBro wouldn’t directly break up with his girlfriend because:

a) he’s lazy, manipulative and probably figured he could string her along for non-committed interim sex

b) he wanted HER to end things so he could avoid any responsibility for negative emotional fall-out by claiming he “tried” to work with her…..

He admits the relationship was great emotionally BUT he’s online looking at “women” on various websites and gets the idea that he’s missing out on all the supermodels he could be dating and blow up dolls he can play with – if not for that pesky girlfriend expecting his loyalty.

So, he presents his girlfriend with an ultimatum to give into his demands or break up. She’s obvious upset, but agrees to his hijacking and disrespect and like a good little trooper ALSO signs up for this fetish website. Supposedly they have rules in place and inform others of their “arrangement” and DudeBro is excited about his future of endless babes with a backup wifey.

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Watch What Happens When These Boys Are Told To Hit A Girl!

Don’t be surprised if you shed a tear or two. See how far home training and society goes in training males whether to be respectful towards women and girls — or not.

Gratitude and Mindfulness Goes A Long Way

Womanly Words Of Wisdom Series: Judith Jamison

I was put here for greatness and I went after that greatness with force.

Excellence makes my skin color secondary.

Judith Jamison

Inspirational Quotes Series: Thich Nhat Hanh #2

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“Hope is important because it can make the present moment less difficult to bear. If we believe that tomorrow will be better, we can bear a hardship today.”

Can You Approach The World Today With The Innocence Of A Child?

Whenever You Need A Boost Just Look At A Little Girl Being Great

In Honor Of New York And London Fashion Week: Recognizing & Affirming Our Beauty

I missed Tedx talk when pioneering black beauty blogger Afrobella first spoke. Lately, I’ve been inspired to do a complete overhaul of my wardrobe. I have to take a moment to recognize the joys and pitfalls of online shopping when you can’t find styles that suit your tastes. The same can be said for online dating! I’ve also been feeling frustrated by what I see when I look in the mirror because I want photo-shopped perfection. I had lost a good amount of weight three years ago by severely restricting my caloric intake and only eating certain foods. When I hit a plateau, the scale would not budge and my narrow lane of food intake rebelled against my foodie-loving tendencies.  Lifestyle choices take time, so I’ve had to readjust my expectations and call a truce with myself even while eyeing a goal.

I’m the type of person who falls into an over-analyzing abyss and has to silence a harsh inner critic. I’ve recently experienced a break-through in terms of my outlook. While, it is true we need to be healthier and keep ourselves in proportion, telling yourself everything about your existence is “wrong” until you achieve certain goals is not the way to be “right”. The journey is just that…a journey. Not a sprint. Not a click your heels and throw some pixie dust jaunt without taking that mile-long trip to discovering you.

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